Should I be friendly and helpful to my girlfriend's best girl friend? Or could that feel like cheating?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean just saying hi and being friendly like with a stranger, but rather friendly like with my own best friend.

Not long ago, my girlfriend invited her BFF to hang out with us and to go to a show we had tickets to. But her girl friend doesn't live far away from me, so I offered to go pick her up before going to meet with my girlfriend, so that she wouldn't have to come alone at night with a bus or an Uber. I felt like if she is my girlfriend's friend, she is also my friend, so it felt right to offer to myself to drive her to the meet up. Of course, I didn't call her myself, I asked my girlfriend to ask her if she wouldn't want me to pick her up. But after this, my girlfriend said that she felt really off and jealous about letting me go pick up her friend, because she could have come by herself...

Another time, my girlfriend went out with her friend and it started raining, so she called me to come pick her up. We had to walk to the car, because I couldn't find any parking nearby, so I brought an extra umbrella for her friend and some gloves, since it was also very cold outside. She refused both, but the fact that I also thought about her, seemed to really bother my girlfriend. I also wanted to propose to drive her home, since it was heavily raining, but my girlfriend stopped me, saying that she can get home just fine by bus.

Is my girlfriend right that my friendliness acts seem too much like I am hitting on my girlfriend's best friend? Or is it normal to be this friendly, to ask her if I could be of any help?

by the way, my girlfriend's best friend also has a boyfriend, but he didn't want to come with us, nor did he offer himself to pick her up.

I was also thinking, for when we would meet again in the future, to also bring a chocolate, or something to eat, not only for my girlfriend, but also for her best friend (if she continues to come without her boyfriend). Would that be too much?

[RavVid]

It is good that your girlfriend's girl friend likes you. It can be highly beneficial to your relationship cause inevitably there will be disagreement between you and girlfriend and if girl friend is saying you are a good guy it helps.

If girlfriend girl friend is single, it can become like you are an ersatz boyfriend; nothing sexual but still boyfriend like. I quite like this mini-tribe situation. But as soon as there is a guy in her scene you have to let go. She starts asking his opinion not yours and it can hurt a bit.

I think you shouldn't go too over board. If you are buying your girlfriend then it is reasonably to other her the same but coming with treats might be a tad over the line.

Since girlfriend girl friend has a boyfriend you need to not intrude on his rights. Dropping her off shouldn't be a problem but you don't want resentment coming from him and you should try to build a relationship with him.

A close couple couple friendship is ideal.

[Crankor]

Its not really a good idea in my opinion. You risk either yourself or her having feelings for the other and once that happens, you put yourself at risk if you and your current girlfriend get into a fight or ignore a problem. The tendency is to start discussing personal matters with the other girl which builds unwanted emotions that could shift your attention where it shouldn't be at that point in time. Its fine to be friends but I wouldn't continually hang out with her alone. I ask myself isn't that considered a date? Whether or not the intention is there as it being that, the results end up being the same for at least one of you. That what most people dont seem to understand. Shit happens whether you plan on it happening or not so its better to just not put yourself in that type of situation where you end up lying to yourself that it will only be just friends.

[Asker]

I never went out with my girlfriend's friend, it was always the 3 of us at the same time. The only time when I was alone with her was for about 10 minutes, when I was driving to meet with my girlfriend.

[Crankor]

That's perfectly fine

[Nikki1989]

That is NOT and never is cheating.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of love and friendship! 🌟 Finding the right balance when interacting with your girlfriend's bestie can definitely feel like walking a tightrope, can't it? You're aiming to be the ultimate gentleman, ensuring everyone's comfortable and well-cared-for. But, my friend, perception is key. While your gestures are sweet, they might raise a red flag for your girlfriend. Your girlfriend loves a bit of exclusivity, so maybe ease up on extending chocolates and umbrella services. Acknowledge your girlfriend's feelings and reassure her she’s your number one. You got this! 😘

[gottogames313gotag]

no dude, that can lead to cheating , best to stay away from it if u truly love ur partner

[Asker]

Did I cross the line with what I already did? Is it not normal to be friendly to this extent?

[Anonymous]

Being friendly is not cheating.