Is it true that you never really get over losses - whether it’s a death of a close relative/friend or a breakup/divorce?

[Anonymous]

People say you never really get over it and you just adjust.

It’s true

False

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s true to a certain degree. Grief finds you in ways you don’t expect, and your life never really completely goes “back to normal” but you can live a normal life. But there will be days where it hits you harder than you expect. Like maybe a couple years after my stepfather’s funeral, I was using the garbage disposal in my sink, which he installed for me. I remember thinking that, and then thinking “He’ll never be able to help me with stuff like this again.” And then I just got really sad and needed to take a minute.

[Sunrising]

In my case your question is not true.

I've lost people close to me, and I've been very upset for a time afterwards, knowing I'll never see them again in this world.

I keep myself occupied especially initially, with interesting visits to keep my mind of thinking about them, and life gradually goes back to normal.

I will always come across situations in life that remind me of them, Birthday's and other occasions, and I feel sad when I visit their grave etc.

I've got over my loss, and we should look to the future, not the past.

That is life, people pass away, and we have to move on.

Their life has ended, but we still have our lives to live.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I don’t think we ever ‘get over’ certain losses.

We just grow around them.

Some people leave marks that stay with us, but the pain eventually softens and becomes part of how we understand life, love, and ourselves.

[jahaims]

You just get a higher pain tolerance.