What's your stance on remaining friends with an ex? Is it a sign of maturity or a major red flag for a new partner?

[HawkPerception]

Sign of maturity

Major red flag

[DishLady]

in my opinion it’s a red flag. If you’re still going to be friends you’re not really allowing the door to be open to someone new. You’ll compare (or your EX will compare) and this will mess things up.

[HawkPerception]

Completely agree

[PeachyPie93]

I don't know.. being friendly with an ex is fine but still hanging out with them seems unnecessary.. I just wouldn't trust my partner being close with someone they used to bang..

[Summeroflove]

It simply depends on the relationship and the people involved. Some people simply are not compatible for a relationship but they ended things on good terms and do make good friends. Maybe they have a lot of things in common and genuinely enjoy spending time together. But… Maybe they want different things when it comes to marriage roles, having kids, etc.

I would say however if there is still romantic and/or sexual feelings. If there is still flirting and romantic talks maybe even sexual activities while both persons are in relationships that definitely is a major problem.

Some people remain friends for the wrong reasons. Maybe they know they can’t make it as a couple but still have feelings for one another. Intentions matter.

[Simslover92]

It can work and be a sign of maturity especially if you don't see them that often and only really talk to them over the phone like me and my ex do. I will admit it took a while to get to that point of seeing him only as a friend, but now that I'm there, I definitely am for exes remaining friends if it ended amicably and no one has feelings for each other anymore. I feel like you don't need to end a friendship just because you were in a relationship with them if it wasn't toxic. The more friends you have, the better is my motto. Friends are hard to come by the older you get, so keeping them as a friend is definitely more beneficial than letting them go completely.

[Crimsyjo]

I think sign of maturity. If two people can accept things didn't work out and remain civil about it. But mostly "friendship" is only necessary if you have to see eachother - so you either have kids together, work at same place or have mutual friends.

Otherwise it IS a bit of a red flag I think... I mean. It could be innocent, but it is going to be alarming for a new partner so it's good your not at each other's throat but too weird if you hang out and stuff without one of the above reasons.

[MannMitAntworten]

Maturity? That is the justification for those Who continue to hold out hope that they will come around. There is zero mature about this and it isn’t doing the next person to come around any favors either.

[HawkPerception]

Agreed. Well said.

[Dina88]

They're just in case the current relationship doesn't work out, and that's what it tells me.

[ABC1x1x]

I wouldn't call it a sign of maturity becaus im not mature. I will always laugh at a fart, but if people pick awesome people why would they not be friends long after they are over having sex with them?

[queenofcardio]

I think it's a bad idea

[HawkPerception]

Agreed

[Ironco]

I'd say I'm friends with about 75% of my ex partners. It shows you are mature enough to move on and still be comfortable around one another. The other 25% want nothing to do with me, so be it...

[spartan55]

I would say neither but I don't get why you would do that.