Currently, I've been hanging out with my ex all the time. Don't get me wrong, we're just doing friendly things and I really enjoy it. Do you think this is wrong? Or maybe he doesn't think our hanging out is friendly?
u There are always exceptions to the general rules, but in general:
1. After a break up, quite often, one of the partners (the dumpee) didn't want a break up and is hoping for a reconciliation. They think that if they remain in friends mode, it will show their dedication and the other partner will "come to their senses." Remaining friends simply delays the resolution of their grief and subsequent moving forward.
2. The other partner (the dumper) feels some guilt or remorse about the break up and offering to stay in a platonic makes them feel less guilt because it is "not a total break up." But maintaining a platonic relationship should be a red flag for any potential new partner who comes on the scene and a very real impediment to the dumper moving forward with a new relationship.
Carry this to the logical conclusion. When you start dating someone new, will your tell your ex all about it? Do you think he wants to hear about you spending the night with the new Mr. Wonderful? Will you invite your ex to the wedding? Or are you hoping that he'll eventually start pursuing a new girl and will drift away from you before too long?
It seems to me that people who do this aren't being honest with themselves about their motivations. And there may really be legitimate exceptions to these general rules but I suspect that everyone who reads this will think that THEY are the exception. All I can do is to put these ideas out there for you to ponder. . . if you have the courage to question yourself.
I remained friends with my first three exes when I was in my teens. I eventually lost touch with all but one. I'm still friends with my first girlfriend and we're Facebook friends. She's a happy grandma now.
The only woman (aside from my wife) that I truly loved was 30 when I was 36. We lived together for over a year. I loved her with my heart and soul and she loved me.
We had to separate for reasons that are complicated, but we remained friends.
We lost touch but she found me on Facebook 20 years later and we even spoke several times on the phone.
5 years later, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55.
I miss her terribly. I still love her and will never forget her. I treasure the time we had together.
Your last sentence is "the rub" as Shakespeare would say.
Are you hanging out with your ex because you haven't invested in getting to know other men? And do you have ulterior motives yourself? Have you spoken with him about his goals with you?
I'd want to have everything aboveboard. Is he in a relationship with a new woman? And why aren't you?
Something about this seems less than kosher on both your parts. If you're both ONLY spending all your free time with each other, how will you ever develop new love relationships? Something appears off with this.
That's not to say that some exes can be good friends. But why on earth are you two exes?
I am Best Friends with One of My Exes for Years and he is Also a Platonic Roomie and Business partner. Still part of My family. I have Another whom I had Married in Egypt and We are Still Friends on FB Only. My Most Current EX is an On and Off Again because I Broke up with Him and Hold resentment. But we are Civil Sometimes. lol!!! My Other Past EXES are No tin the Pix and We left on Good Notes. Depending on your Situation, It Is Fine either way. xxoo
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No, I have never done it first off. Reason being there is always this underlying sexual tense no matter how the relationship ended. Yes I know that I could not date here or be in a relationship with her, but i could and would still completely bang her again if she wanted to.
Which is funny, because of the picture you posted here... that totally what the entire TV series of How I Met your Mother was about.
I view my ex as wild parrot out in the wild. If I'm in a good mood I offer a pistachio when it looks hungry and if I'm in a bad mood, I run off.
Really depends on who you are and who they are as a person. For me, I tried it out, and it's very difficult. I think to myself "We both find each other attractive and we've already slept with each other many times before, so what's the issue sleeping with each other again?" I just don't understand the logic in chilling with someone you were with sexually before. The sexual tension will always exist. The only way to maintain any kind of ex-relationship is by texting, and my current partner isn't cool with me keeping in touch with my exes, which to be honest doesn't bother me, because our relationship before I got with my current partner, was strictly sending random Instagram memes. Such an awkward and unneeded relationship.
95% of time it’s a horrible idea. The rare 5% might work if neither one of you had real feelings when you first dated. But that’s rare.
However on the flip side many people believe it’s best to completely vaporize any connection with their ex regardless if somebody did something wrong or not. Pretend they didn’t ever exist and erase any memory of them whether good or bad. Blot them out.
That’s definitely the right way to handle it if there was legitimate real abuse (cheating, stealing, lying about major issues, physical abuse, etc). However that’s cruel and selfish to yourself and the other person if things just didn’t work out.
It is best to stay friendly with an ex but not friends. There is a difference.
It's better to keep them at distance. Not because you will fall in love with them again, but they start to talk shit about you to your common friends. Especially when they are drunk. "She came to the party to see me... she still loves me... it's her fault... why... why... why?".
Some people's ego won't accept reality no matter how obvious the reality is.
Can't say I haven't tried that and later it came back to haunt me so no thank you. They are an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend for a reason. So I rather move on with my life and not open that door of an nightmare anymore. Because either me or them will try to get back with each other at some point or make a mistake to regret later on.
But there are difrent kind of people out there so I guess whatever suits people.
I've never done it and can't find a reason to justify it. It isn't over if you're still talking. If you actually like a girl on a girl level... you're gay to begin with. I don't want to hear the excuses. Nobody likes girls shit. There is no common interest.
I think it all depends about the dynamic of the relationship? Did it end bad? Do you share children? Just because he’s your ex doesn’t mean we should automatically assume there’s a “sexual tension” unless he himself stated his wants and you did the same. I can hang out with my daughters father no problem, no tension, no desire, i actually built a relationship with his precious girlfriend and she’s now one of my closest friends.. Now my most recent ex… i couldn’t do this because there’s too many feelings involved and i’d be setting myself up for failure falling back into old patterns.
Well, it depends on the exes. I have one ex that was terrible to me and I avoided him and moved on with my life. Then there were a couple of other exes who were nice to me and I was in a bad place during those times. That sometimes I reach out to them, just to have a friend or someone to talk to. I’m not perfect and my heart is like a puzzle 🧩. That everyone is a memory to me that I cherish.
One of my sisters does this. She hang with them still, most of them. If you're both mature about it and openly engage in pursuing others while hanging out then it will sort itself out. If you're okay about it and he is too then it's better to not think about it.
I’ve done it. Our parents are friends and we tried it in high school. It was our first relationship so we didn’t know any better. We broke up but have remained really good friends! I tried to do that with my last boyfriend but his new girlfriend was trying to copy me. Try copying me know as I’m getting my a pilot license!
Nope I didn’t
It has to been done prudently and with caution because in the wake of such event, the relationship is either over for good; or, you and the other party may bond together again in a different fashion. But beyond a shadow of a doubt, there’s definitely no going back to the old ways of doing things ever again.
What I don't understand is how people can be against in general, regardless of how things ended etc. If things on good terms and both still get along well, why would they not stay friends? What's the problem? I know tons of people who are friends with at least one of their exes.
This is going to cause you problems with future partners because no man wants his girl hanging out with her ex and those that say they are okay with it are cowardly liars. Many guys will automatically put you into the "recreational use only" category for doing so, and they won't tell you.
All my exes were friends first, including my now wife. I haven’t seen them in a while. They all chose babies over hanging out and getting drunk with me. Quelle surprise.
But call it prudish or just my style of liking to know someone before getting intimate. Others are less shy, even doing one night stands. And thats cool. Just different is all.
It doesn't work.
I've done it and for like 2 months and I eventually cut it. It helps to somewhat ease the blow of a break up, but each day you're "friends", you're constantly resetting the time you should spend on moving on.
I have never remained friends with any of my exes.
Some years ago, one of my exes sent a friend request on social media and I accepted. Each year he wishes me a happy birthday on my birthday - that's the extent of our talking. 🙂
I have actually remained friends with all four of my exes, and have attended to two of their weddings, as they have done to mine.
It's really dependent on them. Just because you end a relationship doesn't mean you stop caring about them. But if it had to be ended because she was too toxic. Then I have to cut her off completely for my own protection. It's not that I stopped caring about her. Sometimes you have to just severe all ties with someone and wish them well.
I do it. But it's not healthy because deep inside your ex my just want you to be around to make sure you don't slip through their fingers. And make sure you don't do better than them in life.
u been that for almost 20 years now... no issues whatsoever
but, back then we were just 16... we've been friends for a much more longer time than we were an item, lol
It's a bad idea, if you actually can stay together you should be together. She will be in your way to get another partner. Your new partner will not like her presence.
I’m friends with my ex. In fact, he’s coming to visit me this weekend. We plan to have a small bbq (he’s cooking). A few close family members will be there. He’ll stop over and drive back Sunday noon.
If the relationship ended on a friendly note, then I see no reason not to. If the ex was abusing you then definitely not but if you think you can be friends without it being awkward then go ahead. I stayed friends with mine, we ended up getting back together two years ago and are still together and doing well
Can be find depending on why you broke up. If it was a mutual "we just aren't right for each other", no reason you can't remain friends
I never stay friends. I may still occasionally have sex but that's all a visit entails, no chitchat, no TV, none of that..
It depends. If you get along well but realize that the romance is just not there it can work. But if one or both have "hope" of a rekindling, probably better to keep some distance at least till that ends.
My best friend is my ex. I'm still friends with a couple of exes.
If it works out, why not? There has to be a certain level of maturity and love to be able to still interact with them while knowing they're dating someone else.
I ahve a couple of exes that I am friends with.
We just exchange happy birthdays, holidays and what I did on my summer vacation.
I am completely against it. They are an ex for a reason. I tried once to be friends with my last ex, but she could not stop her abusive ways.
Totally wrong. What if you get into. a new relationship? Your new boyfriend isn't going to. like that you remain in contact with someone you used to sleep with.
My ex and I tried it. I was okay with it until he kept asking for nudes.
I am good friends with most of my exes.
It depends an amicable ended relationship it can work, I've done it with both of my past relationships
Not possible. He tries to flirt again if I let him get too close.
I'm fine with it, depends on several Things. One of my best friends is an ex.
It’s generally fine. Just because a romantic relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t mean casual friendship is impossible.
No. It becomes hypocrisy. If you really love someone, you can't be friends with them after the relationship ends. I can't.
I feel sick to stomach looking at my ex and his narc life.
Nope
I reckon if you don't find each other sexually Attractive anyomore then it's fine.
Nope. It's called an ex for a reason. That bridge burned. Move on.
Tried that and we ended up getting back together.
I don’t think it’s a thing. Lol. Sorry.
No there’s reason they’re exes
Fuck no. Who needs that shit.
I tried. Either way, I don't recomendt it.
Weird with the person seen me naked kinda weird.
No because they have acted weird with me
I have tried it didn't worked for me.
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