What personal baggage is your job to handle vs. what a partner should help you carry?

[HawkPerception]

[Noredcarpet]

You have to do both, that is recognize what is yours and then your partner has to understand that, work it through together, be that support. But very often you may not get until much later. If ever, that why your reaction was the way it was was 50% lets say his fault but the other 50% is because of your own past experiences which means again you both have to deal with it. Both me and my partner has had this and working on it for a new better tomorrow. I understand why people including myself before thought they were good or avoiding it, running from it but then again there will always be situations that triggers it so sooner or later you have to deal with it. I think as much as people are ready and want to they may not know how to so they get lost in that, but then again there is much you can do yourself and with the help of others, and therapy, but know it takes time, its painful but you will get through it

[Simslover92]

Your past hurts, past traumas, and your insecurities is something that your should carry on your own but support from your partner in dealing with these things is something your partner can help you carry. It's not their responsibility to carry your personal baggage but to help you heal by just being there and comforting you is their job in my opinion.

But I will say that you should have healed on your own with therapy and self-reflection before entering into a relationship so that it won't be much on your partner to deal with.

[rebelsunshine]

Nice artwork!

I agree with @Simslover92 . It's your job to handle your own baggage and you shouldn't start a relationship unless you've accepted and come to terms with it.

That said, some traumas are long-lasting and if stuff from your past comes back to haunt you, you shouldn't keep it a secret from your partner. She/he will know somethings wrong and most of us will assume we're somehow responsible unless our partner tells us otherwise.

[guesswhereivebeen]

Fuck baggage… put on your man pants… toss the baggage

[queenofcardio]

A partner should just be supportive..

[HawkPerception]

Agreed. It's that simple