Do people deserve second chances by default?

[Purpleronnie]

People mess up right? That’s only human yes? Surely growth requires room to fail?

Or are intentions not good enough once trust is broken

Do second chances just reward bad behavior?

For you , when is a second chance out of the question? And why?

[Screenwriter]

Would depend upon what the transgression was. Someone forgets your birthday, or to pick you up on time are annoying. But cheating in a relationship is serious. Porn addiction. Lying. There are some issues that are disturbing and deeply hurtful.

Might be best to let someone go if they are struggling with those because you can't help them. Has to come from within themselves and may or may not be able to be resolved..

[Chazmatazz269]

If you take another person’s addiction personally, you have a problem every bit as disconcerting as theirs.

[RandomGirl42]

I believe everyone deserves a second chance but then and how can be a different matter. Like if someone murders someone and then they get a second chance after they paid for their crime, etc. And like if someone cheats on me they may get a second chance at love but it won't be from me, but still a second chance. I guess it's all in wording there but I do believe everyone should have a chance at redemption.

[RandomGirl42]

And TY for the MHO 😊

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to help you navigate the rollercoaster of relationships 💞 Second chances can be tricky! Trust deserves a comfy cushion, but you gotta weigh the intentions behind the slip-up. If someone’s genuinely sorry and shows growth, maybe they've earned a do-over. But babe, if it's a pattern of ghosting or those lovebombing fireworks without sincerity, tap the brakes! Trust your gut and remember, self-love isn’t negotiable. Keep shining 🌟

[Chazmatazz269]

You kind of already addressed the matter of fact. INTENTION
If you intend to hurt me, i feel no obligation to give you another opportunity to hurt me. I can’t relate to people who do that.
If you make an honest mistake, i probably won’t hold that against you. If i am hurt by an honest mistake, once i can muster forgiveness i will leave room for another opportunity to do right by me. However, i won’t announce it. My defensive nature will disallow easy access to my trust.

[Chazmatazz269]

This is a great question, by the way.

[AviatorTom]

No one deserves anything. Everything must be earned, at least that's the way it should be.

If someone makes a mistake and learns from it, a second chance is usually warranted.

[Chazmatazz269]

So you don’t deserve to live? It must be earned? Who decides when you have earned it?
Doesn’t this attitude suggest that murder needn’t be justified?
I feel like you too quickly responded with an axiom rather than a mindful response.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Making mistakes is part of being human, this is true. However, there is no requirement that says you always have to give second chances. Some mistakes can have disastrous consequences and you’re not required to give them that chance if you don’t want to.

[lightbulb27]

not by default but by action. if the action was a problem, then correction action is required.

failure to do that means a repeat.

People are complex, they don't like to change and will avoid at all costs dealing with their problems. That, is the unfortunately reality some people find themselves dealing with.

God help those whom love ones that are quite sick. It really wears them out.

[Lilas]

No. They had their chance already that’s the only chance they’re entitled to “by default”


Not to say they that you shouldn’t forgive and give another chance but it’s not a deserved right;
Most people do even worse things when you’re easy on them,


Personally I wouldn’t let people I’ve trusted into my personal space and betrayed me in, even if I forgave things wouldn’t be the same anymore….

[Telekinetic-Potato]

If you can afford it then yes. Maybe a better way of looking at it is the way Joe rogan says it: people need a path to redemption.

If there's no way for someone to redeem themselves then there's no reason for them to become constructive members of society. So I think we should all take whatever responsibility we're capable of to offer that path. It's not always gonna be a second chance, sometimes it's just showing them a little more respect than the last time you saw them.

[WellBye]

Nope when someone shows me who they are, I believe them the first time.

[beenherebefore]

I don't think everyone deserves a second chance. A lot of people do tho. But if you're a serial killer, a pedophile, a murderer then I don0t think you deserve a second chance.

[NathanDavis]

depends...

if you blow up a 120 million dollar, brand new F-35... because you were careless in your mistake, then maybe not...

maybe you just had your one chance and that's it, lol

[jshm2]

No.

But there is a big difference between failing a math test, and murdering the teacher in case you fail the math test.

So there isn't always the possibility of "second chances by default".

[Dargil]

Nobody deserves second chances. They should have thought out what they did before they did it.

[Chazmatazz269]

Certainly you have made mistakes for which you would prefer forgiveness and redemption. Are you comfortable with others treating you like a pariah for a single mistake regardless how trivial? How many jobs have you had? If forgiveness is out of the question, you have probably never held a job for very long. You have no relationships because every single one ends upon the first faux pas.
How lonely are you? Be honest.

[Dargil]

@Chazmatazz269 Bad intent differs from poor judgement.

[Nikki1989]

It depends on what you are giving the second chance for. Some things are simply unforgivable.

[queenofcardio]

Not by default. If my partner ever cheated , I am gone.

[aceleon]

there is no such thing as deserving by default though but even if there was not for this case.

[Fireguy17]

in certain instances, yes, once someone breaks the trust you had, for me thank you and good night.
You can ask my ex-wife and 2 ex-girlfriends how well cheating on me worked out for them. I left.

[Xawyx-2]

I usually give people the second chance, sometimes even the third chance... I'm empathetic.

[Kingofkings1992]

Depends on how bad their fuck up is, and whether or not they are genuinely remorseful. What is the specific context of the second chance? Cheater? Violent felon getting out of prison? One could interpret this a lot of ways

[Quigly]

Most likely by the time you left you gave the other person far more than a second chance and it did nothing to change their ways.

When they ask for a second chance, you tell them they blew their second chance long ago.

[msc545]

If some woman cheats on me, then there is no second chance. It would be stupid of me to do that because she is just going to do it again, particularly if you let her get away with it the first time.

[Staximus]

That depends on what kind of second chance we're talking about and what the original offense was

[loveslongnails]

Nobody gets it right in life the first time.

[guesswhereivebeen]

That depends on what it’s for… if it’s a second chance not to touch kids for instance… fuck no…

[Abbycado]

Depends on what the second chance is for

[exitseven]

no, usually it is one and done

[AngryCarl2]

Second chances for what?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Depends on the misdeed.

[blackeagle007]

I always do.

[Chazmatazz269]

You always do what? As stated, your response is not an answer to the question.
You always forgive? You always demand forgiveness?