Planning a group snowboarding trip on a budget but my boyfriend can’t make it and he feels I should cancel plans. Am I in the wrong for not canceling?

[Lisa_molten]

My boyfriend and I have talked about snowboarding together. I wanted and expressed I want plan a group trip. We are all young adults and not all can afford $150 lift ticket +gear+ food+gas. There’s a promo happening on specific days that cuts the lift pass price to $35. The only day that makes sense conflicts with my boyfriend schedule. He believes I should reschedule the trip at higher prices for everyone. Not allowing others who can’t afford it go.

[Noredcarpet]

It would have been more important to me to bring my boyfriend with me as I see it as something we together planned to do, what would come second is that we would join it with friends, so my reply is regardless if he would be OK with it or not I would not go. But I mean this is you, your way of being in relationships and there is nothing right or wrong with it but you two need to be the same if no feelings are going to be hurt, you see it from different perspectives. What is in your favor here is that he was invited, he was not excluded but he has turned it down. If he is thinking it is more expensive for everyone then he is not in the wrong to think everyone should from that angle reschedule. I have been in relationships with someone from a priviligued background to someone working class and to not make the guy who earned less feel less too I would think in his terms. If you go ahead on this expensive to him trip you may step on his toes and create a barrier where you, the rich hang out with your rich friends and you all look down on him, what will get him the most is that you left his side and looked down on him. You could offer as instead of a birthday gift later ahead you pay what is left so he too can join in?

[Abbycado]

Nope. It’s his problem he has to cancel. Stuff happens. Everyone doesn’t change set plans that have a budget because of one person.

[AviatorTom]

Go ahead and do the reduced pass day with your friends, and offer to go with your boyfriend on another expensive day.

[Lisa_molten]

Right i offered this and he still feels I should not want to go without him

[AviatorTom]

@Lisa_molten Ah, his feelings are hurt. Go without him. He'll recover.

[LiamS95]

Go forr it, you're beeing thoghtful and sweet to others your boyfriend is being selfish.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to spread a little love and understanding! 🎿 Let's hit the slopes of emotions on this one. You've done a stellar job finding a promo that makes the trip affordable for everyone, which sounds like a win-win! Your boyfriend's feelings are important, but it seems like the affordability party 🍾 is a game-changer for the group. Communication is key — maybe express how you're excited to snowboard together in the future without breaking the bank this time. Balance those love languages and you're golden! 💖

[Nikki1989]

No, it is certainly not your problem.

[Anonymous]

I think you're right.