How important is gift-giving to you in a relationship?

Question

With Valentine’s Day coming up, I’m curious how you feel about gifts in relationships.

AydenHazor · Accepted Answer

Having taken the live language quiz multiple times over the years, while other love languages sometimes swap in priority, every time gift giving scores as a zero.

It may be partially because I'm used to not receiving gifts, being the forgotten child growing up, I often didn't receive gifts for my birthday when my siblings would, so there not important to me, likely because if they were I'd forever be disappointed.

That being said, having friends for whom receiving gifts is important, I've learned to pick and give meaningful gifts, individualized for the receiver, that they love and cherish

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I'm very uncomfortable receiving gifts. If I want something, I'll get it myself. It feels wrong if someone else gets it for me.

And when it comes to giving gifts, I'm usually pretty happy to get my partner something I know they'd appreciate and like. Sometimes I'd get them something for me 😂 Like I can see myself gifting them a dress or lingerie or something that I'd love to see them in on my own birthday. But for me, it's still not up there on my list. I'd prefer my partner is just content with me (quality time, physical affection, words of affirmation, and occasional acts of service).

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I love giving gifts. Second to touch it's my love language but not like expensive gifts or any of that materialistic nonsense. Giving and receiving "I thought of you/this made me think of you" gifts are so meaningful. And not tied to "its valentine so I have to buy you a gift"

I mainly get given chocolate. But best gift I got from one of my army fwbs is a real WW2 dagger he picked up whilst on a mission and the energy blew himself up and had a big stash of weapons that the soldiers raided.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Occasionally a nice treat for the one you love (a nice meal or breakfast in bed, the dishes done and put away on my bday, a rare spa day, etc.), is sweet and shows you care. I don't like constant gifts, though, bc it makes a person wonder what they did to earn the gift.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic love language: gift-giving! 🎁💝 It can be a beautiful way to express affection and thoughtfulness. But darling, it’s not the price tag; it’s the thought that matters. A creative and meaningful gift can make hearts flutter! 😘 However, don't fret if gifts aren’t your thing. Satisfying the heart sometimes only needs a genuine smile, cuddles, or a spontaneous love note!

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s important to a extent but doesn’t have to be extravagant. If someone expects extravagant gifts obviously it’s a red flag but also if someone only gives expensive gifts it could be love bombing…. Or a effort to cover up other areas of a relationship that’s lacking. Not always, but can be. If they’re spending outside their means it can mean he or she is bad with money if it’s consistent.

Everyone’s different people value different things. It comes down to compatibility. Some people would rather just spend time together at home. Others would rather go out somewhere. Some prefer gift exchanges. Some are happy with anyrhing. Some want all of the above. For some it depends.

ohsheeT · Answer

There are a lot of things I collected. I've given most of them up.. and just collect a few things now

But if I come across something that a friend collects yes I will get it for them. And as for in a relationship of course I love giving

Finchie40 · Answer

Not that important to me , but every once in awhile it’s nice to give and receive something thoughtful

Purpleronnie · Answer

Gift giving for us is not really that important us as a couple , and that’s generally been a trend in my relationships.

I focus more on what we do for each other , the little things that show we matter to each other and we are thinking of each other , that we listen to and understand each other and can preemptively determine what the other needs

The gifts bought don’t matter in the slightest and especially not for Valentine’s Day , just commercial bullshit. If you can express to your partner what they mean to you and need feb 14 to remind you , you likely don’t belong in a relationship.

dragoblack · Answer

There's many ways to show affection, but a handmade gift is better than one with a price tag, because of how much effort, thought, and attention went into it. If it is a bought gift, i believe it should be useful or something they need. But with that said, it shouldn't be done often, because the meaning of a gift will feel less special

Twodogs0525 · Answer

I make sure to always get my wife a gift for special occasions, it's important to me that I get her something.

Her parents are divorced and when I married her, her mother told me, that her biggest regret in her marriage, was telling her ex not to waste money on gifts for each other. She feels that kind of damaged their relationship. My wife acts like she doesn't want anything but I honestly think she appreciates it.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

One of the absolute last things I think about. I don't want her to get me anything other than love. And I'm not big on material gifts, but huge on experiences, taking her on a trip, flying in a helicopter, bungee jumping, wine class, etc.

MrChinaski · Answer

Trivial. If you can afford it and put effort into a thoughtful gift it is nice. But if you love each other it is irrelevant, and if you don't love each other then a few trinkets ain't gonna fix that. I have celebrated Valentine's Day twice in my life, and I'm a complete head-over-heels romantic tragic.

sage2021 · Answer

Gift receiving has never been expected, but giving someone a gift 🎁 excites me if it's something I know that they've been wanting.

On_cloud_wine · Answer

Probably on the bottom of the list.. my love language is touch and time

Bad2daBone22 · Answer

It’s very important to me because as a very affectionate person, I’d want the same back to me. But it wouldn’t have to be better than what I got or more expensive but just better than getting nothing.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Don't do valentines day at all. But I think gift giving is important, not in a materialistic way but its nice to receive something from someone you love and see just how well they know you.

Billlewis · Answer

I place a considerable degree of emphasis on frequent, inspired generosity, usually as a subordinate beta male sub.

Anonymous · Answer

Very important. Needn't be much, Needn't be money. Time. Listening to my or telling sorrows. Spending time together. Go for a walk. Cook together. Coffee in the morning. That are gifts I appreciate.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

About as important as remembering Arbor Day.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I appreciate it, but I more like words of affirmation and physical touch.

itsannalee · Answer

I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day, but i love the gift 😂😂

queenofcardio · Answer

Not really important.. I prefer acts of service or quality time.

alice55 · Answer

It's very important it mean you care and have thought about the person

Phoenix98 · Answer

It's not really that important to me if I'm being honest.

loveslongnails · Answer

My S. O. is already my gift. She's an amazing woman. Don't need presents.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Extremely as a man who believes if giving my woman lots of gifts, especially my #blackboyjoy between her legs !!!

Bloodparadise · Answer

I would probably give him meaningful gifts 🤔

fish5505_87 · Answer

I think I'm more impressed when I get gifts that are not scheduled.

888theGreat · Answer

After living on planet earth for 57 years , I can say that is the Man doesn't give in most of the time , the marriage will end in divorce. or relationship will end.

Anonymous · Answer

Never needed a special day to give someone a gift.

msc545 · Answer

It's not important to me at all.

TallAnon · Answer

I'm somewhat uncomfortable receiving gifts

Noredcarpet · Answer

I don't care at all, but that's me.

exitseven · Answer

it is extortion plain and simple.

onecuriousguy2454 · Answer

I would give too and like it

CubaPirate · Answer

Not very in our case

wkhan_87 · Answer

Very important

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