Do you think treats, gifts, or presents are a must in a relationship?

Question

Do you think a man should always give something to his girl? Or do you think it should be equal? Do you think a girl should be the one that gives?

Leavesbound · Accepted Answer

I think girls should give little gifts to guys but they don't have to be expensive. It could be something sweet to eat. it could be a home made birthday card. It could be something practical like new shoe laces or a mustache comb. Or maybe she likes the smell of Old Spice but he uses Axe and so she gets him Old Spice instead. Little things like that. They don't have to be every day but maybe some little thing every few weeks to let him know she's thinking of him. I like to do things like make her dinner or a batch of brownies or I cut some flowers from my garden. Or if she cooks I harvest a variety of herbs from my garden and give her those. One girl I dated liked to sew but was always complaining about her cheap scissors so I got her some high end Ginghers. I think they cost something like $30. On another occasion I got her a dozen different little wind up toys each did something different. She spent the next three days laughing her a** off.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

It’s a partnership its good to surprise each other. it’s about the gifts not the money However I do love giving presents to a girl, it’s just that great feeling when they unwrap it etc.

FlutteringFeelings · Accepted Answer

It depends on each individuals love language. My love language is words of affirmation but my partner love language can be physical touch. I don’t like to be hugged on often or share PDA. To make sure I’m meeting my partners needs I’ll explain to him my discomfort with physical touch and we’ll gradually work our way towards being comfortable. I like words of affirmation so I appreciate good morning texts or thoughtful messages to let me know I’m on your mind.

Figure out what is a priority to your partner then you’ll be able to determine what to provide to make sure they feel loved.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Gifts don't always have to be material things... Gifts of the heart mean more. The little extra things you do, the spur of the moment surprise. Treats, gifts, presents shouldn't be a must in a relationship. There's far better ways to show love, appreciation then treats, gifts, presents.

btbc92 · Answer

No. That is something that should be between the couple and it should be mentioned before dating. Most people would know this if they were friends first before dating. The sad reality is people don't communicate what they want, they expect everything due to what is being said to them. You only expect when you know the person enough to know. Most men don't know this and even if they did, most women that are not mature sadly take it for granted. I believe that men should lead in that regard of everything and a woman needs to equally reciprocate and still do so even if it isn't expected. Going far and beyond is a wonderful thing to do for people that you love, but if you don't understand boundaries or the other person, it can cause problems. This is why understanding love languages, communication and compatibility are extremely important.

crazyish · Answer

I think calling them gifts or presents is what messes with most people. In a relationship I believe it's just what each one does because they genuinely want to. I value the things that are given that show understanding of who I am and what my interests are. When I'm with someone, they are automatically in the back of my head so when I see something when I'm out doing anything and It reminds me of them or I know they need it or love it, ill get it. I love when it becomes subconsciously for a guy like that as well. Getting my favorite candy bar because they're at the gas station and saw it is so much more than an expensive gift. People can buy expensive gifts for anyone really. But that candy bar isn't going to be appreciated by just anyone. Jewelry is lovely yes but them knowing and picking out the type of jewelry I would choose myself is what actually gets me.

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

No rules for this. Giving/receiving material things is a love language for some, for others it is not. It is not about gender, though there might be some trends.
I personally do not care much for presents, I can for example do without any at birthdays, Valentines and Christmas. I like surprises though, and that can be in the form of a material things too.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Should technically be equal but I like to get gifts when a guy is courting me. Doesn’t have to be material. Kisses love poems songs dedicated to me fun little sexual treats if we’ve gotten that far even just a heartfelt “I love you.”

karennn · Answer

Material things come and go. But if you keep striving to improve and work on the relationship ; loyalty, compromise, trust and all that ishhh- you're golden!

GoldenTulip · Answer

Not a must... sure it is nice once in a while... but it is not a Foundation or a check on the list for a successful relationship. How you treat, support and respect eachother is the most important thing in a relationship.

Lionman95 · Answer

I wouldn´t consider them a must have. No one is entitled to getting gifts. I think giving a gift is an act of free will neither guys nor girls can be made to do.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I think having stuff in general for entertainment and hobby reasons is a must, single or not.

I wouldn't complain about getting gifts, but i also wouldn't require it. I typically am just fine buying my own stuff.

Alonewolf003 · Answer

No it is not required but girls likes gifts. Also i care about not letting her spend money nearby me if i love her.

iKarmaJones · Answer

Equal.  The relationship is about both of you showing your affection for each other.

serious · Answer

I don't think it is a must or something but giving gifts to one another in a relationship is a great thing.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nah cause i dont like feeling like i owe them something in return. And i’m not referring to a gift in return. But honestly, i only want gifts if its a bday, vday, anniversary or Christmas

ShedzJo4322 · Answer

I don't buy for bfs but I do give them great supprises

collie22 · Answer

people like to get stuff yeah! so if you are trying to cheer someone up a guy or girl then a gift should do it. my friend gives me little tattoo stickers i lov those

Jaysonava · Answer

No. Although I like to buy food for the other person and for them to give me food. But not 'presents' that's not impressive to me.

Thedivinechic · Answer

Both. I've done custom gifts and he never appreciated them. The custom shirts I'd buy him, he would wear on dates with other girls. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

Why should only one or the other give? I do not understand that question.

I think both should do things to show they care and demonstrate their love, but how they do it depends on the individual and the relationship.

clampfan101 · Answer

I believe in equality, but still want to spoil my girl if I ever get one and have the means to do so.

KatherineJ · Answer

I think anyone who just expects gifts and treats all the time has messed up priorities. Don’t get me wrong, I like getting a trinket occasionally, but it’s not something that I expect. The best gift that he can give me is his time and attention.

Waldoe · Answer

unless it's a birthday or Christmas, why give anything?

Maspolomas · Answer

It should be kinda mutual but the guy should give a little more

shiril · Answer

Initially, it strengthens the Bond, later it is one of the gestures to express your love inspite of some principle differences !

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yeah, I like giving girls gifts when I'm dating one, No their not a must but it makes me Happy to give a girl a gift who I'm dating

fred_durst · Answer

sure , i will always shower her with expensive gifts as long as i get bj in return

kamalravi25 · Answer

Yes as it is a way to express love. Both men and women can give whenever they feel they have to. These act and motive of giving should be selfless.

Coolkat12345 · Answer

Both should give presents to eachother because men and woman are equal. We don’t promote sexism here.

Anonymous · Answer

Hells no. If a female can only love someone because she is getting material shit from them, she should be single for life.

Twalli · Answer

If you expect a gift every time we see each other we're going to see each other 3 times a year.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Absolutely not. The best gift is spending good time together.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Every once in a while but not everytime we see each other

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. GIRLS LOVE GIFTS. They'll pretend they don't need them BUT THEY DO.  My boyfriend is perfect because he loves surprising me and I "hate" suprises 😉😉😉 I freaking love that shit.

damaster · Answer

No not all the time. It's good to surprise each other with gifts every once in a while and on special occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, and etc.

Coulis · Answer

Yes, they are part of intimacy and affection.

Anonymous · Answer

As someone who got a 0% in gift giving as a love language, I hope not.

JamieLoves · Answer

No... but they’re nice to give to one another at times..

rienna888 · Answer

Yes, even something small

maganaCastro · Answer

I think it should be equal 😊

Marhaban-1 · Answer

Love and gratitude is a must

fonduegirl · Answer

That's what makes them so hard

7771999 · Answer

No, but support and trust is

Anonymous · Answer

If you're dating a girl and don't want her to cheat, yes

NoManTwo · Answer

Not all the same time.

msc545 · Answer

No, not a must.

EaterPeter · Answer

They are good idea.

cat1313 · Answer

yes i theke sow

Iron_Man · Answer

I did

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Yeah

TobyMercury1 · Answer

Nope

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