Would you rather have a peaceful relationship… or a passionate one?

Question

Some people just want calm, drama-free love… others want passion and sparks. Ideally both … but if you had to pick one, which would it be?

Inspired by @HawkPerception who never lets us pick both lol

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Lmao love the shoutout. I love that my pet peeve of choosing both options or something in between is known 😂 The obvious answer for ANYONE is a mix of both, which is why I don't understand why they even bother stating that opinion. The point of these kinds of questions is to find out which you lean more towards.

Would you rather have a peaceful relationship… or a passionate one?

If I had to choose one, I'd definitely choose the peaceful relationship. Passion is great, but it can be exhausting sometimes. Putting in effort to romance someone on Valentine's Day, bringing them flowers just to get them in a better mood sometimes, having to dance with them to show you're fun to be around, make them laugh by cracking jokes here and there, etc.

Again, I'm not saying those are bad, but I think the more important thing is someone who provides peace. Someone you know is always going to be there at the end of the day. Someone who's emotionally stable, loyal and consistent, low drama and low ego, kind, warm, empathetic, and low maintenance. Honestly, if I have all of that, I can probably even go without the passion. Again though... both is obviously ideal 😂

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Peaceful, I mean look these are two extremes obviously I would want both. But if hypothetically I had to pick I would pick peace.

I know that some people feed off drama and so there are people out there that just do nothing but feed off one another’s negative energies. Because eventually someone who isn’t dramatic becomes boring when you can’t stir them up or they tend to just leave.

A passionate but dramatic relationship sone may tolerate it for a while because it’s passionate I don’t just mean in the bedroom but all aspects of the relationship. But what happens? As time drags on it becomes more miserable. There is too much immaturity, insecurity, and drama. Until someone becomes completely over it and miserable. The passion will probably turn into aggression, resentment, and anger.

MontBlanc · Accepted Answer

A peaceful one with passion in it.

Peace is what makes love last. Passion is what makes it feel alive. One without the other either burns out or feels empty.

The real win is calm trust with real spark.

queenofcardio · Accepted Answer

Passionate.  I think a peaceful relationship can turn into a boring one. I want to be with someone that makes me feel alive..

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode relationships and turn all this chaos into clarity… with a little spice 😏

I’d pick peaceful, every single time. Passion without peace turns into toxic rollercoaster energy: lovebombing, fighting, makeup sex, repeat. Fun for a season, exhausting for a lifetime.

Give me calm, safe, stable love… then add passion on top. Peace is the foundation, passion is the decoration 🔥💙

ohsheeT · Answer

Well then I can't answer the question because peaceful is hot passion and about 100 other things to they work hand and hand

Simslover92 · Answer

Give me the sparks and passion!

MrChinaski · Answer

Give it to me hard, hot and heavy. Hurt me until I beg to tap out. Challenge my every belief; mock my every conceit. Don't ever let me rest. Then love me like a wildfire.

Death will be plenty peaceful enough. There's no need to train for it.

serious · Answer

I have always been single and I never want to be in a committed relationship. However, just for the purpose of answering the question I would say without doubt it would be "peaceful relationship". A relationship that is mature, absolutely drama and manipulation free and full of respect, love (non-sexual), trust and understanding. This is true especially given the standards I have ( in terms of physical beauty and personality aspects)

I have no problems if it is less passionate.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

If I was asking this question to several me over time, the answer would be different.

As another killjoy in this page said, those 2 notions are compatible. Therefore, I'm joyfully discarding your pitiful attempt at imprisoning us into nonsensical dilemmas.

Anonymous · Answer

A Peaceful Relationship is of chosen for its stability, safety, and lack of unnecessary drama. It allows for mental well-being, where the relationship feels like home rather than a storm to be survived. This type of love emphasizes mutual respect, trust, and companionship, allowing partners to flourish individually.

AydenHazor · Answer

I didn't think I'd want a romantic relationship without both. I need the peaceful gentle times so that's a deal breaker if it's missing, but if there's not the passionate spark, I can get the emotional intimacy and peaceful gentle love in platonic friendships and the romantic relationship is unnecessary

Zack-Bann · Answer

I couldn’t handle peaceful 24/7 all year long
Eventually we will wonder if the fire is still there

So I would rather have moments of passion sprinkled in all throughout

But I don’t want 24/7 drama either

Best relationships are when the energy matches so when we’re both feeling low we don’t fight and when we’re both feeling high we fuck on every flat surface

A simple and effective approach

aceleon · Answer

passionate.

i'm not a middle aged homie. i have peacefull love at home with my family what i need is passion, entrancement, maddening libido spikes to each other, i'm not interested in falling in love, i wanna be in lust with someone, passion is not bickering or fighting though, they are just boring.

qwerty2469 · Answer

We always want what is on the other side. I've had both. I left a crazy woman for a peaceful one. Yes we have been married for 20 years and some of them have been happily, but I'm still friends with the crazy woman I left and I'm barely roommates with my wife.

molonski2 · Answer

Experience would tell an individual don't pick either as passionate will fade , and peaceful could well be a cop out. I pick C = neither. Sorry about the cop out.

aaron13547 · Answer

If I have to settle for one or the other I dont want a relationship at all... I couldn't pick. The past taught me to pick is a trap I dont want to be caught in again. 😵

Phoenix98 · Answer

Ideally both but I suppose if I had to choose I'd go with passionate. Most of my exes weren't exactly the passionate type ( at least not with me ) so I've had plenty of calm relationships for the moment.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Peace for sure. Anyone that wants passionate please live at least 2 streets over. We'll watch teh cops come and go!

OneViewpoint · Answer

Passionate and peaceful are NOT mutually exclusive. Passionate and peaceful is the desired outcome.

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. I'd rather have an honest one. If it's an honest one and we're right for eachother the passion will come. And complete peace is a myth. Whether you're with somebody for 5 days or 50 years. you'll always be two different people. Yes I know the Bible says you become one flesh, and that is true. But you will NEVER be complete hive mind. And that's not a bad thing. When a man and a woman are right for eachother they're compliments to eachother. They're different sides of the same coin working for the same goal (hopefully).😂

msc545 · Answer

I will take peaceful over passionate almost every time. Passionate simply means it's gonna turn bad, and when it turns bad, it's gonna turn ugly as hell. I've been there, done that, and I have the t-shirt. I never needed, need now, or want to have it again. It is nothing but a problem.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

„I’m too old for this shit.“  - Sgt. Roger Murtaugh, Lethal Weapon

YourExLover69 · Answer

I want Passionate, energetic, romantic, sweet n clingy partner 😍 I'm also one 😏💕

WhitneySnow · Answer

Peaceful. Though some passion is good. But you’re using passionate as a synonym for dramatic, and that I don’t like.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Give me that risky, probably going to end bad passion!

Kaneki05 · Answer

Peaceful, cuddling and watching things together is the best

Mark987 · Answer

I like women that are quiet and reserved, and aren't loud, but I like a woman that is passionate... doesn't rush kisisng or foreplay. Cuddling and just chilling is great.

Nonamez · Answer

After "honey moon" period , passion fades , too much drama already in this world , peaceful relationship and no drama 🧘

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Well ideally both, but since you make us decide, definitely passionate!

SolitarySolace · Answer

I’d rather have neither. I’m happier single. Been 10 years since my last relationship

LiamJHayden · Answer

Peaceful can still be passionate. We just don't want manufactured drama.

Imjustagirl1520 · Answer

Rather neither, i could have a boyfriend every 2 days maybe and thats it

a_gallant_one · Answer

Why not both (maybe not with the same person, but i don't see why would that be impossible)

Bobby248 · Answer

I like passionate more. In love when sparks are there always, it's wonderful.

Anonymous · Answer

Why not both? There is literally no reason why you can't have both.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

At this point either one would make me paranoid. I can’t say I’ve ever been in a passionate relationship or a peaceful one…

JustJustin90 · Answer

Can't it be peaceful and passionate at the same time?

WonderingManII · Answer

I think a good relationship is both.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Passionate 100%

MissSunshine2 · Answer

Peaceful is much better for me

exitseven · Answer

passionare. life is short.

loveyouoak · Answer

Peaceful relationship

AgentG111 · Answer

Absolutely Passionate!

dragoblack · Answer

Both. Because a relationship requires both

Alexalex92 · Answer

Peaceful and not unnecessary drama

eagle1951 · Answer

both

Anonymous · Answer

Big theme in my life right now.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Why not both? 🤷

dudeinohio · Answer

Peaceful

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Peaceful

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Neither.

Anonymous · Answer

Both

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