Would you rather have a relationship where you never argue but lack passion, or one full of passion but with frequent fights?

[Anonymous]

You can't have it all, can you? Would you rather have peace and quiet, even if things feel a bit "okay", or would you rather have an exciting, intense, and fiery, yet emotionally draining relationship? Which would make you happier in the long run?

[ohsheeT]

Well each one of those are choices that we make every day I won't argue I will talk to figure things out it's a choice.. and same with passion sensual touch and the intense becoming one with someone is me

And I want my partner to be that person to where you don't even have to say a word you just look in to each other's eyes and you know what there thinking

You know what there feeling because there energy just starts rushing the inside of your body
I love that feeling and i love giving that feel. And I know you know what I'm talking about.. because when I read your question. I felt it deep

[Purpleronnie]

My lady and I have been together for 12 years and in that time not had a single argument and I don’t that is unusual. We can disagree frequently at times but this needn’t cause an arguments. My view is that arguments arise when one or both people cannot communicate effectively or clearly and so miscommunications or misunderstandings arise.


When we disagree , we listen to each others perspective and we ALWAYS find compromise which generally doesn’t involve capitulation



So my relationship and most relationships I have had do not fit into your question choices.


Also , Lots or arguments in relationship doesn’t always mean passion just like the lack thereof doesn’t mean there is a lack of care

[Anonymous]

I’m not afraid of arguments, as long as they were resolved properly. Healthy arguments and disagreements are a part of the “passion” - the conflict resolution matters though. I’m an emotional person and so is my boyfriend, our relationship is very emotionally charged. But we are also mature in communicating with each other, yes it might lead to some arguments sometimes but we know how to de-escalate and apologize when needed. We never cross the line of swearing, name calling or even yelling at each other. We’re continuously learning to speak each other’s “languages” so we know how to communicate our feelings best.

[ShellyB]

Neither actually but if those were my only two options I would choose the one w passion because maybe you can fix the fighting. With the other one I don’t know if you can fix the passion, I guess it depends on the situation but it seems easier to fix the fighting than to fix the passion. However more realistically you don’t need to pick one of these two options and, I don’t really recommend them, life is too short. JMO!

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to help you find that magical balance between peace and passion! 😄 While a passionate relationship can be exciting, frequent fights can wear you out. A no-arguing relationship might be peaceful, but where's the spark? In the long run, finding a balance where you communicate effectively while keeping the passion alive is key. Love shouldn't feel like a rollercoaster, but a gentle, thrilling ride. 🚀❤️

[Simslover92]

The older and more mature you become, the less this kind of thing will be a factor. But if I had to choose one it would be peace of course. I don't want to fight and argue with my significant other all the time. I feel like that is a recipe for disaster. But passion needs to be there as well.

[SteveSmith1985]

I honestly couldn't stay in either of those relationships. I couldn't be happy. Neither of those options are acceptable to me. I choose neither. I'm gonna just be single if those are my only options. Great question though.

[DishLady]

I tend to veer away from drama, cutting out recurring or unresolved drama in favor of peace and quiet. But a relationship without passion isn’t worth pursuing either. There must be a balance.

[AviatorTom]

Passion and fights. Nothing better than make-up sex.

[Eempriyanka]

A real man wouldn't get hard by sorrow

[ManOnFire]

I always come to the super great questions really late lol.

Honestly I think I would choose never arguing but lacking passion. I don't like conflict with people in your life, whether that's family, a lover, etc. I don't like friction with people you're supposed to be close to. I hate it. I always feel like women seem to like arguing especially in a relationship, like they somehow think it's a sign of a strong bond or something. I think a relationship could still build passion with conflict.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

It depends on what kind of arguments. Arguments can be fun if they're playful, not-serious kind of arguments. But if there's genuine anger or resentment, then arguing is not going to be fun.

Honestly I would rather have "okay" than emotionally draining intensity. Because when you're emotionally drained, nothing is ever fun.

I suspect most of the people who say they would rather have passion, would change their minds after a few weeks of constant fights. I think "just okay" would start to look pretty darn good to them.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Of those non-ideal options I suppose the second would be better. If there's no passion then that's a horrible sign. Passion can be hard to re-create. But if you're passionate then the passion can sort of make up for the fights.

But the fights can eventually be resolved by hearing each other out, therapy, age, time, etc. While re-creating passion that's not there is harder.

[Cormac995]

Never argue but lack passion. 1. Lacking doesn't mean none. 2. Passion is overrated it's short lived but repeated fighting causes resentment long term that builds and builds with time. 3. What's wrong with a quiet marriage? If it works, it works. I personally don't need passion the little gestures of flowers helping with chores back rubs and listening to your partner are all far more important to me. No thanks I've got enough drama sign me up for the port in a storm.

[Communicationisking]

I'd say neither sorry.

I have a relationship where we don't argue (sometimes have disagreements but that is not the same) but there is so much passion more than I have ever had ever.

Your two choices are emotionally draining or boring, I promise you there is better than either of those two choices

[alice55]

Full of passion with frequent fight best relationship I have with are with people who I argue with often and who don't back down, who continue till I agree with them. It' the kind of relationship I'm most comfortable with and prefer.

Other kind of relationship feel like being with a stranger to be honest normally with someone you're comfortable with you can argue all you want and still love each other.

[Hawaiikai]

For me our relationship were there is no arguments or disagreements seems like a superficial relationship to me. When people can’t express their feelings or issues that’s going on in a relationship I feel like there’s no point in being in a relationship.

[7Phoenix7]

I want passion... and also peace lol.

Arguments happen and I would not mind having disagreements as long as we can solve our conflicts together as a team and not disrespecting each other.

[Zack-Bann]

Give me a mr and mrs smith situation
(The movie obviously)
And have me and my wife shooting at eachother yet still finding ways to make up


I’m exaggerating obviously
But there’s nothing worse than a passionless relationship

[molonski2]

I don't accept that because you don't argue that you somehow lack passion.

No , I certainly do not want constant / frequent aggression and conflict , thats NEVER an acceptable outcome.

[PeachyPie93]

I rather have passion.. Since I already lived the first choice out with my ex and it was so lonely.. With the passionate guy I just wouldn't argue back since its a waste of time and energy..

[RandomUser1000]

Something in between.

Passion but usually get along most of the time.
Doesn't have to be 100% trouble free. But should be more good then bad.

[sawno]

My last relationship we didn't have much arguments and they were easily solved and there was also immense passion. So i'm not going to tolerate a relationship with either of those things.

[BarryLiverstone]

I expect to argue in relationships. That’s because I want to be honest and speak up when I disagree. This doesn’t mean lots of fights or anything mean, just two adults working together to find compromises for the good of the relationship.

[lightbulb27]

I can't stand arguing, I'd make my own passion as needed, but I don't need the stress of arguing.

[OneViewpoint]

I'll take passion and engagement (mature arguing) for the win over dull and uncaring nothingness.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Your question makes no sense.
Passion to me is interests and hobbies and relatability and sex and love.
So a woman I never argued with would be the highest level of passion.

[PrincessC16]

Got to have passion! But getting too damn old to fight. After many years it's just not worth it.

[lyrem04]

All I will say is that passion with frequent fights is a lethal combination.

[LazerBean]

I already have all of the good stuff, so I would choose neither of those.

[jahaims]

I would logically choose a healthy relationship. So neither are an option.

[RiseofArtemis]

The second one sounds like your typical toxic abusive relationship.

[DrPepper12]

Younger me wants the action n dramA. Older me favors pacific tranquility at the expense of the heat.

[MrChinaski]

Passion. Or else why even bother getting out of bed in the morning. Give me the feisty lover.

[QuestionObsession]

The third open - Single.

Because without passion it is depressing and arguments are a mental health crisis.

[genericname85]

Arguing is fine. Depends on the nature of the arguments.

[YourExLover69]

I want peace in my life. Whether alone or in a relationship.

[ABC1x1x]

I'd rather have a relationship where a woman bears me three kids. A son and 2 daughters and then dies of a heroin overdose

[kaucky1]

If could keep it on vessal and feel it when touch it then there be no reason to argue so or cheat cheat together morph into other people

[Anonymous]

I would dump a girl who fights.. Waste of short life.. Plain jane no makeup.. No drama.. Not a gold digger... Just normal fun to be with...

[rebelkid]

I rather have a close to perfect balance of both. You see arguments tests the limits of your true love and/or passion.

[Manuelwe]

It all depends on the woman. She can dictate a relationship

[Eempriyanka]

I don't like abusive situations.. but I know me and my boyfriend will always be together 😃

[Anonymous]

I would prefer relationship where I never have to argue.

[Booboolove69]

I choose passion and arguments

[Flower7]

I’d prefer the passion.

[Jove79]

No arguments and always peaceful? Impossible

[Pterodon]

I’ll take the passion

[jimmy2]

A little of both