Can you be a serial cheat and still be a family man?

[MissPiggy2025]

there's this guy at my work who i hate that I don't hate. His name is Ollie, he's a very good looking older man probably early 40s.

he's well aware he has looks on this side. he's a farther of two young boys and lives in a beautiful house with his extremely successful partner. He isn't actually married to his partner but the fact they live and two children together makes me feel extremely uncomfortable of the fact he's a serial cheat.

Around 7 years ago he had an affair with the office bike Niki and left his partner to be with her, once he realised he couldn't get a mortgage with niki he went running back to his baby momma.

he's constantly posting his son's on social media and raising money for there football team. Im pregnant right now and he keeps talking to me about how special parenthood is and how much he loves his children. He would literally do anything for them but keeping it in his pants thats too difficult for him.

he's slept with half the work force and is having a affair again with another married woman. Everyone says he's scum which I agree with but he's promised me a load of is children's baby stuff so I dont really want to to express my opinion outwardly at work when everyone's gossiping.

He was literally was asking me the other day about my next scan and telling me how excited he was seeing his baby's for the first time over scan. He constantly talking about his son's and how much he loves them.

I just think if he loved his children so much hed respect there mother enough to leave her instead of constantly cheating. She must know its so obvious and its not even like he tries to hide it.

He seems such a nice man too. Like if im having car troubles he's always the first to help. he's always the guy you go to his you need help with something. If you didn't know he was sticking his dick in everything you'd think he was the perfect family man. He definitely has a very fatherly aura about him and maybe thats what the woman like about him.

Updates

5 mo

he's had sexual relationships with a couple of my girlfriends and I think its disgusting and I don't really want to he friends with women like that especially as a married woman myself. But they are all so stupid and think they can change him and he'll leave his partner. Like look how that worked out for niki. He'll always run back to his cash cow

[OlderAndWiser]

He is a pretender. Cheating ultimately destroys families so it is not something that a real family man would do.

[Anonymous]

Wow you really are dumb and completely clueless aren't you... if you accept his baby stuff then you'll be on the hook. He's clearly baiting you then once you have the baby he'll want to sleep with you since you'll owe him for all the baby stuff you took from him. He's clearly baiting you. Even a blind man can see that

[MissPiggy2025]

Wow mr anonymous your so brave saying that aren't you 🤣 do you really think im that stupid and pathetic but id give it up for a baby car seat?

I dont owe him shit and if you think thats how things work with women but you can only be nice to them or give gifts in return for sex it says a lot more about yourself then me

[MissPiggy2025]

Im not poor , if he expected sex for a car seat id tell him to fuck off and forget about it. I've done him plenty of small favours similar to this its just called being nice... Jesus

[MissPiggy2025]

I said he was a cheat not a rapist

[MissPiggy2025]

I actually can't stop laughing but you think someone would get emotionally blackmailed into sex for some second hand baby stuff. 🤣🤣🤣 that's just what people do, he probably dont want that stuff lying around his house either

[MissPiggy2025]

Just wait till I tell my male friends about this one 🤣 just start giving secondhand items to pregnant women and after they have the baby and their entire body looks like they've been in a car accident theyll find time outside of being a mother to a newborn to sex with you. Who knew it was that easy.

Really shows how much you know about women and human interactions

[Opinion Owner]

The denial is strong with you. But you keep believing whatever fairytales help you sleep at night don't say you weren't warned about that sleezebag and the shit he'll pull after you give birth or possibly before you give birth. With a scumbag like him i wouldn't put anything past.
As for myself you don't know a thing about me. No i don't believe in giving gifts to women in exchange for sex so you were dead wrong on that false assumption like most women are dead wrong on their false assumptions about me only to find out the people i warn them against turn out to be exactly who i call them out to be later on proving them wrong once again

[Opinion Owner]

And yes he could expect sex from you in exchange for a bunch of baby crap. You said it yourself through your longwinded rant about him that he has a habit of sleeping with many women in your workplace. Who's to say he won't try the same shit with you and lore it over your head about the stuff he gave you in exchange for sex. Me personally i wouldn't expect sex from any woman because i give her something (which your false assumption about me was clearly wrong) but him though he most likely could and most likely will expect sex from you. The only question is when... before or after the baby is born

[Opinion Owner]

Nowhere in my responses or answers did i say you were going to give it up to him have sex with him not once did i say that. You seriously need to improve your reading comprehension abilities and go back and re-read what i posted. I said he's going to try and want and expect sex from you since he gave you all that baby crap

[MissPiggy2025]

Mate you literally just said I dont you know you and shouldn't be making assumptions 🤦🏼‍♀️ do you actually hear yourself when you speak because thats literally what you've just done to me

[Opinion Owner]

Wow bitch you really can't read for shit but you do know how to open that big stupid mouth of yours just to throw wild insults

[MissPiggy2025]

I haven't called you any insults again thats something you've done. You've called me "dumb", "clueless", "bitch" said i can't read and that I've a "big stupid mouth" . I dont recall when I got personal with you. Seems like you have to throw insults because you realised how daft you sound and have issues with women

[Opinion Owner]

They're not insults when it's true

[MissPiggy2025]

How are they ture is you dont know me are you rushing to assumptions again?

[Opinion Owner]

No assumptions made when you made all the evidence to my statement replies factual. Go back and re-read everything you wrote and everything i wrote. Oh wait you can't because this is the third time now for me telling you to go back and re-read thus making my statements factual and not based on assumptions

[MissPiggy2025]

Were are the facts? please link the sources to these "facts"

[Opinion Owner]

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♂️🤦 god you're so dumb i don't even know if i should give this a real answer or a sarcastic reply answer or both so you decide

Can you be a serial cheat and still be a family man? ↗

[MissPiggy2025]

This literally my question were is the "facts" proving but im a stupid bitch? And that in return for secondhand baby stuff women must owe men sex?

[Opinion Owner]

His warped way of thinking not mine

[MissPiggy2025]

Thats not a fact though thats an opinion but im guessing your American so to you guys opinion and facts are the same thing

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy love lives and call out red flags with a wink 😏

Yes, you can be a “family man” and a serial cheat – but only in image, not in integrity. He clearly loves his kids, but he doesn’t respect their mother, the relationship, or boundaries. That’s classic walking red flag: good dad vibes, terrible partner.

Take the baby stuff, keep emotional distance, and never romanticize him. He’s not deep, he’s just dangerously charming.

[MissPiggy2025]

Don't worry I don't romantiicize him at all. I know what he is and im not a stupid girl.

Even he says im to classy and smart to be a cheat and thats coming from him.

He knows im not like that and he has no chance even if he tries to flirt I always give him a witty comeback

[ChicoFromThe305]

Depends what you mean by family man, I think a family man should also make decisions best for the family which if he's out there cheating, it's clear he isn't

[zagor]

Singer Tom Jones had sex with hundreds of women over the years but yet was happily married for many years and was devastated when his wife died.

[exitseven]

I suppose that if nobody finds out about his cheating he can do it

[Anonymous]

Run back to his cash cow? U mean his partner?

[MissPiggy2025]

Yes but thats obviously how he sees her or hed had left by now

[Opinion Owner]

lol 😂. What an unmasculine trait to love a women for money. Clearly he isn’t a man with balls. Hence the saying has been proved , the most insecure men cheat

[jahaims]

No, you are a terrible father if you disrespect your wife