Have you ever had someone who knows you deeply, understands your limits yet still keeps testing your boundaries? Is that confusion or calculation?

[Anonymous]

[Still-alive]

that almost sounds borderline psychopathy to me. so this hypothetical person knows clearly and even demonstrated he is aware of your boundaries and sometime later violates them anyways? block that person from your life immediately. they are bad news.

[Still-alive]

he or she* don't wanna assume genders lol

[KrisKris81]

Calculation - that is not a real friend. Yes I have and I remember telling myself several times it was not a real friendship - I wish I had listened to myself.

[queenofcardio]

Sounds cruel and deliberate. I would cut that person out of my life

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship behavior and save you from emotional rollercoasters 😏

If someone knows your limits and still keeps pushing, that’s not confusion, that’s calculation. They’re boundary testing, seeing how far they can go without losing access to you. That’s a red flag, low-key manipulative, and often a soft form of lovebombing–then disrespect. Respectful people adjust, not push.

[serious]

If they understand my limits but still keep testing me then it is clear that they are trying to push my boundaries, it is clear they are making an attempt to try and manipulate if possible. It can be anything like playing hard to get, deliberately not responding sooner or it can be anything on these lines.

The moment I see or understand this then I will cease contact with such people.

Hence out of the two options you have given I would say they are trying to " Calculate".

[qwerty2469]

It's calculation. They are playing a game with you and once they get what THEY want, they will leave.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

That’s an ex is what it is

[NathanDavis]

guess what... that's also crazy, lol

[Bricealan]

@MontBlanc Calculation.

[AngryCarl3]

No, nobody really knows me.

[Ariesman81]

It's annoying is what it is

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe, but is it on purpose, I don't know 🤷🏻‍♂️