Why does my brother and his partner act so superior to me now when they used to be nicer and more humble a couple of years ago?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

As siblings enter adulthood, relationships change; they may feel more confident or successful due to new careers or wealth, leading to a "superior" attitude. Sometimes, people act superior to mask their own insecurities or to exert control in a relationship.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t say they are ballin either pretty average salaries
I never see them any way they both live in another country but I visited them last year and it was insufferable all they talk about is work

[Master_Debator]

This lacks context. You think we're mind readers?

Tell us the probable reasons instead of making me have to assume it's something like you not working and going out on multiple dates instead of finding a job.

[Asker]

Sorry there is no context but I have stable a long term partner, went university, don’t drink and take part in running events and have a steady job

[Master_Debator]

Girl, I still have no idea why your brother and his partner act so superior to you now when they didn't before.

There is cause and effect in this world... look for the most likely probable causes and the best answer to the question you posed, is going to be answered best by your attention to that. Attention to detail.

[Smart_Monk]

Speaking of shitty brothers and working out... i can't imagine what it's like to be my older brother who, recently again, in adulthood, started talking awful shit about me after i effortlessly lifted objects and placed them where they should be, that turns out he attempted many times to lift them and couldn't, despite him going to a commercial gym daily and chugs proteins and i haven't used proper gym equipment in years. It took me a while to realize what he is even pissed about. I met lots of people stronger than me and if they're nice to me i am nice to them... Don't understand the jealousy. Even my dad who's so egotistical nobody wants to live with him, when i was the only person left living with him when i was 15, when i managed to lift what he couldn't, even he didn't didn't talk shit about me for that. I guess it boils down to some sort of threats and competition. My dad didn't think that i am trying to "out do" him or something. Neither did i try it with my brother, but he somehow thinks i am.

Same me. Different outcome. That means my actions are not the problem.

Just verify if the "act superior" has any substance, treat his shit talk as a motivational quote or some shit. Which is to say, sometimes it makes sense, usually it doesn't.

[Master_Debator]

@Smart_Monk 2 types of people in this world. 1) Tears others down so they look great, and 2) Builds themselves up to be greater amongst others. Those words I just spoke were spoke by Aristotle long before Jesus which for some reason our time lines are set upon. Wisdom in it's solid form will not change a bit. I simplify it because a lot of points can be made in jest. What can I suggest but truth and from what you've seen? Nothing more than the evidence you provided me.

[AI Opinion]

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Your brother and his partner likely changed because of ego, insecurity, or new life circumstances. Maybe more money, social status, career, or a “power couple” fantasy made them start lovebombing each other and looking down on others. Their superiority is about their internal insecurity, not your worth. Protect your peace, keep your boundaries, stay classy and distant.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Did they come into money? Is she a buxom blonde?

[Asker]

No average backgrounds and wouldn’t say they are top earners either pretty average 40k euros a year

[Abbycado]

You don't know but think we will?