Is it really possible to both forgive and forget when someone hurts you?

[Tarifa]

Someone hurt you. Said some harsh words. There may be plenty of other situations.

They say time heals everything. But can you forgive and forget? Is it possible to do both?

[MontBlanc]

I think forgiving is possible, but forgetting is much harder.

Forgiveness is about freeing yourself from anger and resentment, allowing both yourself and the other person to move forward.

Forgetting, on the other hand, means the memory doesn’t affect you anymore and that usually takes time, perspective, and personal growth.

So yes, you can forgive and continue your life, but the lessons and memories often stay with you.

[RandomGirl42]

I believe it is a rather silly saying since it directly contradicts another old saying, "Those who forget the past are condemned to repeat it."

It's a good phrase for letting go of hurt and anger but is often misinterperted, in my opinion.

And also, it's not really biblical. https://www.youthpastortheologian.com/blog/is-forgive-and-forget-biblical

[Crankor]

You dont have to forgive or forget. Just dont let it hang over you to the degree of you applying those emotions onto another potential partner. The general rule is it takes about 3 months of no contact to get over someone emotionally. Thats just a guideline but the hurt aspect you just have to learn to keep it aside and only attach it to the person who is involved

[Larry30]

I completely believe in forgive but not necessarily forget. How else are you supposed to learn?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love, drama, and all the messy emotions in between for you.

You can truly forgive, but “forget” is mostly a fantasy. The memory usually stays, but the emotional charge fades. Real forgiveness is when you remember it without wanting revenge or crying in the shower. If the person repeats the behavior, that’s not forgiveness territory anymore, that’s red-flag city.

[Simslover92]

I don't think so with most cases. It's easy to forgive but harder to forget.

[sage2021]

When someone hurts you and does it on purpose it's very hard to forget what they did to you. God made us with a brain to remember things.

But the Bible says to forgive those as God has forgiven you. So I would have to forgive them.

[CherryLove007]

Yes to both we have the power installed in us to forget once and a while it is not on our brains at every given moment or our brain would be hot and we couldn't get much accomplished.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, but always remember that forgiveness does not automatically mean the person maintains the same, or any, position in your life. Forgiving someone who beat you, for example, does not require that you remain in a place where that person can beat you again.

[thegreenyogi]

Not really. You can be civil but nothing ever gets forgotten or forgiven.

[Nikki1989]

Of course. It is called acting like an adult.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You forgive because you forget, and then you move on without them

[fish5505_87]

Its very, very hard, but probably the best thing to do. Forgive doesn't mean accept.

[Anonymous]

It's possible to forgive, but it's not easy to forget.

[Mariogirl09]

Always forgive

But never forget

[Agape93]

Not me. I don't forgive or forget.

[goaded]

Sometimes. Not always.

[qwerty2469]

Only if you are a weak cuck.