Must you call a good friend you're sleeping with a friends with benefits or situationship?

[Simslover92]

He doesn't believe in labels and neither do I anymore. So why label ourselves anything?

[MisterWack]

If you both are friends who like fucking, then you don’t have to be a label.

You are two friends who are horny and that’s it.

Like it can be BDSM, Vanilla, what have you and I don’t see any use for labels as long as you are both comfortable and happy with it. Cheers!

[Simslover92]

Thanks!

[MisterWack]

@Simslover92 You’re welcome, I am hormonal too. Just nature.

[Still-alive]

It if feels like a relationship and its going really fast and there's lots of passionate sex… that tick the box for ‘situationship’ to me. Be careful because they can burn out just as quickly as they start. Talking from experience here unfortunately lol

[Simslover92]

Ok lol

[Still-alive]

Just saying.

If its just sex and you’re just friends with no romance then its just friends with benefits

[Simslover92]

Yeah that's true. I guess so though I don't really want to label it as anything as he doesn't believe in labels like friends with benefits and I want to honor that.

[Still-alive]

I suppose lol. I hope you aren’t reading too much into it.

[Simslover92]

No I'm not. I'm just enjoying the ride lol that's all. There's no pressure on either side just having fun that's all.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy love dynamics and make them a little sexier and clearer for you 😏

You don’t have to call it friends with benefits or a situationship at all. Labels aren’t required, but clarity is. As long as you both know: no lovebombing, no hidden expectations, no secret desire for commitment. If your actions match your “no label” talk and no one’s catching deeper feelings, you’re good.

[ohsheeT]

It's kinda funny now that I think about it because when this happens and I guess when everything is great we get that title or label.

But for some reason when we end it our titles or label's change to. Jackass or to witch.

Your right to many label's in this world so if you need to have a lable I guess incase your forget who you are just use lover and ex lover. And if everyone has that label and nobody will know who you're talking about. Because there'll be all kinds of ex levers and lovers.

[AviatorTom]

I'm with you. We don't need labels. Just be yourself.

Is there really a difference between being in an unmarried relationship, friends with benefits or fuck buddies?

[Finchie40]

FWB’s until her and I become official , if we don’t become official eventually then she will just be a friend

[MontBlanc]

Not necessarily.

Labels like “friends with benefits” or “situationship” can help clarify boundaries and expectations, but what really matters is being honest with yourself and the other person about what you want.

If both people are clear and comfortable with the arrangement, the label becomes less important than mutual respect and communication.

[CherryLove007]

On my other social media app the first sentence is that i am not a label. Nobody needs to know squat about my life and who i choose to friend or befriend.

[CherryLove007]

and another thing... do you have sex with all your other friends? hopefully no and so your guy friend is special and your ok with the energy you both share and at the moment and that is all that is needed to be said.

[CherryLove007]

@Simslover92 Humans are wired for connection first, not categories.

[Simslover92]

Thank you. It is a connection that I value with him. It may not be what I want it to be but it's still better than nothing.

[Tarifa]

I draw a very clear line. A friend is a friend, period. I'm either in a relationship with someone, and that's exclusive, or I'm not. I think that sleeping with a random person is fooling around. Great if that's what you're looking for, but let's just call it what it is.

[lilBigPotato]

A good friend is always a benefit to you, sex or not. And everything is a situation in some way or form. So both of these labels are quite meaningless.

In the end it doesn't matter what you call it...

[midnightmoon05]

That will never happen to a friend.
Committment is important to me. Goal and purpose is also very important.
I don’t have time to waste.
now happily married with 2 kids. That is fulfillment.

[Hulk30]

yea if that's what it is now in North America we've been Conditioned in certain way's Men tend to seek Power while Women tend to seek Freedom the thing about Women in these Situation's based on Female Nature is when they catch feeling's the rule's change that bein said goin into Sexual Situation's the onus is on Women to sign up for what they're actually cool with and can handle though

[Bricealan]

@Simslover92 I had a friend with benefits, at work when at Firestone. No strings attached, but alas, I was too stupid and possibly too selfish to reciprocate, with the appropriate sex play, and she dropped me like a piece of lava.

[BCRanger10]

All the more reason for us as a society to entirely do away with the whole concept of "friends with benefits".

[Abbycado]

Sorry, I just wouldn’t sleep with a friend.

[realbiggrin]

Shouldn't your lover be a friend?

[Abbycado]

Yes, but your friend should never be your lover.

[Nikki1989]

No, he doesn't have to be any of those things. It's not as though those labels hold any significant meaning.

[Berethor]

It called friends with benefits, the labels help to understand but you don't have to use them.

[LC75LC71]

None are necessary, but that 2nd term is just stupid.

[Simslover92]

I 100% agree. It is.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean u don’t believe in labels.

[Simslover92]

I don't believe that you should have to label things like situationships or friends with benefits. It's just two friends messing around.

[midnightmoon05]

I like simplicity.
Call me boring. But at lease I know exactly where I stand. So. boyfriend/girlfriend. Engagement. Marriage. Kids. Family.
I don’t like complicated relationships.
You?

[Simslover92]

Yes when it is that of course but two friends just messing around no.

[midnightmoon05]

They don’t get the privilege. Only one who gives me a title will deserve me.

[Simslover92]

Well in my case it's a bit complicated.

[midnightmoon05]

You enjoy being in this state of “situationship” ?

[Simslover92]

Not at all but what can I do? It's either this where I still have some sort of romantic connection with him or nothing at all.

[midnightmoon05]

You know which I picked.
You may see it differently.
Once we are not in it… we can see thibgs clearer.

[Simslover92]

That's true. We can.

[Opinion Owner]

So u are just messing around. Stop being Serious

[fish5505_87]

I just heard this term here for the first time. Why ask Why?

[Simslover92]

Because people often want to label things like that when there doesn't need to be a label for whatever it is we are doing.

[fish5505_87]

I wouldn't worry about it, let people think what they may, those people are probably involved in way more situational things then they would ever admit.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

We're adults, it's just friends at this point. 😂

[sage2021]

I don't know because I don't have intercourse with my friends!!

[Greatful]

Friends sounds good, labels constrict, and add expectations friends is expansive friend is two people supporting one and other licting each otther up confiding and trusting

[Shiprex]

Call it whatever but it's likely to evolve into something or end uncomfortably

[MikeTheBartender]

friends with benefits or no labels. Situationship indicates some sort of potential

[realbiggrin]

I agree.

[exitseven]

when I was dating friends with benefits was an abstract idea.

[Anonymous]

i don't care about labels. I just call it some guy that im sleeping with. thats it.

you people make it way harder than it really is

[dougeats]

I don't sleep with friends because then they are not just friends any longer. It can also ruin a friendship

[Jerre]

It’s not necessary to call them friends with benefits. I DO WHEN TALKING to other people as I rarely use their names.

[Jerre]

@Simslover92 Thank you for the Like

[scott04sa22]

Friends with benefits mostly have expiration dates.

[Jeff51]

I dont think I would sleep with a friends friend

[Jeff51]

Im glad I was born in the 70s. To much drama today about stuff.

[Grond21]

I believe that is short term thinking

[Simslover92]

What do you mean?

[Simslover92]

Have you ever heard of the song you can't always get what you want?

[Grond21]

Labels, when used well, are phenomenally helpful and peace giving. They let us rest in the relationship, knowing it reflects our level of commitment.

But when we are focused on how we feel in the moment the lack of labels can feel like freedom. But it quickly turns into distance, usury, or insecurity

[Grond21]

I haven't

[Simslover92]

Basically the song says you can't always get what you want but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need. So I may not like the short term thinking and being without labels but it's what I need right now. It may not be what I want with him but it's better than the alternative.

[Grond21]

Oh, yes I have heard that.

I hear you. Sort of a lesser of two evils situation. But is that really the only way you can keep a relationship with him? Does he not want to commit to you?

[Simslover92]

We've already tried unfortunately and it didn't work out.

[Simslover92]

We're just really food friends now

[Simslover92]

*good

[Grond21]

Being friends is platonic.

To be blunt, if it didn't work before, and the best you can do is be friends with benefits, what makes you think it can grow this time?

[Simslover92]

Because we're both growing as people and have learned a lot from what happened and what went wrong. I think we could really work towards something again if we try but we both have to want it.

[Grond21]

Does he want it? Not just the intimacy, but the commitment as well?

[Simslover92]

Not as this time but he might want it in the future.

[Grond21]

Then you are placing your hopes on a "might"

[Simslover92]

You're right I am but I won't always. I'm giving it a few months and then I'm giving up on the idea of us.

[Grond21]

That makes sense. Putting a time limit on it honors your dignity, as well as his. If it works then you don't need more time, and if it doesn't then staying robs the two of you of time and potentially future partners

[Simslover92]

Right. It does.

[Grond21]

I wish you the best of luck and happiness

[Simslover92]

Thanks

[Grond21]

Always

[Shortkay45685]

Yeah just let him fuck you until he finds a girlfriend.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Call them a BOOM BOOM BUDDY instead.

[MrChinaski]

I agree with both of you.

[LiamJHayden]

No need. Such labels are for others.

[msc545]

Anything you want, it doesn't matter.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You dont have to call it that but thats what it is

[qwerty2469]

Neither. Titles are for cucks.

[Anonymous]

No, I've never liked that term.

[zombiewoof]

Why not just friends

[Simslover92]

We are just friends

[zombiewoof]

Exactly

[dudeinohio]

I see your point.

[audean57]

Casual fuck buddy