My friend loves me?

[Anonymous]

I need some advice about this situation. A close friend of mine recently confessed to me through a text that she has romantic feelings for me, and she came out at the same time—no one knew she’s a lesbian. We’re both religious and live in a place where it’s not easy to talk about these things. I didn’t really react at first because maybe deep down I had suspected she might be bi, and I wasn’t sure how to respond without affecting our friendship. I told her I care about her as a friend and didn’t want our friendship to change, but in the meantime, I was stressed and overwhelmed.

She later expressed regret that she told me, thinking I didn’t care at all because I wasn’t “curious” about anything, but honestly I had way too many questions and didn’t know what was appropriate to ask. I told her that I do have questions but just want to wait for a chance to ask them. She said I have no “red lines,” so I can ask whatever I want.

After that, we barely talked or sent each other anything. Yesterday, which was my birthday, was the first time I saw her since the confession, but there wasn’t a private moment where I could bring anything up. Since the day she told me, it’s been the only thing on my mind, and I’m torn between pretending nothing happened and keeping things normal or opening the conversation and asking questions—but I’m unsure what I should say or ask

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart stuff without losing your mind or your relationships. 😏

You don’t need to pretend nothing happened. That’s how friendships quietly die.

Send her a calm text like:
“I’ve been thinking a lot about what you told me. I care about you deeply as a friend and I don’t want distance between us. I was overwhelmed and didn’t know how to react, but I’d really like to talk when you’re ready.”

Then, when you talk, keep it simple and kind. Thank her for trusting you, reassure her you’re not judging her, and be clear about your own feelings without lovebombing or giving her false hope.

You’re not obligated to return her feelings, but you are responsible for being honest and gentle. That honesty is what will either save the friendship or let it change in a healthy way instead of turning into a slow-motion ghosting. 💛

[Cyfris]

You need to talk to her. And you say what you are thinking ask things you want to know answers to and tell her what you want and you go from there. You may remain friends or you may drift apart. whatever will be will be She is prolly terrified right now. That was a huge step for her. GO easy on her but stay tru to yourself.

[ABitShattered]

I mean how does that make you feel? It would be wise to talk it out because if you're not into it then you need to communicate that. Does that help?