If you were marrying someone from another country would you rather move to THEIR country, or they to YOUR country?

[KostasKouvalis]

They to mine

Me to theirs

[midnightmoon05]

My younger sister married her French husband… he moved to the US. He is very happy that he is out of France.
my hubby and I were long distance. He moved to me and we are now happily married.
he and my French brother in law get along really well.

[KostasKouvalis]

Really? He's happy he gave up his universal health care, 5 weeks vacation and lifestyle?

[midnightmoon05]

He still gets 5 weeks of vacation from his new job here. He has health care. He also gets health care from my sister’s job just incase he goes to a new job that may not have healthcare. Life style? Being single? And paying 50% tax? Took him over 12 adult working years to buy his one bedroom apartment In Paris
He married my little sister (both in their 30s) came here… took him 9 months to get a job… (actually no… he had to wait for his paperwork … green card or something … while being a stay home dad. Once he got his green card… took him 3-4 months to get his current job) 5 weeks of vacation, triple his French salary. Purchased his dream car with cash in 5 months. Purchased a 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment after 1 1/2. Now 2 kids… I think he is here 4 years now… their first kid will turn 4 in May… so yea… the American drwam!!
They will also be able to pay off their mortgage in 4 more years… so life is good.
Since we traveled extensively throughout Europe… most whom we encountered want to come to the US but not easy.

[KostasKouvalis]

I am very surprised to hear this. I think for Third Worlds the US is an upgrade, but for Europeans it's a downgrade

[midnightmoon05]

Maybe for Switzerland and Norwegians are better.
The few we spoke to from Italy, Portugal, France do want to leave. They don’t seem happy. We got to know our air b n b host family… they were just surviving… can’t get ahead. (French)
One of my other friend left London in her 20s. Crashed with a friend. Got a job here. Once she married with a green card, she got a higher paying job. Combined income… they were making over $300k 20 years ago. Now with 2 kids and purchased a brownstone.
I still believe all can make the American dream. (The normal healthy brain with an ounce of intelligence and ambition)

[Julie07]

Your sister met a rootless Frenchman, a mentally colonized American.

[KostasKouvalis]

@Julie07 I agree

[midnightmoon05]

Now he has dual citizenship. Same with their kids

[Julie07]

No surprise there.

[Julie07]

I wouldn’t give up my life in France. Of course, I could go to my husband’s country, perhaps for several years, but I’ll come back to France. Always.

[KostasKouvalis]

I was wondering about you. I haven't seen you in days and thought you were gone again.

Anyways... so you would marry a non-French man?
And that's a good idea. I didn't think about that

[KostasKouvalis]

Would you marry someone from outside the EU?

[Julie07]

I could, yes.

[KostasKouvalis]

Oh nice.

[KostasKouvalis]

As long as he's not a Quebecer

[MontBlanc]

I don’t think it should be about one person giving up everything for the other.

For me, it’s more about what makes sense for both people where we can grow, feel stable, and build something together.

If the connection is real, I believe both sides would be willing to adapt, not just expect the other to adjust completely.

[KostasKouvalis]

So move to a neutral third country?