Are traditional, old-school lovers no longer valued?

[neelairf]

In a fast-paced digital society, our attention spans and tolerance levels have dwindled collectively. A swipe has replaced traditional wooing methods, where the external image of a person has seemingly more significance than the eternal substance of the soul. Do you feel that old-school lovers have a place in today's society? Especially to girls- Do you value those kind of people?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think once people have spent enough time dating or watching their friends date, they understand that high status women or alpha males, often have behavioural problems or infidelity issues, it is why Tiger Wood's ex-wife did not want to date him when Tiger Woods first began chasing him, even though he was this famous guy who could buy her anything she wanted, she knew the emotional cost of being in a bad relationship, even if the status was high.

[neelairf]

As always, spot-on insights from ya 😊 However, in general, do you feel that short-term pleasure has overpowered long-term stability in relationships?

[jennifer_bloom]

I would say women who are healthy never seek short term pleasure, if a guy is good looking and his personality is bad, she is not going to sleep with him or date him at all, because he will still make her miserable, short term.

[neelairf]

I really appreciate all people who are giving unconditional love, no matter how hard things get. Have a splendid weekend 😊

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re not “old school” in your loving, if that’s the case then I would assume a certain level of sexism. Connection has not become any more or less difficult than it was before, to say that it has is just another way of saying you struggle to connect at all

[neelairf]

It's not about connection alone, but rather the sustainability of the same.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you’re unable to sustain a connection, that says it’s even more about your actions than your ideals

[neelairf]

Oh, I thought connections are not one-way traffic

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

They’re not, and if you feel the connection but they don’t and the only common denominator in these situations is the fact that they’re dating you specifically, the question of “what am I doing wrong?” Is worth asking.

[Finchie40]

It seems rare these days to come across a long lasting happy married couple , for awhile , thought my ex wife and I were one of the last surviving married couples until she decided to be selfish so now I am back on the dating market hoping to find a better girl

[neelairf]

I'm so sorry mate. Hope you find your true love 🤗

[Finchie40]

Thanks man, yea I am taking it slow and trying to play my cards right this time around , I honestly feel a little lost , since I haven’t been in the dating market for a long ass time and times have definitely changed. So everything seems new to me when it comes to meeting girls’ so until I find a good girl my ass is staying single

[neelairf]

Man, I get ya. It's not easy, but hang in there 🤗 You'll find someone worthy of your love

[AMS700CX4u2]

Sorry for your troubles. My wife and I have been married 54 years.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Traditional... Old school... What?

Your experience has little in common with my experience lol, but there's a 20 years gap between us, and probably a geographical one as well. Which makes your statement a sensationalist one I can't relate to.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode love, flirt with ideas, and expose red flags and green flags in dating 💘

Old-school lovers absolutely still have a place. Genuine effort, consistency, emotional depth, real communication, and loyalty? Huge green flags. A lot of people are exhausted by ghosting, hookups, and lovebombing. Many girls quietly crave someone who courts, listens, shows up, and means what they say. Classic romance never went out of style, it just became rare… and rare is valuable.

[MrChinaski]

There's more to life than the face of a pretty girl. I think most people are still looking for a deep emotional connection within a relationship that is supportive, challenging and allows you to grow together over years and decades. I know I am.

[CalmUntilAbused]

Yes, old-school lovers very much still have a place in today's society. The problem is the place in question is the outskirts of society... Or even the area outside of the recognized borders! 😄

[LazerBean]

The dating pool for such people has certainly shrunk, but it is still valued even by people outside of that pool.

[neelairf]

I agree with you

[californiareaper]

Nevermind what @nikki1989 and @cupcakethedestroyer say, they are two girls on here that have always been so full of their own bullshit that they can't see anything from anybody else's point of view

[neelairf]

And it seems like the latter is entitled to blame anyone but hold a mirror

[Nikki1989]

"A swipe has replaced traditional wooing methods."

Maybe for you, but I have never known anyone to use dating apps.

[beenherebefore]

Old school love is very much valued but rare these days.

[neelairf]

And it's even rarer to find sustained values in this regard.

[beenherebefore]

I think a lot of young people lack good morals and values. A lot of these 20 yo grew up in single parent houses and don't have good examples of a healthy relationship and whether you accept it or not that affects your whole view and definition of how a relationship is supposed to be.

[exitseven]

I imagine most would welcome this kind of relationship.

[neelairf]

But not put in the sustained efforts for the same

[exitseven]

That is exactly the problem

[neelairf]

Exactly. Your youth times were the best

[exitseven]

Yes but once I got married I was in it to win it

[neelairf]

And I guess you did

[exitseven]

It is still a work in progress

[Bloodparadise]

I love old school romanticism like writing love letters, classical music upto (1980s) and day to day methodic dating..

I love old school gestures like holding hands..

[LazloValenka]

The exact opposite. It's hard to find old school lovers.

[fonduegirl]

Old school love >

[XXblack88]

🤔 I think they're harder to come by

[neelairf]

Cent percent true

[genericname85]

do you value them?

[neelairf]

Yeah, mate, pretty much why I've been single all these years hehe

[genericname85]

Well if you value them, they are valued xD

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, probably.