Am I wrong to expect my partner to confront a friend who encourages cheating?

[Anonymous]

My partner was told by his friend that he wouldn't tell me if he cheated with someone that was already showing interest towards my partner. We're long distance, my partner merely said no. Am I wrong for expecting a bit more than a no? Or him not being around someone who encourages cheating?

[jahaims]

I wouldn't date someone who is okay with being friends with a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Not wrong at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship dynamics and protect your heart, so let’s dive in.

You’re not wrong at all. A simple “no” is the bare minimum. If a friend openly supports cheating, that’s a huge red flag. Your partner should shut that down clearly and set boundaries, especially in long distance where trust is everything.

You’re allowed to expect loyalty, standards, and friends who don’t normalize betrayal.

[CriminallyInsane]

Not ratting someone out isn't the same as encouraging. They are friends and they are loyal to each other so they aren't going to tell on one another. That's how a lot of friendships are.

[Asker]

Not how a lot of relationships are, breaks trust and causes trust issues when that person is around.

[queenofcardio]

He just said he wouldn't tell. That's not the same. You can still be against something and not speak about it. Sometimes it isn't the person's place to say something.

[MrChinaski]

Wait. A told B that A wouldn't tell C if A shagged D that liked B...

Remind me, who's on first?

[OneViewpoint]

Asshole friend told Boyfriend that he wouldn't rat him out if he cheated on his Chick. ABC get it. The whole Bro's before Ho's thing.

Now Chick is having massive insecurity attack worrying that Asshole friend is a bad influence and Boyfriend is a pushover who can be easily influenced into cheating on her.

Girls apparently spend their lives worrying about what might happen and the boyfriend has already been found guilty and convicted by association in her mind.

[MrChinaski]

@OneViewpoint Ahhh...

To the question asker: If you trust him then it isn't an issue. If you don't trust him then you should leave him and it still isn't an issue.