Should I tell my friend’s wife that he is cheating?

[Anonymous]

A few days ago I asked my friend why his oldest daughter seemed to be stressed and losing weight, he then told me that his daughter knew things no one else did, he told me he has been cheating on his wife for about 8 months. He tried to use me as a third wheel to meet with that other girl. I refused because I felt that what he is doing is wrong because he has 4 kids with his wife already and his decision could really messed them up. Now, his wife…she’s is not the best, she is a hater, she is bitter most of the time and let’s just say that she always treats my friend like shit. She has never liked that I’m still friends with her husband and has treated me very badly. In this case I don’t know if I should tell her because 1) I don’t really give a f about her but 2) i worry about the kids especially the oldest of their daughters. I talked to her and she is so stressed about her parents divorcing, she said she feels like she is betraying her mom…I mean, it really broke me to hear her say things like that. What should I do?

Updates

+1 y

I forgot to mention, their daughter asked me to talk to her mom. I had full plans of staying out of it. She called me three times today asking me to do it because she knows when my friend goes to see the other girl. I’m just worried because this girl was 130lbs, now she’s 75lbs and it’s not healthy at all.

[DavidRaul]

You should talk to your friend first and tell him the things she told you, how she is betraying her mom , and feels stressed. He should be the one taking care of his daughter so he should be the one telling everything to his wife. It would be like betraying your friend if you talk to the wife and mess your friendship but you also have to do the right thing. Talk to him and if he doesn't want to come clean , you do the deed

[bobby_bush_eater]

If your friend really cares for his daughter you should urge him into coming clean and getting a divorce. Make him realize the awkward situation he's putting you in.

[JamesDiaz11]

I think the best thing is to send the daughter to therapy/ counseling, while simultaneously entering into marriage counseling. The counseling should decide whether the couple can/ should stay together, and until then the husband should stay away from this other girl. If things cannot be worked out, then they should proceed with a divorce.

I've been a cheater- I know it's a dirt-bag move, but there are reasons guys/ girls look elsewhere for an escape. BUT it's quite another thing to burden your child with the knowledge of this, while expecting them to keep it a secret- that's borderline child abuse.

[Anonymous]

There's a price to be paid with having things convenient. Used to be... a man had to go to the store to buy himself a pitcher of milk. Hyeah, but men got lazy. They wanted that milk delivered right to the door. Only problem was, the guy deliverin' that milk end sup fuckin' your wife. Sure, you had your nice cold milk delivered right to your doorstep, but your wife was gettin' pounded out like a mallard duck. And now you got your Amazon. And the milkman's come back. And none of ya are safe.

[Anonymous]

It might be worth explaining to the oldest daughter that parents divorce all the time. Sometimes, it's for the better. Explain that her mother is a worthless pos and it's no surprise dad found happiness elsewhere.

[Guy13]

I would stay out of it as it is their personal Business. MYOB is the acronym, I believe.

[boggboss]

Guess that's your choice to be honest I personally wouldn't involve myself

[worldscolide]

I would say yes. Save her the heart ache.. But get proof first because he can deny it.

[macjets007]

Yes. She has to know the truth.

[RuthlessAggression]

why do you need to get involved?

[smilelots]

thats a hard one but I say yes.

[baserunner611]

Therapy therapy

[007kingifrit]

i would stay out of it

[LazerBean]

Yup.

[Miristheiss]

100% yes.