Are you able to maintain your self-respect in romantic relationships?

[PolarPoint]

İt's hard though

[aaron13547]

Yes I think we have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. If you want to be able to give love, it has to come from somewhere. That somewhere is within...

This is why when people perform for a relationship or to be what the other person wants they aren't happy, and it doesnr work.

Love isn't a cause for a relationship its an effect of a relationship... We have forgotten that in today's life. Today love is something everyone needs to feel complete. Instead of the effect of loving themselves so much it overflows. another person picks up on that same love because they are also overflowing with the same vibration.

The self respect is maintained when the relationship is because your life is made better by their presence. Not what they have to offer.

Love is suppose to be unconditional, we put conditions on it but still call it love...

[PolarPoint]

yes , you are right

[aaron13547]

Thanks for the mho.

[Anonymous]

The only way to have self respect is to sacrifice yourself.

If you don't sacrifice yourself you're a pussy coward. ㅤ

And by that i mean, sacrifice yourself emotionally.

Only when you experience the act of worrying for another's wellbeing, can you be sure that you yourself are worth respecting and worrying for.

[PolarPoint]

You are right. you are right. I strugles to sacrifice myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Be careful with the terminology, though. Just like i think ego is a good thing, it is what distinguishes us from animals, while usually people think the ego is evil, because they actually think that ego is the animal nature in us, which is exactly the opposite. We should use ego to conquer the negative aspects of our biology.

When i say sacrifice yourself emotionally, i mean be strong enough emotionally in order to have something to sacrifice. Worry for another out of choice, feel a sense of worry that you never feel for anyone else. If you do that, you will know that it is not just social programming and ego-less compulsion.

No amount of theorizing intellectually can make you feel fulfilled. Self esteem is about emotional sacrifice. But just like physical sacrifice: you cannot be a productive laborer if your body is frail. So too your emotional capacity needs to be juicy in order to be worrh sacrificing. Do not "get rid" of your emotions, that's not a sacrifice.

Self respect is not observable in external actions. Many people act arrogant to fake self esteem when they feel too weak inside.

[sage2021]

Definitely! Because I exercised my self-respect and set a boundary for not allowing some guy to tell me about the secret sexual things that he does to himself, that was the end for us.

But I wasn't going to listen to a man talking nasty to me like that!

[PolarPoint]

You are quinn

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[Nikki1989]

Of course. It is too easy, but it's a skill, not a personality trait.

[PolarPoint]

Yes, you are right. But how can I improve myself?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, dodge red flags, and keep your heart (and self-respect) intact. 😉

Yeah, it’s hard, but it’s possible. Self-respect means not chasing after ghosting, not accepting crumbs, and not begging for bare minimum effort. If you’re always over-giving, lovebombing yourself into the relationship, you’ll feel empty. Set boundaries, say “no” when needed, and remember: losing someone is better than losing yourself.

[PolarPoint]

You said right : losing someone is better than losing yourself

[siefert_S]

Maintaining self-respect in a romantic relationship is essential for ensuring the partnership remains a grounded sanctuary rather than a source of emotional depletion. Self-respect acts as the internal foundation that allows you to communicate your boundaries with transparency and radical honesty, ensuring that your "emotional tank" isn't drained by compromising your core values for the sake of companionship. When both individuals prioritize mutual respect, the relationship fosters mental clarity and collective growth instead of leading to a cycle of resentment. In my research into how people express these values through meaningful symbols of commitment, I came across a brand called davidwygant that emphasizes ethical craftsmanship, which serves as a good reminder that integrity should exist in every layer of a partnership, from the way you treat each other to the items you choose to represent your bond. Ultimately, staying true to your self-worth allows you to build a connection that is supportive, balanced, and sustainable over the long term

[DryGermanGuy]

Great babble, ChatGPT.

[PolarPoint]

@DryGermanGuy ahahahah why are you saying that dont break someon's heart

[PolarPoint]

@siefert_S Yes, self-respect has many benefits.

[DryGermanGuy]

It's worthless digital word vomit, written by a dead computer. Better delete it.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"But you know, love is a passionate thing, and people can go crazy when they don't get attention."

These are 2 separate topics, there's love and there's your own balance.

If you repeatedly get crazy for attention in a relationship, then love or passion aren't to blame. Your emotional balance is the core instead. That's why NathanDavis talked about therapy.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Love and personal balance can easily be confused for one another, because love involves your own balance constantly, love is revealing that balance you didn't look at.

[jahaims]

Duh. You aren't emotionally healthy if it is hard for you

[PolarPoint]

Sort of

[NathanDavis]

it has never been any sort of issue or struggle...

what do you mean it is hard for you to do so?

[PolarPoint]

Even though someone who Im in relationship with, treated unfairly to me, I desperately continue the relationship because I m attached to him.

[PolarPoint]

@NathanDavis I can't completely end the relationship; even if I break up, I always come back.

[NathanDavis]

oh... that's not good at all

[PolarPoint]

What is your advice?

[NathanDavis]

therapy, lots of it

[PolarPoint]

I dont go to therapy just for relationship things.

[PolarPoint]

@NathanDavis
What is your another advice?

[NathanDavis]

either therapy or police...

[PolarPoint]

Ahah

[Spencer10]

With ease. Being in a relationship should change nothing.

[PolarPoint]

What if you lose her. You would go into depression. You wouldfeel a lot of pain

[Spencer10]

If I have to lose my self respect to stay in a relationship its not worth it.

[PolarPoint]

Im the only one who can't think that way :D I want but I can't :(

[Spencer10]

Well you have to be who you are right?

[PolarPoint]

Yes. And also I want be myself

[Staff2002]

Yes ability do your things by myself at times. And my partner knows.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I’m not male-centered, so yes

[PolarPoint]

For example, imagine you love someone very much, you're very attached to him, but He acts narcissistically. Could you leave him?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Easily

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

My comfort comes first

[MrChinaski]

Love is hard work to do well. It should never feel like punishment.

[Iron_Man]

of course I always have self-respect. Why wouldn’t I

[PolarPoint]

For example, a girl has blocked you everywhere, it's clear she doesn't want you. Would you break your self-respect and write to her again? but you really really want her.

[Iron_Man]

Yes if I like her and want to clear the air. I don’t let pride get in the way

[PolarPoint]

For example, How often you dont express your thoughts because you're afraid of the possibility of arguing and breaking up in a relationship?

[Iron_Man]

I always express my thoughts I try to work with the female so we can get along well, but I don’t hide my thoughts if there’s something bothering me

[PolarPoint]

Im struggling to do that really.

[Iron_Man]

Do you have a boyfriend that you’re talking to on here or somebody in Turkey that you’re struggling with?

[PolarPoint]

I dont have boyfriend now. Thats my grammer mistake. When I have a boyfriend, my fear of breaking up prevents me from fully and completely expressing my thoughts. I had the same experience with an American boyfriend before. Its not about turkish mens. Its about me

[Iron_Man]

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had trouble before. Never let fear control your thoughts if you have something on your mind open up with that person.

[PolarPoint]

You are right menn , Im gonna do that.

[Iron_Man]

Good job sounds good

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure you able to maintain your self respect in a romantic relationship. Why do you find it hard to do that?

[PolarPoint]

No , I can get easly angry , when I didn't take enough attention from him. And I try to bother him to take attention to be taken care of :)

[PolarPoint]

There are no limits to what I can do to get attention.

[Zionne]

i don't actually know

[PolarPoint]

Thank you answering honestly

[queenofcardio]

Ofcourse. That's not an issue

[Master_Debator]

Why not... I'm the one they want.

[WhitneySnow]

I am, but I haven’t had that many

[Nahid1707]

Yes. i would want to do this too.

[DirtyOldMan777]

As a Dom, yes.

[dudeinohio]

Sure

[Jeff51]

Yes.

[PolarPoint]

But you know, love is a passionate thing, and people can go crazy when they don't get attention. Don't you do things like that? I had called my boyfriend exactly 100 times in the morning and afternoon because he wasn't answering my calls. :(

[PolarPoint]

my ex boyfriend

[PolarPoint]

@Jeff51

[Jeff51]

100 is a lot. I don't know what i would do if girlfriend or anyone did that.

[PolarPoint]

And that's why he broke up with me. He is idiot. isn't that a bad reasion to broke up. If he loved me, he would be with me no matter what. Do you agree @Jeff51 ?

[Jeff51]

I agree