Have you ever been in a secret relationship?

[Anonymous]

How did it feel?

Also, did you know why your SO was hiding you?

How long did it last?

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes, my first one! She was already married and had a 3 year old. The night we started fooling around, she told me that she was gonna divorce him soon, anyway because he beats the hell out of her! So, I just figured, that means, she's fair game and I wanna get my dibs in before anyone else, now that I'm being given the chance! Then, she invited me to stay with her at their house, which I did for another 2 months until it was found out that she and I had been fucking each other for the past 3 months.

[Asker]

That must have been harsh!

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes, he was QUIT pissed at her but, we all still stayed friends for years after that. She DID eventually divorce him and married his best friend. I think they broke up a few years later because, the last time I saw her, 19 years after we met, she was all over me, again!

[Asker]

Oh wow, that sounds like a movie! So many plot twists.

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing your story.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, I guess you could say that. It all started because my band got a new guitarist who thought he was King Shit on guitar and wouldn't let the original guitarist play much so, John quit the band and, as we usually have a 2-guitar approach, I started looking for a replacement for John and found Bill in the newspaper. He looked A LOT like Carlos Santana and played at LEAST as well as Carlos!! He came to audition and Frank wouldn't even let him play a note!! Frank looked a lot like Eddie Van Halen and even had the same type of guitar and played a lot like him but, he claimed he hated Eddie!!
Bill and I quickly became good friends and he invited me to dinner at his house one night and then, after eating, he & I and his wife would all go into town for a 3 Stooges film festival while Bill's dad babysat for them.
At dinner, I seem to recall his wife, Sally, at least TRYING to play footsy with me under the table!! I'm not 100% sure of that.
If you've ever seen the movie, "Spring Break", the singer of the band, Hot Date, Corrine Alphen, could be Sally's twin sister!!
At the theatre, I let Bill sit between us but, Sally made some excuse for having me between her and Bill so, we switched seats. During the movies, she kept pressing her leg up against mine but, although I DID think it was a bit strange, I paid almost no attention to this because she's married and Bill is my good friend!
A couple weeks later, my band was playing a gig at some frat house party and Bill decided he wanted Sally to go to the gig to hear us play. I told him that, as it was a private house party, I didn't think I could get her in and it'd be better to wait `til we had a bar gig somewhere but, he insisted she go with me and said that, "if anybody asks you about her, tell them she's your girlfriend and I'll even give you permission to kiss her, if you need to prove it." Of course, I had no intention of kissing her UNLESS I was asked to prove it!

[FunkyMonkee]

The plans were, she would come to my place that afternoon with whatever she needed to spend the night at my house in the spare room, on the 2nd floor. My room was on the 3rd floor! Then, we'd go to the gig together, I'd play the gig and, afterwards, we'd both go back to my place where we'd sleep in separate rooms on different floors and then, in the morning, we'd get on a bus and go back to her house. None of us drove except for Frank and Dave, the keyboardist.
We got to the gig, played the 4-hour show and we had at least 3 breaks about 20:00 each. During the first break, she & I went to front porch to cool off, it was a very hot June night. We just sat and talked for a while. During that break, she mentioned that she hurt her finger coming up out of the basement. In a joking mood, I asked her if she wanted me to kiss it and make it better. She pouted playfully and said, 'Yes". So, I kissed it and said, "Aaaall better!"
Next break, we went to the porch for another chat. This time, she mentioned that she hurt her arm on the stucco wall coming up out of the basement. We did the same routine. We said nothing for a moment and then she said, "I hurt my lip coming up out of the basement. After doing that routine a third time, we started making out HOT AND HEAVY!! I told her we shouldn't be doing this because she's married and Bill will be pissed!! She said, "It's okay, I'm gonna divorce him, anyway because he beats me!" That gave me license to continue! We were locked together like squids for the rest of the night!!
When we got back to my place, I deposited her into the room on the 2nd floor and started going up to my room. She insisted she come up with me! I let her come up, we got to my bed and made out some more for a good while until she stood up and got naked!! I've NEVER had this, before!!

[FunkyMonkee]

I got naked and we made out for another long while until she reached under the blankets, grabbed my dick and stuffed it into her!! I had NO IDEA OR INTENTION we were gonna go THIS far!!
So, we became secret lovers for the next 3 months with me living with her and Bill until he found out in Sept.

[Asker]

Wow! I could imagine all of this happening while I was reading it.
She knew what she was doing when she told you about her finger and her lips. 😂
I'm surprised by Bill's suggestion.
Thanks for sharing more details about your experience with Sally.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, I suppose she did have it figured out.
I was surprised by his suggestion, too!! As I said, I had NO intention of taking him up on it!
Another "chink in the armour" was that, while I was loading my drums back into the rehearsal house after the gig, when I came back down for another load, I caught her in Frank's arms! I have no idea who started that up but, I kinda blame Frank because, he'd been living with a woman for a decade or so and they had 7 kids together out of wedlock and he was still chasing other women!
Sure. Glad you like it. I suppose that'd make a short movie unless it was expanded to encompass the 20 years after we met but, there'd be a huge gap between the mid `90's, I think, and the early `00's.

[Asker]

I agree with you, maybe it was Frank who started.
Yes, you could definitely make a short movie. You have a lot to tell 😂
That's true, there would be.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd just have to write it out.

[Asker]

Please do, I would watch it!

[Anonymous]

No. I would be willing depending of the circumstances. I wouldn't so it involved cheating. If we had to do it because of consequences from either or both of our actions, that would make it a much more understandable ordeal. Ideally it would last forever, but apparently I'll do anything if I love them enough.

[Asker]

That makes sense.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode all the messy, spicy relationship stuff we’re too shy to say out loud 😏

Yeah, I’ve coached a lot of people in “secret relationships” and it usually feels exciting at first, then super draining. At first it’s butterflies, then it’s: “Why am I a secret?”
Common reasons: fear of commitment, still not over an ex, family issues, or straight-up red flag behavior.

Most last a few months before the hidden partner gets tired of being ghosted in public and loved-up in private. If you’re the secret, you’re not the priority.

[Kelseyy-999]

I am in a secret relationship but that does not mean i am m not a priority, i am currently in a same sex relationship and she always prioritizes me over family events and always gives time to hang out and she had told a few people she trusts about our relationship our relationship is semi-public but i think its mostly the reason why the relationship is secret our relationship is secret is because she has a close-minded family member and she is unsure on how to tell him and she plans to move out of the house before she finally tells them.

[ohsheeT]

No but since you said that I think I want to be

[NathanDavis]

nope... there's no way I could hide a girlfriend on this cities of mine... lol

[NathanDavis]

there's a whole lot of people who know about me... and I don't even know them, lol

[Asker]

I can relate Lol

[NathanDavis]

yeah, lol...

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah. I was 18 and I met her ONLINE, so my mom would've freaked and I didn't yet know if we were gonna be together.

It only lasted 2 weeks, but it was because we disagreed on some important things

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. Exhilarating! There were rules and other people involved.

[Asker]

Having other people involved makes it even more serious.

[RedInnocent69]

We both had other people, and were breaking institutional rules. It was hot, sordid, and badass!

[Asker]

It must have been an adventure then.
Did you miss it?

[Asker]

*Do you miss it?

[RedInnocent69]

Yes, and no. She was a petite brunette with washboard abs, whose kitty tasted like honey. I miss that 😏

[Asker]

I see.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, I am far too open as a person to make that work.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes I was but hiding it was a mutual decision cause we didn't want our friends in our business

[Asker]

Fair enough.

[FenixG45]

Yes, I don't like it, and will probably end it.

[Asker]

I'm sorry to hear it. Do what's best for you.

[Kelly6]

Yes, for I guess 1 year

[queenofcardio]

Never, I have no reason to

[jahaims]

No, I'm not immature