Am I pathologic for needing a partner?

[Anonymous]

I’m a "force multiplier" who knows for a fact I function better with a "partner in crime" than alone. To me, life is a team sport; I’m more productive and comfortable fighting the world as a duo. Why is this pathologized as "codependency" or low self-esteem? If I prefer strategic synergy and a shared lifestyle over hyper-independence, why must it be a "psychological issue" rather than a valid personal preference? The current shit society WORSHIPS hyper independence (you can see it in how career women get applauded for not having kids and such). I am also not desperate, such a theorethical "partner in crime" must follow a set of criteria, it can´t be anybody.

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3 mo

Actually I am not asking, I am simply tired of being called a codependent and so forth

[FreyaRed]

Yeah, buzzwords etc. but reality is that everyone prioritizes individual advantage before 'we as couple' advantage. It's not that you are pathologic or crazy or gullible, you want a normal relationship where both couples work for common benefits but this type of people is very rare in our societies today, even more difficult is to find two individuals who aren't on total ego trip in long run.
We growth up in last stage capitalism and sharing benefits with others isn't in part of our social programming. Only thing that matters is individual profit of any kind.

[Asker]

I understand that, I just have a problem with people implying I have some sort of mental deficiency because thats my preferred style

[lightbulb27]

You are normal if you do better working with another, that's how it should be. If you need someone, that's kinda normal, just means you know your weaknesses.

People today think independence and want everyone to be strong on their own, which is a really good thing honestly as anyone can be lost in an instant.

Maybe it's the way you are communicating and the energy of desperation expressed?

[Asker]

I never told anybody about it lol

[lightbulb27]

but you said you were being called a co - dependent.
Now I think you are nuts:) haha...

[Anonymous]

No. Your approach is similar to mine. I need to be able to be attracted and very compatible with my partner. I believe that the best relationship benefit both people.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship drama and make love, attachment and “red flag vs green flag” stuff way less confusing.

You are not pathological at all, you’re relational. Big difference. Wanting a “partner in crime” is only codependency when your identity, self-worth and decisions collapse without them.

Needing synergy, teamwork and shared life is totally valid. Hyper-independence is often just trauma in a blazer. Your standards show you’re selective, not desperate. That’s healthy, attractive and honestly kind of sexy.

[Anonymous]

No you're not, unless you really overthink about it.

[DonaldDarko]

The needing part is the pathology.

[jahaims]

It means you are immature and a codependent