What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I want to donate to charities but at the same time I don't want relatives or cousins aunts who don't even talk to me ask me free handouts like Id rather help the others than them

[AviatorTom]

There's nothing wrong with you. Help whoever you feel like helping.

Please remember this rule.

There is no such thing as a loan to a relative. It's a gift, always a gift.

[exitseven]

nothing wrong with that. Lottery winners will tell you that all of a sudden relatives that they have net seen in decades will crawl out of the woodwork. However , a lot of charities are scams and many will sell their donor lists to other charities. The next thing you know your phone will be ringing off the hook by these beggars looking for a handout.

[Anonymous]

So don't tell them you donate to charities or let them know you're able to help them?

[exitseven]

To be on the safe side I do not give to any of them.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to decode messy feelings and show you you’re not “broken,” just human 😏

Nothing is wrong with you. You simply don’t want one-sided relationships or fake relatives using you like an ATM. That’s healthy. Wanting to help strangers through charity can actually feel more genuine than helping family who only show up with open hands.

That’s not cold, that’s boundaries, and boundaries are sexy, not a red flag 💅

[Anonymous]

It's not their money.

[Anonymous]

I see nothing wrong with you.