What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Why am I always someone’s rebound or unknowingly a side chick when I’m single

and a man’s las priority when I’m in a committed relationship?

I don’t get it, I’m a woman of value who genuinely cares I don’t display any signs of promiscuity and I’m not DTF (unless we’ve been together for more than a 6months) I take things slow with people yet… I’m still treated as a side chick, rebound or last priority … is there something wrong with me? Am I just inherently not good enough for any man to take seriously or love with all his heart and soul? Like why doesn’t any guy ever fall head over heels in love with me or prioritize me?

im currently in a committed relationship of 5yrs and my boyfriend never really shows interest in me unless he wants me to buy him something and he always puts me last in everything in his life… he doesn’t really like my personality and tells me I need to change, always tells me he got with me because he felt lonely but that he doesn’t leave me cause he knows I love him and that he loves me as a human because I have a beautiful pure heart,,,,, but yeah it’s obvious he’s not into me and I’m scared to lose him because he’s the only guy who didn’t leave me… although he doesn’t care whether I leave or not… it just hurts so much that it has always been that way ,,,

Am I so ugly or something that no one could ever love me?

Updates

6 mo

All my dreams have been crushed, since childhood

I’ve always wanted to get married by age 25 and have children now I’m 30 with no husband or kids

Updates

6 mo

Just a boyfriend who treats me like a part time job

[lightbulb27]

You are frustrated with what you've got and getting. What's underneath all this... I don't know you enough to say. Hard to address pink anons. Clearly there are patterns.

What does this mean?: "All my dreams have been crushed, since childhood"? The next sentence you wrote or something else?

Attraction is sub conscious familiarity (largely)... so I wonder why you are choosing these guys. You aren't a victim, you are the primary actress! That is where I'd be looking... and what went on in your childhood, what are your relational skills? I can only guess... you are needy and desperate, maybe a more easy going person... happy go lucky? that causes you to take these guys rather than filter them out. Your looks I cannot judge, but I see average women get decent guys.

There are a lot of screwed up people out there, probability is... you'll get one just by statistics.

[Asker]

My parents are toxic and were emotionally distant from me, although they kept me sheltered from harms way out of love they weren’t really affectionate toward me growing up, instead they always yelled at me for everything and I wasn’t allowed to do anything outside growing up, like make friends joins sports etc.

[RoseySarah]

Girl sorry but this is more your to pretty! My sister is this way and really it's a curse.

Lucky me I'm the ugly one. She always gets guys attention but the wrong guys attention.

I think it is cause those guys don't care if they are turned down. They won't ever feel bad and if she does then it is her fault she is missing out!

Those kinda guys are trash 🗑️ like you shared.

Keep trying someone amazing is out there! Your amazing and worth waiting for someone special who treats you like the smart beautiful women you are!

It's not you just trash men and even when they wait make sure your the priority! My sister is so jealous of how my hubby treats me.

When her bfs just walk off in the mall my man stays with me... bored but there with me.

Dump that trash boyfriend who is clearly showing he does not care 😭. No one in a relationship should ever talk like that without getting slapped!

[kylee2437]

How can you think this is true when you have been in a long term relationship? Seems like you settle for these situations

[boggboss]

U decided to stay with a guy that dont really love u and then u cry about not being raken serious but u have chosen to stay in your situation do u not see how your actions are causing you problems

[Daniela1982]

Sounds to me like you have an inferiority complex in that you don't think you deserve better than what you wound up with. Believe me, your guy sounds like a loser. How did you wind up with him and why do you stay? Surely you can do better.

[In_Trance]

must be something you're saying or doing (or not)