Why do people get upset when I honestly call myself ugly?

[Anonymous]

I get it most people are definitely fishing for compliments, but why get mad when someone is just saying it how it is. I've been called ugly by women majority of my life until I finished High School. I'm sure I might've had some secret crushes but they'll take it to their grave before they ever say anything to me. So what's wrong with just stating the facts

[HollyK21]

For most people, when they hear someone state a personal insecurity, it’s safe to assume that they’re doing so in hopes of receiving some sort of positive reinforcement. Especially if those statements are not part of a bigger story to where the person listening doesn’t feel positioned to compliment or reassure them.


For example, if you’re talking to someone then just sort of randomly say “my teeth are so fucked up”, and that’s basically it, the listener would likely feel inclined to combat that with some version of “your teeth aren’t bad”. On the contrary, if you said “my teeth are so fucked up, but I have an appointment next week to see about some braces, prepare to be sick of me the next year or so”, it takes the pressure off.

[bobalife]

I don't know why there’s such negative comments here. Naturally no one wants to see anyone negatively doubt and self talk esp when it’s not true. I’m sure it’s subjective and we are our worst critics. I also think the word ugly is quite strong and ugly to use. In other words, it holds such negative energy and connotation. I would hope for everyone to see themselves in a lighter way.


I recall one time I was not felling my best nor cute one of those days last year.. even to the girls who aren’t really my friends and I feel like pick on some of my classmates in grad school.. they did nothing but uplift me when they saw me a few times after 🩷


I’m trying to say I think it’s human nature to wanna help others and lift people up when they may not be able to.

[bobalife]

My example wasn’t to recieved anything by the way. I literally was just not feelin myself nor having the best day. I was just being honest how I felt about myself that day.

[In_Trance]

Putting yourself down is equally if not more ugly than people fishing for comments.
This is easily avoided by shutting the fuck up

[Asker]

I don't sit around fishing for compliments tho lol. I'm just pretty straightforward when attractiveness is brought up.. if you asked me I'd say I'ma 5 maybe a strong 6 on best days ever

[slatyb]

Because it's a passive-aggressive way to fish for compliments

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle love, attraction, and all the messy feelings in between 💙

Calling yourself ugly triggers people because it feels like you’re lovebombing yourself with negativity. Even if you believe it’s “just facts,” it sounds like low self-worth, not honesty.

Also, attraction isn’t a math equation. Someone out there has definitely looked at you and thought “damn,” even if they never said it.

Self-insulting is a red flag to others emotionally. It makes them uncomfortable, like watching someone bully themselves. Confidence is way more attractive than any face shape, trust me.

[loveyouoak]

Why do you call yourself ugly? What don’t you like about your face? Maybe you’re just being too hard on yourself.

[Mike_Hum]

I guess if you want to call yourself ugly and be a miserable sack of shit there's nothing anyone else can do about it.

[CriminallyInsane]

Ugly is not a fact. It's a subjective opinion.

[Asker]

I know that but have you ever been called ugly in front of a group of woman and not one of them neglects or say otherwise.. I think that kinda proves that you're ugly

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You really just want people to insult you, huh?

[Asker]

No not really.. I know for a fact I'm not hideous it's just a super super super rare occasion when I find out a girl likes me

[Nikki1989]

It is still attention-seeking.