Did I make a mistake giving a stalker-type guy a chance?

[Anonymous]

I need some perspective because my head is spinning. There’s this guy who was pursuing me for a while, and honestly? It was bad. I told him I wasn't interested, but he wouldn't take no for an answer. He was aggressive, persistent, and it felt borderline abusive/stalkerish at the time. He basically forced the door open when I tried to keep it shut.

The Current Situation: I eventually gave in and gave him a chance (I know, I know...). But here’s the thing: now that he’s "in," he’s actually behaving. He’s been treating me incredibly well - kind, attentive, and respectful. It’s like he’s a completely different person than the one who was harassing me a few months ago.

Is it possible he was just "clumsy" or went into overdrive because he liked me so much?
Or is this "nice guy" act just a mask now that he has what he wants, and the scary version will come back the moment I disagree with him?

[Anonymous]

Yes. It is certainly possible. I had in issue in the past where I liked a girl so much, she made me crazy. Usually, I'm a very normal person, but my interest in her made me act completely out of sorts. If I actually spent time around her, I would normalize. She just made me feel things I wasn't used to.

[Anonymous]

It is possible for this to go either way. One of these is an act and one is the real him. I suppose just move slowly and look for hints about which it is. Maybe even ask him why he is acting differently and why he acted the way he did.