What does feeling “emotionally safe” in a relationship actually look like to you?

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For me, it’s being able to fully be yourself without walking on eggshells…feeling heard, accepted, and not afraid to express how you really feel…

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You said it right there that is the best way

The best part about being in a relationships is that you can be who you are and the person that you're with understands Who You Are and knows you don't mean any harm by saying certain things because you have each other's back you can communicate about anything and everything and when you're not afraid to do that knowing that you are understood no matter what there's a deeper connection a deeper love there to be able to express yourself in any way you want and knowing that you are understood and that no matter what you are in love and the other person is not out to harm you they're out to grow with you become one with you and all the most beautiful ways

Jay-_- · Accepted Answer

"Emotionally safe in a relatioship".

To me its never needing to hold back being weird or a thought and she still cares for you. Also its when you're feeling comfortable when expressing your opinion not nervous of how she'll take it and knowing we will correct each other if eirher one of us is wrong but we will never ever look at each other different or judge one another we work through it and the care or love never fades.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

When someone can make me feel respected, heard, seen, supportive of how I feel and what I want/need, ensure I know that I matter and my comfortability, be my rock for my passion and career, and recognize my strengths & flaws but still likes me for me and encourage me to continue to be the best me …which is current me and who I will be tmrw.

Someone who seems genuine and means what they say and do what they say they would do. They will know their boundaries, make sure I know my feelings matter and I matter to them, checks up on me, and be gentle with me.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

When you and the other person are able to build trust daily, you are laying out the foundation of a healthy and emotionally stable relationship in which you can share your deepest thoughts and feelings.

NOTE: This is not something that falls in your lap overnight. It's not just the person who gets you to laugh or the person who helps you out once in a blue moon. This is "your person" bc they're consistent and loving towards you (and you towards them).

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode all this messy, beautiful relationship stuff with you and make it feel a little less confusing and a lot more fun 💫

Emotionally safe to me is: you can say the ugly truth without fear of being punished, mocked, or abandoned. No lovebombing then ghosting. Disagreements don’t feel like war. You trust they won’t use your insecurities as weapons. You can cry, be weird, be horny, be insecure… and they still choose you. That’s when falling in love actually feels calm, not chaotic.

Finchie40 · Answer

Being with someone that loves you and cherishes you the same way you do for them, being honest and open to each other, wearing each others’ shoes before making decisions, prioritizing each other , respecting each other , all these things will make the both of you feel emotionally safe in the relationship instead of feeling insecure and doubtful that your partner isn’t following the same boundaries you both agreed upon together. Someone that truly loves you will always reassure you that you are their one and only , they won’t do things that could sabotage the relationship, or add fire into the relationship, they will respect you and be honest with you on a regular basis and make it clear they are by your side. Because they want you to do the same for them. Without emotional safety in a relationship , you both really don’t have anything together , because if you don’t feel safe in a relationship, why be with that person period.

HawkPerception · Answer

It's exactly as you described it. It's feeling heard, understood, being able to be goofy or just be yourself, and knowing in your heart that your partner would never betray you and has unwavering faith in your character. Being supported fully.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think such a thing exists. If it does it's incredibly rare. I would say it's when you can be completely vulnerable with your partner. But again that very rare. I don't care who she is there's a very good chance that she uses that vulnerability later against you. I think a guy does himself a disservice to be fully vulnerable with their partner. If she wants vulnerability from you give her just enough to satisfy that. Make something up if you have to. But never fully let her in your kitchen (head).

molonski2 · Answer

Relationships need that " edge " to be highly successful, feeling too " safe " in whatever means takes away the " edge " , safety over time is just acceptance of your lot , and that's pretty dangerous.

Sure , no one likes " walking on eggshells" though nothing worse , but try not to ever loose the edge , builds the passion , keeps things exciting , especially if we are talking long-term.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

... It looks like the absolute best thing to feel, in the context of a relationship. In fact, that alone makes for the entire relationship because so many pleasant aspects of being with someone derive from that. I had it in great amount in several relationships, so it has become something I'm addicted to.

Better give me my dose often, if not, then this relationship is probably over lol

MidnightRivers · Answer

For me, I would say being respected and encouraged to chase my passions, gym, hobbies and work while not feeling restricted or held back from them. I feel comfortable when she encourages me to be the absolute best man I can be

Nikki1989 · Answer

It's the presence of enough trust and consistency that difficulty doesn't feel dangerous.

queenofcardio · Answer

Truly being vulnerable with them without the fear of judgment.

Anonymous · Answer

it means this person accepts you for who you are, regardless of your bad motives, bad intentions, nasty habits, the fact you still aren't over your ex. Things that would scare other people away but not this person. Someone you trust enough to want to stick to you no matter how ugly you get

sage2021 · Answer

I think that for me having the secure feelings that he's not going to just up and leave me because we get along so great and I really felt loved.

That's about my last relationship that I felt that way.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Just someone you can be vulnerable with and they won't judge you for it. Someone who will comfort you in bad times and knows he is safe to be vulnerable with you too.

Still-alive · Answer

Where you can truly be yourself around them and they accept you fully flaws and all. Would love a relationship like that lol.

Lauren-green · Answer

Knowing that I won't get abused (verbally and or physically) or wanting to talk about something or not agreeing with them.

FreyaRed · Answer

No one is ever safe. Cradle myself in "emotional security" is against my personal ideology.

beenherebefore · Answer

Being able to keep open communication without fear of judgement/rejection. Feeling reassured.

MrChinaski · Answer

It feels exactly like you described. Best. Thing. Ever.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

True, plus feeling that i'm more than enough for and letting me know that i'm the one...

Wodens_Apprentice · Answer

Yeah I bet you only came to that conclusion after sleeping with multiple men you're attracted to them you settled for a lesser man now you're in our 30's, who is willing to put up with anything.

kingbeee · Answer

It all depends on the situation, but trusting your partner

Abbycado · Answer

Being honest.

Anonymous · Answer

What a happy couple photo 👀 📸  That she's not a weirdo or hiding things 🫣 or just plain a nut 🥜

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been in a relationship, so I can't be sure.

Anonymous · Answer

I used to feel safe in relationships when I shouldn't have. Now I don't feel safe in them. When perhaps I should.

WhitneySnow · Answer

This

AngryCarl3 · Answer

same

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