How many times have you truly fallen in love with someone?

[7Phoenix7]

Not just a crush… attraction… or “they were cute and gave me butterflies” situation… I mean the kind of love that actually changes you, stays with you, and makes you feel deeply attached.

❤️

How many times has that happened for you?

💌

Never

Once

Twice

Three or more times

I’m not sure anymore

[ohsheeT]

This is going to sound crazy but i think when you understand love and you love yourself and you treat everyone the way you treat yourself there is a deeper understanding of love.

And you realize just like with everything else there are so many different types of love and as we grow there are different levels of love

Kind of like with arithmetic math you learn addition subtraction

Then the next thing you know there's decimals and multiplications

And then there's algebra and trig and so on and so on and it just keeps going that's what I mean about different levels

So it's easy for me to fall in love
I read people very well and I find all the good things about them in a heartbeat

And then if you feel energy on top of it then you look into their eyes and their eyes tell you everything it's so very easy to fall in love I mean I don't even know you and I fell in love with you the very first time that I saw you and we have never really talked but I think on the question and answer I think I told you that I think maybe not but anyway yes it's easy for me to fall in love now true 100% the deepest that I know it

Once again there's different types of love I mean my kids the moment I see my kids I fell in love I still love them but to the deepest to my core but as far a woman to the level that I'm talking about maybe once but I know there's other ones out there just waiting but I just haven't put myself out there yet

[Lliam]

I would say twice.

I have been deeply infatuated several times with long term girlfriends. Infatuation is the feeling that is associated with love.

So, beginning at age 16, I had six long-term, monogamous relationships.

Then when I was 36, I met a 30 year old. She was my 7th long-term relationship. We wound up living together for two years. She was the first woman I every truly loved with all my heart. I would have gladly married her and spent the rest of my life with her but, for reasons that are impossible to go into, we couldn't have made it as life-long partners and wound up separating even though we loved each other.
Being without her was the greatest pain I have ever experienced. It took me a year to pull myself together and move on with life.

Then I met my wife. We have been happily married now for almost 30 years. I could love her more. She's wonderful.

[queenofcardio]

I’ve been in love more than once.

Each time felt unique in its own way.

I still randomly think about them sometimes and remember how I felt during those moments.

I definitely think I’ve grown as a person after those relationships ended.

[7Phoenix7]

Love this answer

[HollyK21]

Genuinely only once, which is with my fiancé. I’ve thought I was in love before, turns out the blinders were on lol

[7Phoenix7]

Seriously…. Those blinders are so annoying!

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode love, red flags, and all the messy feelings in between. 😉

For me? Twice.
First was that intense, slightly toxic, lovebombing, can’t-eat-can’t-sleep kind of love that broke me but taught me everything.
Second is my wife. Calm, safe, deep, no drama, just “I’ve found my home” energy. That one changed me forever. ❤️

[Finchie40]

One time but now I am seeking my 2nd

[7Phoenix7]

Only once?

[Finchie40]

Well I only consider a very long term relationship true love and falling in love with someone , when 2 people end up living together and share responsibilities together and are with each other for a very long time like 10 to 20 or
More years , but the relationships that only lasted a year or 2 with barely any responsibilities together , is just infatuation , and the though of love, because if 2 people truly loved each other , they would stay together for the long haul and have each others backs through the good times and bad times and share responsibilities together. So that’s why I only say one time , because my ex and I were together for 22 years married with kids’ all my other relationships were just temporary relationships that lasted a year or 2

[Zack-Bann]

On three separate occasions I felt completely taken with my feelings for someone
I lost sleep, energy, and felt insane highs by being with her and insane lows by being away


However in all three cases I ended up losing out.


One of them lasted a long time.
Many years.
But today I managed to outgrow that love by seeing how much both she and I changed over the years.
Funny enough we’re closer now than we were when I had those feelings. But even if she was single I highly doubt I would try dating her, we just wouldn’t work out.


One thing I found interesting is that the first 2 came into my life a long time ago, I was a teenager for both. (The one who lasted a long time was #2)


And after that I had many short term and medium term relationships with a lot of women that I cared about but never fell in love with.


I thought I would never experience this juvenile love again.


And then I did.
And it was insane getting to have those feelings as an adult.
#3 was never supposed to happen the way it did. I knew better. And should have been better.
But the heart truly wants what it wants sometimes and in this case I was powerless.


It took 10 years between #2 and #3
I wonder if I will have to wait another 10 for #4 and I wonder if next time I will have this happy ending that seems to come so easily for others.

[Billlewis]

• Hard core, 3-4 times, and I got burned every time. I'm not counting the woman I married earlier this year, because as a guy, it's okay to fall in love with someone who already loves you. However, falling in love with someone who either doesn't know you love them or knows but doesn't love you in return is a virtual guarantee that you're going to get hurt.

[molonski2]

That's where you've been all year !

[Billlewis]

@molonski2 Well, I moved at the beginning of last year, from Chicago to Guam.

[molonski2]

Wow , bro big change.. You sound like a new improved model? Cool mate..
Watch out for all those women.

[Billlewis]

@molonski2 Well, I'm healthier, that's for sure. All what women? The military presence here, combined with local womens' tendency to leave the island to go to school or for better employment opportunities, there are virtually no single women in Guam. That's why I had to go to the Philippines to find a partner, but at least I did it because they're not here, instead of a lack of interest, like many guys from the states. However, when you're talking about a place that has virtually no single women, you're also talking about a place that has virtually no crime.

[molonski2]

Right , interesting..
So you married her in Manilla or Cebu? What about the family ties? I've had Phill's girlfriends before , not sure which are worse Phill's or Thais..

[Billlewis]

@molonski2 She's from Cebu, but I had to go through Manila both times I flew in, for a week last year when we met and three weeks this past February. Of course there are a lot of stereotypes with Asian women, but she's crazy about me. When I gave her a hundred to get her passport, she said, 'What's this for?' The only minor disagreement I've had with her father (he's only six years older than me) is that he wants me to live there, and I have no intention of living in the 'ppines.

[molonski2]

Ohh , that's great mate , happy for you , that's a reasonable request from Dad , yeah the language helps too , just watch the saving face , and there is another flipper thing ( a word for it ) you don't express anger , bottle it up

Hope it works well..
Practice your singing bro.

[Billlewis]

@molonski2 Will do. Filipinos are great people, but if living there was overly inspiring, there wouldn't be so many women who want to marry a guy from another country. We're in the process of getting a visa which will allow her to live here. It takes a couple of years, however.

[molonski2]

My mate here has been living with a flipper here in Thailand for years , they are currently visiting Australia for 6 months.

[Billlewis]

@molonski2. Thailand is a much better place to live than the Philippines. In the 'ppines, you've got a third world country in which the food is subpar and you have to get your meals from McDonald's, Burger King or Pizza Hut. You'll get sick if you drink the water, so you have to keep going out to buy bottled water. They also classify weed as a dangerous narcotic, and the streets are always overcrowded so it takes forever to get anywhere. Guam, on the other hand, is, to me, the perfect place to live, if you have a partner, so the end goal is for her to live here.

[molonski2]

We have a lot of those issues too , certainly you can't drink from the tap , but yeah you have " Brown outs " more crime , I lived in Cebu for 6 months ,
I think Hua Hin in particular, okey beach , pretty easy to live , I never lock the door great breeze right now..
They are ahead of Phill's yes , but Phill's has its beauty also.
Where were you B4 Guam?

[Billlewis]

@molonski2 I moved here after living in Chicago for forty years.

[molonski2]

Wow , big move Billie , glad you are enjoying.

[rini02]

Once, when I was in my early teens... but I'm not sure whether to call that love... because the situation was so complex that I would feel anxious all the time, and then I finally moved on...
Well, recently, there's someone who's been on my mind lately, and things have been positive... but I don't think it has reached that stage or not...

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Ummm all these loves changed me, even the ones excluded by your definition. But trying to work with your definition anyway... There are... 5 of them

[7Phoenix7]

Interesting

[slatyb]

Maybe twice. I'm currently in love with someone I met online when I contacted her about something she wrote. The problem is she's an ocean and two decades away.

[MrChinaski]

Two decades?

[slatyb]

@MrChinaski I'm sure you can figure out what that means.

[7Phoenix7]

He was trying to get you to open up about your situation… of course he knows what that means lol

[PeachyPie93]

Two times.. but I feel something right now for someone but he always says I don't love him and I know he doesn't love me but we have a bond..

[7Phoenix7]

Make sure you love yourself completely first…

[PeachyPie93]

I doubt that is possible..

[Nikki1989]

Realistically only three times, but the first time was with a boy in high school who cheated on me big time. I had just turned 14 at the time, so I learnt that lesson about males very early on.

[MrChinaski]

Some of us mature past 14 years

[Cleatchaser1]

Twice I would have sworn I had to be at the time. In retrospect, neither time I was. Maybe this guy I am with now will change that but I don't know yet.

[MikeTheBartender]

3-4... Half of it was good. The other half ended in 🤢

[7Phoenix7]

Sorry 😢

[MikeTheBartender]

Thank you. But... All Is Fair in love and war.

[Natasha1995]

Just once. He's now my husband. Been married for six years.

[Mark_Est]

Nice👍

[molonski2]

Now the honest answer is never , but if you aged me at age 35 , I would have said 3-4 , as this stuff changes over time with hindsight.

[Anonymous]

I was never over to express feelings

I remember a girl broke up with me when I was 16 and I was devastated but only after time went by
Because even then I didn't realize.
Part of my devastation was not converting the relationship into a sexual one
I was just very slow to go down that road
Very frigid
For whatever reason
But I wanted to with her and not with anyone else
But she was gone

[Hunter-40m]

I dont know exactly if it was love but I valued the one I last had a relationship with and the things I called red flag began to lost their meaning for me with her

[FreyaRed]

I've been infatuated few times but in love it was just once.

[Twodogs0525]

Once and we're married. We married very young.

[Tarifa]

Five times. And not always with the right girl.

[sawno]

Once, and I thought a few times prior to that but that wasn't love.

[AydenHazor]

I've found that live much more prevalent in quality friendships, in which case it sticks around as well. I have probably 3 or 4 friends with which that depth of love exists platonically

[Spencer10]

Other than family I would say never. You have to be open to love and i am just not there yet.

[just_a_weirdo]

soooo... there's this girl, hot af, curly hair, cute giggle, you know, the usual disney princess type shi. and i swear I've fallen in love with her like 20 times. sometimes i'll be thinking at home "yeah, she ain't all that", then when i next see her, im head over heels again!

[Joshydavid25]

It hasn't happened yet.. But we'll see soon.. Fingers crossed.. 😎👉

[JustMe019]

You never know how much you loved her/him till your soul hurts from so much crying.

[7Phoenix7]

I feel that

[Alex-Snow]

Truly in love... and not a crush or lust... not yet. But then again I'm still only 20 years old.

[msc545]

Maybe twice, but I was very young and I couldn't tell the difference between a sexual turn-on and falling in love.

[LiamJHayden]

Never. I have chosen to love, but I have never let emotions dictate that.

[KralArthur]

Once when I was a child or prepubert lets say. It was pure love without any sexual thought

[Jessica405]

Once. My partner.

[7Phoenix7]

Lucky you

[Jessica405]

I am indeed very lucky

[Anonymous]

I have been in one-sided love, so much so that I could have given up my life for her.
And she knew and rejected.

[Anonymous]

At least three times, but all of my loves were unrequited.

[MrChinaski]

5 1/4. But I'm working on it.

[7Phoenix7]

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Once. I was 13 and he was 25. I fell in love instantly.

[Kelly6]

@7Phoenix7 mire then 4

[7Phoenix7]

Wow.. cool

[PinkSchmetterling]

Once but he’s gone away for grad school

[FenixG45]

Once also. Recently ended.

[Daniel707]

Probably ten years

[Nonamez]

I don't think I have ever been truly in love 🤔

[TonyMetal___86]

Twice i think 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Someone? Never.

[Zionne]

twice

[exitseven]

Three times.

[Godihateyou]

This one girl like 8 times

[Anonymous]

Twice

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just once what about you

[jahaims]

Once

[dudeinohio]

Maybe 4 total

[ChadThunderCack]

Love is dead. It all transactional now.

[Caurav1997]

Never... u?