You attract your own kind. Agree or Disagree?

[thegreenyogi]

[Sangita93]

You attract your own kind is very common and generally accepted belief. This social principle is less about physical appearance and more about internal, energetic, and emotional maturity, often known as "being on your level". A similar thing is known as the "six degrees of separation" rule. It states that any two people on Earth are six or fewer acquaintance links apart. It is also generally considered true as a social concept, without any scientific data support or law. People are highly interconnected, (internet has made it much easy compared to past), and it is viewed as a "small-world" phenomenon. You attract your own kind is considered true, within the contexts of psychology, personal development, and the Law of Attraction, suggesting that you draw people and situations into your life that reflect your own energy, beliefs, and internal state. According to the Law of Attraction, thoughts and emotions emit a specific frequency, and the universe reflects that back to you. Positive individuals attract positive scenarios, while negativity naturally draws similar negative outcomes. Mirroring self-image is playing a major role. The people you attract act as a mirror, reflecting your own self-worth, confidence, or, your insecurities and limiting beliefs. If you hold a belief that you are unworthy, you may attract situations that reinforce that belief. Similarities in mindset, values, and life goals are strong psychological magnets, leading people to bond with those who share their similar values. Psychologically subconscious familiarity draw them to what feels comfortable or "familiar," even if it is unknown or harmful, which can result in repeating relationship patterns. Like attracts like is a dominant theme. But sometimes, people are attracted to individuals who possess qualities they lack or that provide balance. Generally, an introvert will find balance in an extrovert. Sometimes people are attracted to people who do not match their current vibe, but instead reflect what they need for personal growth. People these days are falsely convinced of being some particular type, rather than the other. They actually attract their type.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Disagree.

If you're an above average attractive woman with a normal personality, you will attract 80% of men. How you tolerate the behavior of those attracted to you is another thing. If you tolerate losers, then yes it will seem like you are surrounded by losers. If you only tolerate respect and decency, then you are much more likely to be happier in the long run.

I am not above average in attractiveness at all, but I still wish I had known this earlier in life. I spent years trying to convince the losers to "treat me better". The ocean is full of fish, and garbage...

[BobbieBoy666]

"You attract your own kind" is a deeply debated concept often summarized as "you attract what you are" or "like attracts like" in psychology and manifestation philosophy, with many agreeing it relates to shared values and energy, while others argue it ignores the reality of manipulative or toxic dynamics.
Here is a breakdown of perspectives:
Arguments for Agree (Like Attracts Like)
Energy and Mindset: Proponents argue that your inner qualities, beliefs, and emotions (both positive and negative) act as a magnet for similar experiences and people.
Values and Personality: In relationships, people tend to be attracted to those who share similar values, interests, and emotional wavelengths rather than polar opposites.
Self-Reflection: This viewpoint suggests people are "mirrors" for your own growth, meaning to attract better partners or friends, you must become the person you want to attract.
Accountability: It emphasizes changing your own character and energy to transform the quality of people you bring into your life.
Arguments for Disagree (Opposites or Trauma Dynamics)
Predatory Behavior: Opponents argue that toxic or manipulative people (e. g., narcissists) often actively target vulnerable individuals, which is not a case of "attracting their own kind" but rather predation.
Complexity of Relationships: People do not always attract what they want or are; they may attract partners who reflect unresolved psychological wounds, enabling toxic cycles rather than healthy matches.
Flawed Premise: Some believe it is a superficial, blame-shifting phrase ("victim blaming") that ignores complex social dynamics.
Conclusion
While social psychology suggests we often align with those of similar values, the idea that we only attract what we are is considered a simplified, often spiritual, view that may not account for external circumstances, trauma, or manipulation.

[NathanDavis]

maybe, to an extent...

but it really depends to how much do we look into it... because if we keep it simple, and let's say, only count three main or general traits as people who are positive, funny and actively social... then yeah, these would tend to pair more easily with others who are like them, at least at first... and this could very well be what we consider attraction

but if we go deeper than that, and the more we get to know about someone else, then the more or the less we're going to pair or bond in a much more meaningful way and I think this is the case in which you can end up paired with someone who is not actually "your kind" but nonetheless... complements you very well

attraction can also surge with others who have a slightly different angle... or, are even opposites in some matters, just not all the matters... lol

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship dynamics and spice them up a little 😏

I’d say: partly agree. You usually attract what you’re emotionally aligned with, not what you *say* you want. Secure people attract more secure partners, unhealed people attract more drama. If you keep meeting lovebombers, avoiders, or walking red flags, that pattern is saying more about you than about “bad luck.”

[Taurus_Woman]

I partly agree with the idea that you attract your own kind. The energy, mindset, and behavior you show often influence the people who stay around you. Honest people usually value honesty, kind people feel comfortable with kindness, and negative people often surround themselves with negativity.
However, life is not always that simple. Sometimes good people meet toxic people, and sometimes completely different personalities connect and learn from each other. Human relationships are shaped by experiences, emotions, timing, and circumstances, not only by similarity.

[Master_Debator]

Well, I've had sex with pretty much every race there is so you people need to stop calling me racist.

What, the Hitler profile picture...12.3% Jewish... now what? Him not me... I'm a real white.

[Beckybooboo]

That's a good question. I've always had a very diverse group of friends, as in my first impressions were good, then our differences really didn't matter after that, because they are good people! We would even argue about things but never had hurt feelings. I think a lot of that has to do with my family lol We are a diverse group but always have each other's back.

[queenofcardio]

Yes but also no.

I tend to be drawn to people with similar energy levels and mindsets, since that’s what I’m usually around. I also feel a mutual pull with like minded people. At the same time, people who are very different from me are often attracted to me because I stand out and they’re curious.

[OneViewpoint]

Oh hell no. I wish. Sadly most of the women who try to chat me up find out pretty quickly that they have very little in common with me and my boundaries / standards confuse the hell out of them. If I recognize women like me I will initiate. It's great to have similar minds to talk to. But it's rare in my experience.

[FreyaRed]

No. Your appearance attracts specific type but often appearance of a person doesn't fit with their personality or rather common stereotypes.
Stereotypes about people with your experience attract people who fit in those stereotypes but it's not necessarily your type.

[slatyb]

Mostly true, depending on what you mean by "kind". There is no one exactly like ourselves. My belief is that people seek their equal in intelligence and emotional stability, with fitness and ambition secondary.

[LazerBean]

I think it's a little more accurate to say that in general, you attract your own kind and below. Occasionally you'll attract someone above, but typically it's equal in beneath.

[Anonymous]

No. I'd say more accurate you attract like energy. If you're a guy who keeps to yourself then you're probably not going to attract many women. Likewise if your a woman that regularly dress with your ass hanging out of your shorts you're probably going to attract unsavory men. It doesn't matter if you're a good, worthwhile man if no woman knows it. Likewise it doesn't matter if you're not as easy as your dress would suggest for a woman. People are going to take the signals you put out.

[purplepoppy]

If you want to know a person look at the type who gravitate towards them.

[HighValue]

I disagree because I have attracted many types, some that I may like, but also including the types of people I absolutely despise, they just don't know me well enough to realize it.

[Babyseal23]

I've been starting to wonder this myself as it always seem to attract odd people and im starting to wonder if im odd myself and thats why

[ProbablyClueless]

I agree in general, but it's not something I would count on. Some of the sweetest people you'll ever meet are surrounded by abusive turds.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Disagree. If that were the case I would be surrounded by autistic a-holes lol

[Nikki1989]

I agree, but I have been lucky with that.

[Hunter-40m]

Maybe there is some truth in it people have tendency to choose someone resembling hım or her in some way maybe its about something with comfort zone

[WhitneySnow]

Not always. Or at least not just your own kind.

[DryGermanGuy]

„You stay with your own people!“
- Tony Soprano

[andreasderjuengere]

Not really. The majority of girls interested in me are overweight and -erm- unsmart.

[Shiprex]

Not really. My kind is female with some attributes I share but not many

[KostasKouvalis]

For friendship I will say "YES", but for romantically, definitely not

[loveslongnails]

Sometimes you do, sometimes you attract opposites.

[Cidknee]

I'll say sometimes but not greatly except in waves.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

This is only something women can afford to agree with.

[msc545]

Think that's rather a gross generalization at best. It strikes me as being inaccurate.

[Anonymous]

If you mean race.
Answer is no.
Very much prefer Asians ( leaving out Indian or that part of Asia)

[Anonymous]

Nope, I don't attract anyone... or at least not the type of women that I like.

[Anonymous]

For sure, there is an unseen connection between souls

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I believe we're quintessentially tribal yep

[ThaCuriousGuy007]

Yes i do, i like white girls

[Mark_Est]

100% disagree. You attract based on your genes.

[exitseven]

Yes, pretty much true.

[Jen_oic]

Maybe, I’m not really sure

[TonyMetal___86]

Somewhat it's true...

[AgentG111]

Nope, doesn't quite seem like that.

[Tomislav7]

I repel I dont attract. Thankfully

[beenherebefore]

Agree.

[Eigar]

Disagree, I get on with most.

[bobalife]

Intelligence? Yes.

[sage2021]

Not really...

[Zionne]

Disagree

[jackieistired]

disagree

[sicosico]

Id say yes sometimes

[Paige2006]

Agree

[dudeinohio]

Does not compute

[theskyrider]

Not always

[Staximus]

Not always

[JustMe019]

I don't attract sh*t...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

100% agree.

[Anonymous]

Probably agree 🥲😋

[rapfan107]

Not really no