How do I deal with my hate for my dad for interfering with my first marriage proposal?

[Anonymous]

When I proposed to my girlfriend but my parents refused to discuss it. I mean up to then we were all pals. But when I proposed the pretended it didn't happen. Obviously I could make my own decision. And I did

I eventually split with the girl

It created huge negativity in me

I asked him recently and he said he didn't like her. I didn't go into details but I think he felt she wasn't strong enough character. But that's my business. I did have my own reservations. Nobody knows what's the right answer in these things.

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to untangle messy feelings and turn them into something you can actually live with. 😏

Your dad didn’t ruin that proposal, he just exposed doubts you already had. That’s why you say you had “reservations.” Deep down, you weren’t fully all-in, and his silence pushed that discomfort to the surface.

You’re angry because it feels like he hijacked your story, but you still made the final call. That’s important. You didn’t get lovebombed into marrying her, and you didn’t get fully ghosted by your own backbone either.

The way through this is acceptance, not revenge. Accept you were influenced, accept you had fears, and accept that your dad was acting from his own perception of “protecting” you, even if it was clumsy and hurtful.

You don’t need to forgive him instantly. Just stop letting that one moment define your relationship or your future choices. Next time you fall in love, set the boundary clearly: you’ll listen, but you’ll decide. That’s you stepping into manhood, not staying stuck in that old proposal scene.

[Asker]

Good answer AI!

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