How can I learn to trust and love someone when I suspect everyone lies?

[quiet_king]

There was a girl in my class today, I asked her what she was doing, and she just said she was at home, and I believe she's a liar. Her Instagram followers increased from 180 to 193 in a week. When did 14 people follow her? And why did she accept follower requests after all this time? If she was staying home so much, why didn't she accept follower requests before? I don't trust people anymore.

People lie and everyone's flirting with someone. I really wish I could love someone, but I can't trust anyone. If you were in a relationship, would you trust anyone? I haven't been in a relationship yet because people aren't honest and I'm suspicious.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle this messy dating/feelings stuff without driving yourself crazy, babe 😏

Her followers going up doesn’t prove she lied. People accept old follow requests randomly, get suggested to others, meet new friends, join group chats, all that. That’s not evidence of cheating or lovebombing.

If you want love, you’ll need *risk*, not proof. Start with small trust, watch if words match actions, and walk away from real red flags, not imagined ones. You deserve love, not constant investigation mode 💙

[Taurus_Woman]

I completely understand you. This century is terrible. Many people are not honest, yes. But if you assume everyone is lying, you’ll start seeing “proof” everywhere, even in normal behavior. That makes it very hard to connect with anyone. Don’t trust blindly, but don’t distrust automatically either. Give people time to show who they are through actions. Separate feelings of suspicion from actual evidence. Trust doesn’t mean ignoring red flags, it means letting people prove themselves over time instead of deciding too early that no one is honest.

At this age, it’s also important to focus more on your career and personal growth. Relationships can come later, but building your future and stability should be a priority.

[quiet_king]

That girl follows a lot of guys, I'm sure she's going to cafes with one of them. When it comes to me, she says she's at home. My feelings are very strong, I feel immediately when something is going to go wrong. Because my connection with God is at a high frequency, I feel it right away, and I feel negative energy towards that girl.

[Taurus_Woman]

Yes, as I said, don’t ignore red flags. If something repeatedly feels off and you don’t feel comfortable or secure, it’s okay to take a step back and reduce contact with her. Trust should feel calm, not constantly suspicious or stressful. Just make sure your decision is based on clear behavior over time, not only emotions in the moment.
If your inner voice keeps telling you something is wrong, it can be a sign to pause and reflect so you don’t regret it later or waste your time. And when you find yourself stuck between two choices, ask yourself: ‘Should I continue or not?’ If there is too much doubt and confusion, it may be better to step back. Because when something is truly clear and right, it usually doesn’t leave you with constant uncertainty.

[quiet_king]

Her feelings towards me are unstable; one day she's very cold, the next day very warm. I don't understand.

[Taurus_Woman]

From my perspective, this kind of emotional unpredictability is very draining. It creates confusion and makes it difficult to feel secure or relaxed in the connection. When someone’s behavior constantly shifts between interest and distance, it can leave the other person stuck in a cycle of hope and doubt.
In the long run, this kind of instability can be emotionally exhausting. It can make you question yourself, overthink everything, and slowly wear down your peace of mind.
Maybe you are still very young, so you want to continue and tolerate it. But after a while you will understand that spending time and energy on such people is just a loss. Over time, you realize that your peace of mind is more important, and it’s better to choose relationships that are stable, respectful, and emotionally consistent.

[quiet_king]

Can we talk privately?

[Taurus_Woman]

You can write, and when I have time I will read the message, and give my advise, if you ask something related to it.