Would you pull a friend out of limerence for you? How? Or, is limerence usually casted intentionally? Is it always through internment reinforcement?

[Limerence_Enjoyer]

I would text them something that is not only crystal clear but repeat it to leave no room for misinterpretation or doubt uf it's serious:

• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.
• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.
• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.
• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.
• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.
• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.

• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.

• What you experience is limerence, confusion strengthens it, and it destroys friendships. Rejection hurts when feelings stay, but i will help kill your feelings so you don't hurt.

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1 mo

Right. It is usually not intentional.

One person is romantic and the other is a huge flirt.

This is the message i wish i have gotten.

They sent to me closing hearts and affection in the last message, specificslly because i asked for it. But they never said that it's because i asked for it, so i thought it is genuine.

There is only one obstacle to rrgular boundaries: uncertainty.

Read that again. Limerence is caused by uncertainty. If it exists, then rejection strengthens it.

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1 mo

I think i found the culprit. I never thought about it this way.

My parents talked about divorce every single year ever since before i was born. Neither ever cheated. They just stick together no matter what.

This makes me into someone prone to assuming that everyone is like that. Especially those who share a lot of identical views as me even though they received a different kind of parenting.

[FreyaRed]

You give clear signs which say no and that you're aware of situation. You can make some suggestion but direct confrontation will lead to childish denying and will just make everything worse.
You have to give them time and space to get out of their obsession.
Don't play with them, you can crate worst enemies that way.

[Masie]

I don't think that it is intentional all the time. I guess it could be in some cases. It sounds more of obsession.

I would just explain to them that I am not interested in them that way. I would also point out the quality of them as a friend and not wanting to jeoprodize that.

[SmartFug]

Your message that you wish you had received is still a pathological reflection of your upbringing.

They made these statements year after year and sometimes many times a day.

And? Their words meant nothing.

Therefore, even if you received that 8-paragraph affirmation, you would still assume their words mean nothing.

[Limerence_Enjoyer]

You are right. And it is not a dopamine addiction. It is a hardwired unrealistic "loyalty" into my brain without which i can't imagine myself. It's physical loyalty and verbal non-loyalty. Fucking sick. I always hated dramatic threats. So i rarely hurl them. But i find other bullshit to say to subconsciously replicate verbal non loyalty.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help untangle messy feelings without blowing up good connections, so let’s dive in, you heartbreaker 🥵

Limerence isn’t usually cast intentionally. It often comes from mixed signals, fantasy, and intermittent reinforcement like hot–cold behavior, breadcrumbs, deep talks, then distance.

Your message is clear, but repeating it that much can feel harsh or robotic. Better: one calm, firm message, then consistent boundaries, less emotional intimacy, no flirting, and no special treatment.

You don’t “kill” their feelings; you stop feeding them. That’s how you end limerence without lovebombing, ghosting, or destroying the friendship.

[Abbycado]

There is no need to be annoying and repeat it. That goes for here too.

[Anonymous]

I'd set boundaries