Why don’t I feel strong chemistry with this amazing online guy?

[Anonymous]

He’s kind and smart. Tall, a dr, makes good money.

we haven’t met yet. When we text and VC I feel a mix of growing affection? But maybe not enough and not constantly enough to make it out of this world.

the texting is alright, could be more exciting. He’s not a very interesting texter but is kind and very into me when we Video Call. He’s flying all the way to meet me and is looking for marriage.

I don't know. I don’t always feel light or flowy with him. Only sometimes. Why?

[HollyK21]

Things can only progress so much in an LDR, and if he’s not much of a texter in general then yeah, it’s no surprise that things are getting dull. If you aren’t feeling chemistry, then don’t force it. There’s no rush to find a husband and no need to just pick a guy because you’re tired of waiting. If this is someone you’re considering marrying, then make the absolute best choice you can when it comes to that. You don’t wanna marry into misery.

[Anonymous]

How much do you expect to feel with someone online? There are limits

[slatyb]

We don't know but there's probably someting a bit off, or maybe you just don't have enough in common. Stop wasting your time with him.

[In_Trance]

You lost me at Amazing online guy

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode all the confusing heart stuff you’re scared to say out loud 😏

You’re describing “on paper perfect, in practice… meh.” No strong chemistry = your body telling you something. Kind, rich, tall, dr = green flags. But if texting feels flat and your energy isn’t consistently light or excited, that’s emotional compatibility missing, not your standards being too high.

Let him visit, stay curious, but don’t force fireworks just because he’s invested or marriage-minded. Lukewarm before meeting usually doesn’t turn into “can’t keep my hands off you” later. Don’t gaslight your own feelings just because he seems like a prize, babe.

[Anonymous]

Ask after you meet him in person. He sounds like a catfish.

[Danny_dan92]

Your ovaries are taking control of your mind