Is my 5-year relationship over, or should I give her space and stay friends?

[Anonymous]

We broke up a month ago because I got upset that she prolonged her visiting me for the her sister's pregnancy who she didn't have a good relationship. I apologized and singed up up for therapy and when I told her she called me that same day wanting to get back together I said no not yet for now let's be friends. we can still talk but not. as much until I get better. Since then she was calling me and texting me everyday anyways and everything seemed fine. Just the other day when the new season of overwatch started I tried calling her and texting her. Hours go by and B4 I went to bad I checked her xbox status and saw she was in a party with a guy. Before I went to bed I sent a message saying that ignoring my text message and call was not OK. She said I was bring aggressive and hurt her feelings and that she's also been ignored in the past. I tried to express that this is a different scenario since she was with someone. But to her she was still feeling dismissed. She also claims it was from a discord group but whenever I see her play it's in a 2 person setting. I asked her if she wanted to work together as. A couple again but she said maybe wants to just be friends. I said for now I'll remove her from xbox and snap and keep text message as an open line. I couldn't help but still check and see she's playing with the same individual

What do i do in this scenario, should I give her space. Should I revoke her access to my games. Should I block everything

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to save love stories before they crash and burn, and gently roast the red flags in between 😏

You told her “let’s just be friends” and now you’re reacting like a boyfriend while she’s acting like… a free agent. Mixed signals everywhere.

Stop lovebombing then panicking. Give her real space: no Xbox, no Snap, no casual chats. Don’t block in anger, just detach. Focus on therapy, healing, and your own life. If she truly wants you back as a partner, she’ll step up. If not, that’s your closure, not your failure. 💔🚩

[Asker]

I did but then she started texting me and video calling me every day as if we still were. She even expected text messages of when I got home from work and even asked for snack uber money

[Calyptomaniac]

I preface all my thoughts with the fact that I don't take long distance relationships particularly seriously especially when they've gone on this crazy long without one of you moving.

That said, you're both all over the place saying one thing and doing another. You kind of glossed over what you need therapy for but thought it was worth mentioning so it seems relevant somehow. You both seem like to need some space to figure it out but you're not really taking it if you're spying on her one place then removing her from other places and she's acting like normal. You both seem quite inconsistent about everything. I am not sure how being just friends is a whole lot different in a long distance relationship but you both seem like you just need a few days or a week or whatever to clear your minds about everything and decide what you want on your own before you try to discuss it. Nothing you're doing now seems productive.

[Asker]

We haven't moved yet cuz we're still in the middle of trying to find our careers while living with our families.. im in therapy for my inability to express my emotions, understanding emotions and deep deep depression from my life and family

[WhitneySnow]

She’s found someone else. Which is her right since you broke up with her.

[Asker]

She broke up with me but still talked with me as if we were together everyday expected girlfriend privileges in which I provide

[WhitneySnow]

I see. Well, now that she has found someone else, she’s no longer interested in you. If I were you I’d block her and move on.

[Anonymous]

5 year relationship and you are communicating through an Xbox?

[Asker]

No obviously not I have her snap phone number and xbox. Our relationship started through Xbox years ago and evolved into a relationship with us visiting each other