How do you actually cope when you feel really lonely in life?

[wkhan_87]

[sage2021]

When I was younger, there were times in my life when I felt so full of love to give, but I didn't have anyone to give it to; and yes, I felt terribly lonely and it hurt.

But as I got older I didn't feel like that anymore. I felt happy living alone and didn't feel lonely. I live alone now and I don't feel lonely.

If you are a praying 🙏🏼 man, change the desires of your prayers and be specific with what you are asking for in your prayers.

You're still young, the age I was when I was overcomed with that emptiness I felt inside. I know that feeling very well. I hear what you are saying. I get it.

I guess I didn't cope with it very well because I was very unhappy for a very long time. I just lived my life unhappy and unloved. Time is all I can say. ⏰

[wkhan_87]

Best of luck 🤞

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[blshbnz]

As someone who’s not that social I just entertain myself by hanging out with family or going to the gym. If I can talk to people online I can but I had weird experiences from that. I also like to read.

[blshbnz]

And most importantly is to pray it has helped me a lot as well.

[wkhan_87]

Why you had weird experiences from talking online

[blshbnz]

I had a few groups of friends online but we all went our separate ways, those were the good days but I came across some guys that started to become weird like asking uncomfortable questions like dude let’s just play our game and not be sexual ok? lol

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode feelings, especially the messy, lonely ones, and make them a bit less scary.

When loneliness hits hard, you survive it by creating tiny anchors: routines, hobbies, gym, reading, gaming, walks. You don’t wait for people to appear, you slowly build a life that feels good even alone.

Then, you add connection in low-pressure ways: online communities, classes, volunteering, chatting with coworkers. Not lovebombing, not chasing validation, just gentle human contact.

And you talk kindly to yourself, like you’d talk to someone you’re falling in love with. You’re not broken, just in a season. Seasons change.

[RavVid]

IRL other people cause most of your problems in life. Especially women but other men as well.

Not that long after joining GAG, I decided to take sabbatical from socializing because I got over the social politics of people I was hanging out with. So I decided to be in solitude for a year. After the year was up I decided to continue on because it was much better.

Solitude and loneliness is different. Loneliness is more not having a deep connection with some/one people/person. So it is a feeling actually caused by people around you.

You need to become good by yourself in solitude. Solitude is not lonely.

Read some stoicism and try reducing the amount of social contact outside of work. Focus on building yourself in terms of body and abilities.

That is do things that make you happy rather than seeking people that will make you happy. Happiness needs to come from within you rather than externally. Relying on other people to make you happy is a very weak fallible reed to rely on.

[Masie]

I usually make myself busy with something. That could be anything from going for a walk or other exercise to reading. Just depends on the mood I am in and well, what sort of weather is going on outside haha.

It doesn't happen often to me, but I do miss home while away at school. I usually have friends or my roommate around but somtimes do get that lonely feeling. The good news for me is I am just an hour drive away from home. I can go for a weekend anytime I want.

[wkhan_87]

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[OneViewpoint]

instead of throwing yourself a pity party that spirals down into depression, find something that will occupy your time and your mind productively. Fitness, your clothes and grooming, learn a new skill in your career field. Get out there and talk to strangers in a social setting to build social skills. Learn to cook and eat healthier. Don't just get a useless hobby. Spend your time doing things that will make you a more interesting person.

[Nikki1989]

I have never been lonely to know what it feels like. I did go two months once without a relationship, and it was hell, but for other reasons, I was never lonely.

[paytime1]

Im sure you werent in bed either. lol

[Deniz27]

Actually, people are not alone. There is an idiom in my country

People are not alone because lonely is belong to God.

[wkhan_87]

Right 👍

[lightbulb27]

talk to people , get out and do something, volunteer, workout, sleep. sometimes I pickup trash or stair at ants.

[NathanDavis]

introspection... to deal with depression

and a whole lot of distraction, as well

I was a young kid, though

[queenofcardio]

I rarely ever feel lonely since I'm always around people.

Maybe join a social group

[FunkyMonkee]

Do as I've always done, either get heavily involved with my records or have a bash on the drums.

[loveyouoak]

I usually talk to my online friend.

[wkhan_87]

Good 👍

[jahaims]

I surround myself with good people so I dont experience loneliness

[Badtobad]

I talk to people online

[BobbieBoy666]

It's a mystery.

[MrChinaski]

I don't feel that way.

[_Jenny_]

@wkhan_87 Talking to my online friends