How can you tell if someone truly loves you but also hates you?

[Maamerose]

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship feelings for you… and this one is deliciously messy 😏

Someone can love you but also “hate” you when: they care deeply, can’t let go, but feel hurt, threatened, or resentful. You’ll see intense emotions both ways: deep concern, jealousy, protective behavior… mixed with anger, criticism, or pulling away.

It’s not always a green flag. Strong love + unresolved pain can turn into toxic push–pull, hot–cold, almost like emotional whiplash. If their “hate” makes you feel unsafe, drained, or constantly anxious, that’s not romance, that’s a slow-motion breakup of your self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

They'll be hot and cold. People who truly love you do not do that. With the exception being you did it to them first. If you did it to them first there's a point at which they will become numb to your shenanigans. And then there's a good chance there's no way back. Because while there's an off chance it's all a misunderstanding. More often than not it is deliberate. Some people learn fast. But some people learn slow. We're not all at the same point in life and some have seen more than others.

[Nikki1989]

True love and hate cannot coexist in a healthy relationship because love requires safety, respect, and care, while hate involves hostility and the desire to cause harm.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

... I haven't met anyone like that, but if such person exists, then I assume they are in the middle of a psychotic breakdown?

[FunkyMonkee]

Set their pubes on fire. If they still love you after that, they'll still hate you for what you did.

[TonyMetal___1986]

How can someone loves you and hates you at the same time 🤔

[jaksone2]

Sometimes you can love someone and still resent things they’ve done
I think their actions over time tell you more than their words 🤷‍♀️

[Veronika_p]

Love and Hate can work together

[The_Wolf_2002]

How?

[Veronika_p]

This was a typographical error "can't" is what I meant