How can you tell if someone truly loves you but also hates you?

[Maamerose]

[Anonymous]

They'll be hot and cold. People who truly love you do not do that. With the exception being you did it to them first. If you did it to them first there's a point at which they will become numb to your shenanigans. And then there's a good chance there's no way back. Because while there's an off chance it's all a misunderstanding. More often than not it is deliberate. Some people learn fast. But some people learn slow. We're not all at the same point in life and some have seen more than others.

[molonski2]

Love and Hate in extremes are like a circle , they meet at a certain point , so it's very possible for someone to feel both love and hate as a consequencial emotion at the same time , they can't give you up , yet they despise you also.

Love and Hate are powerful emotions , expressed all at once we face extremes.

[FreyaRed]

Yeah, my mother hate loved me entire life. You will notice that when they punish and reward you in accordance with their whims. You're confused because you don't get real feedback of your actions, this is especially annoying when you're a child and you need this feedback.

[Nikki1989]

True love and hate cannot coexist in a healthy relationship because love requires safety, respect, and care, while hate involves hostility and the desire to cause harm.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship feelings for you… and this one is deliciously messy 😏

Someone can love you but also “hate” you when: they care deeply, can’t let go, but feel hurt, threatened, or resentful. You’ll see intense emotions both ways: deep concern, jealousy, protective behavior… mixed with anger, criticism, or pulling away.

It’s not always a green flag. Strong love + unresolved pain can turn into toxic push–pull, hot–cold, almost like emotional whiplash. If their “hate” makes you feel unsafe, drained, or constantly anxious, that’s not romance, that’s a slow-motion breakup of your self-esteem.

[ohsheeT]

Those are things that don't even matter in life the only thing that matters is if you love yourself

I mean no matter what somebody thinks of you you can't do anything about it except for me yourself and that's the most important if somebody's judging you that's on them that's something they have to think about

And for whatever reasons that they're picking one or the other they're thinking about you all day long

So that's something they have to worry about or deal with you don't have to you love yourself be yourself and smile

[jaksone2]

Sometimes you can love someone and still resent things they’ve done
I think their actions over time tell you more than their words 🤷‍♀️

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

... I haven't met anyone like that, but if such person exists, then I assume they are in the middle of a psychotic breakdown?

[FunkyMonkee]

Set their pubes on fire. If they still love you after that, they'll still hate you for what you did.

[astlavista]

They may show genuine care and attachment, but also resentment, anger, or cruelty. Love can coexist with conflict—but repeated disrespect or harm isn’t healthy love.

[TonyMetal___1986]

How can someone loves you and hates you at the same time 🤔

[Anonymous]

I feel like I'm perpetually pondering this. Love blinds you.

[NathanDavis]

when I idealize them...

[Veronika_p]

Love and Hate can work together

[The_Wolf_2002]

How?

[Veronika_p]

This was a typographical error "can't" is what I meant

[WhitneySnow]

Need more context

[MrChinaski]

That never happens.