Am I wrong for not caring what happens with my friend’s affair?

[Anonymous]

But she’s un happily married so I can’t really tell her much bc her excuse is she isn’t happy in marriage but this guy been liking her attention lately and she likes his and he been giving her little treats and talking to her for hours and she doesn’t deny it was even bragging me how his so consistent and always checks up on her I already told her few times that usually man want one thing but you’re grown woman and you know better am I being wrong or overthinking bc sometimes she says I overthink

[RavVid]

You are not overthinking at all.

It is exactly as you think. Your friend most likely likes chaos and finds that exciting and has got bored with the settled routine life of a marriage.

Hopefully she doesn't have children because - if she does - we should all feel sorry for them. It is a bit like Lindsay Clancy offing her kids because she was bored with being a mom & wife.

It is not as if you can change her into valuing stability over chaos

[Asker]

She got two toddlers

[RavVid]

So she is disposed to cause damage to them to satisfy her own immature needs for chaotic excitement. Nice.

One of the nasty aspects of cheating is the cheater draws in friends to be collaborators.

You might be best off declining to participate in it by listening to the stories and match play. I think it is wrong to involve others in cheating.

[Asker]

Yea I commented on her fair how nice it was she goes yea that guy I’m talking about asked if it’s for him

[Asker]

Hair ***

[RavVid]

Hope her husband didn't have to pay for her to be attractive to him :(

[Asker]

Lol what

[RavVid]

I meant I hope the husband wasn't paying for her to attractive to this other guy. My phrasing was off.

[RedInnocent69]

Well, she is your friend… you should care about her, even if it means helping her work through whatever she’s involved in

[Asker]

She don’t listen to me says I overthink

[RedInnocent69]

Have you been trying to give her advice?

[Asker]

Yes I told her that this guy I’m talking about either A wants to get into you’re pants B just really looking for friendship or C something else he got planned

[RedInnocent69]

If they’re having an affair, sounds like they’re both successful getting into each other’s pants

[Asker]

Yeaa but was I wrong to say my advice bc she replied back all defensive saying ohh after all it’s my choice at the end right

[RedInnocent69]

No, but not surprised she’d be defensive about advice she didn’t wanna hear

[Asker]

I mean was I wrong what I said? Was that to much

[Asker]

Bc she said they went running and he grabbed her by the waist I was like did you’re sister see bc she was there she said both of you are overthinkers

[RedInnocent69]

Is she worried her sister will snitch too?

[RedInnocent69]

Does her sister want her husband because that would be really interesting

[Asker]

No she doesn’t but her sister and her do everything together

[Nikki1989]

You don't have to care, and you can also keep it out of your business.

[Asker]

Just feels like I’m not being a friend I should be and it makes me care less about friendship

[Anonymous]

No, that is normal if you don’t agree with her decisions

[Asker]

I cared now I don’t

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you untangle messy heart stuff without sugarcoating it, babe 😏

You’re not wrong at all. You’re observing the red flags clearly. She’s lovebombing this attention and low‑key romanticizing cheating instead of fixing or leaving her marriage. You already warned her, so your job is done. Protect your peace, don’t enable, don’t judge. Let her live her choices, but don’t carry her karma.

[AviatorTom]

Why would that be wrong? She's the one that's having an affair. It's not your decision, it's hers, and she can do whatever she wants with her life, both good and bad.

[Asker]

But she’s my friend…….

[RavVid]

There is an old saying. "Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas".

I don't want to be co-opted into tacitly supporting something I regard as immoral. And the Asker is being co-opted here and in future might be asked to provide alibi. I take the attitude I will not participate in deceit.

Up to everybody else what they do of course.

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Sometimes you just gotta let em walk off the cliff

[Asker]

Right

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Fuck that... save everybody

[Staximus]

She should get divorced instead of being a trollop

[Asker]

Thanks

[MasterKS]

you doing actually right!

[Asker]

Really tbh at first I cared you know like she’s my closest friend but at this point the fact that she gets defensive I’m like screw it

[MasterKS]

It’s her responsibility whatever happens. Isn’t it?

[Pterodon]

Then why doesn’t she divorce?

[Asker]

Makes good money the man

[Pterodon]

So she stays for the money? It’s obviously not making her happy

[Asker]

Yes but his financialy stable and she needs that part too

[Pterodon]

No she doesn’t she can make it on her own unless she’s just a gold digger

[Asker]

But the two kids she has

[Pterodon]

Look young one. I come from a divorced family. Kids know when there’s tension and parents aren’t happy. Kids want to see their parents happy. I apologized to my son about he and his mother’s divorce and he said he wished it had ended sooner. Kids will survive

[jahaims]

You're trash if you are friends with trash