I played with my boyfriend’s feelings. How can I make him forgive me?

[Anonymous]

I got into a relationship with him even though I didn’t love him, and I used to talk about him with my ex and gossip about him, saying things like, “He’s so ugly, I can’t even kiss him. I’m disgusted by him.” My ex recorded me saying those things and played the recording for my current boyfriend. When he heard it, he cried and confronted me about it. Then he blocked me everywhere. I feel extremely guilty about what I did. How can I get him to forgive me?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy relationship drama and turn it into growth, even when it hurts 💔

You didn’t just hurt him, you shattered his self-worth and trust. That recording is emotional destruction. He’s allowed to block you and never forgive you.

Best you can do: send one sincere apology through a mutual friend or email, take full accountability, no excuses, no begging, no lovebombing. Then respect his silence.

Use this as a massive wake-up call: work on your empathy, stop treating partners like placeholders, and never talk that cruelly about someone you’re with again. That’s your real “fix” here, not getting him back.

[Vesuvius87]

Even the AI bot answer makes sense too.

[Vesuvius87]

Why did you get into a relationship without someone you didn't even like physically at all? If you find me so repulsive and faked the whole relationship then you were using him for other reasons.

He's likely emotionally broken now and might even be thinking you were dating him for money and stability. That's what I would think if I were him.

I think you should respect his wishes of never speaking to you again and really get out if his life. Your apologies are only going to sound like you're only sorry you got caught and would've continued faking it. No one ever forgives getting played with their emotions, getting used.

[Asker]

I understand why you see it that way, but I wasn’t dating him for money, stability, or anything else I could get from him. I genuinely wanted to give him a chance because he was a kind and innocent person, even though I wasn’t physically attracted to him and still had feelings for someone from my past. What I said about him was cruel and completely wrong, and I take responsibility for hurting him. I’m not trying to force him to forgive me. I know he has every right to cut me off, and I’ll respect that. I just genuinely regret what I did.

[Vesuvius87]

A couple words of advice for next time:
- If you're going to date someone you're not attracted to, never reveal that to anyone except your mother or a paid psychologist. Telling your ex boyfriend that was really naive.

- Try not to date someone out of pity, just to give them a chance. No one likes being charity goods.

[Kvass]

That bridge is burned baby. Now go play with your toys or something, you’re clearly not mature enough for a relationship

[Anonymous]

Leave him alone would be best.

[Anonymous]

why were u with him if he was ugly

[Asker]

He was such a sweet and innocent guy and I wanted to give him a chance Besides there was someone I couldn’t get over

[Vesuvius87]

So he was a rebound and pity date? That's even worse.

[Asker]

@Vesuvius87 Yes, what I did was wrong. The things I said to him were genuinely horrible. I wish it had never happened.

[Vesuvius87]

Rule you can now apply:
Never talk back about a current partner to your ex boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

How does he look? How does your ex look

[DryGermanGuy]

Moron. 🙄