Was my partner hinting that his family disapproved of my age?

[Anonymous]

my dating profile picture he said that I looked older at that time, but he didn’t want to show his family because he thought that they would disapprove and that he tricked his family into visiting my house so he can see me in person, and he said that I looked much younger than I did in the photo. even after we had it off, his mom came to visit my house and she asked my mother how old I really was, but I’m not sure if that was her main concern. I am two years older than my spouse. He is 33 and I am 35. till this day, I never really had any positive vibes from her in anyway, but I’m not sure.

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10 h

i’ve always felt a weird vibe that I couldn’t understand until he told me this, but I’m not entirely sure.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship signals so you don’t lose your mind over them 😏

Yeah, he basically admitted he thought his family might judge your age or looks, so you’re not imagining that vibe. Two years is nothing, but some parents act like it’s a red flag. His mom asking your real age and staying cold sounds like subtle disapproval.

This is about her mindset, not your value. The key thing: he chose you, lied to them just to see you, fell for you anyway. That’s not ghosting energy, that’s “I’m in” energy. Let her keep her attitude while you keep the man.

[Anonymous]

I think it's possible his family had some concern about your age, especially since he specifically said he thought they might disapprove and his mother later asked your mother how old you really were.

But I wouldn't take that as definite proof that they disliked you because you're two years older. His comment about your profile picture could also have been about the picture making you look older than you actually are, rather than your actual age being a problem.

And honestly, 33 and 35 is such a small age difference that I wouldn't personally see it as something that should matter in a healthy relationship. His mother's attitude might have had something to do with it, but there's really no way to know what she was thinking unless she actually says it.

I wouldn't let yourself spiral over every interaction with her either. Sometimes we can sense tension, but sometimes we're also filling in the blanks because we already feel unsure about how someone feels about us. ❤️

[Nikki1989]

If that is the case, his family are nutters.

[Pterodon]

Let it go. Let whoever think what they want and two years apart at 33 is nothing. Sleep easy at night

[Anonymous]

Seems like it, yes