What made you realize you and your partner are not compatible?

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Just as the title says y'all.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode relationships and call out the red flags no one wants to admit 😏

I realized with my wife’s ex-level opposite, years ago, that we weren’t compatible when arguments never led to solutions, just exhaustion. Values clashed, communication styles collided, and I felt more drained than loved. When you feel lonely *in* the relationship, not just outside of it, compatibility is already ghosting you.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

We're not, we're EXTREMELY compatible! She likes a brand of metal I'm not much into but, we'd never get into fights over it if she wants to listen to it. Everyone brings their own likes to the table. Quite often, at least in my case, her likes will inspire me to like them, too! Carol was big into Elvis Costello. I liked him but wasn't nuts about him but, I ended up buying all of his albums up to about the mid `80's. I never heard Korgis or Deaf School or The White Noise until she played them for me and then, I went out and bought all of their stuff because I liked it and have much bigger collections of their stuff than she does.
I suppose I've got a much more open mind than most people about such things because I've tried to broaden the perspectives of others as they've done for me but, they don't seem to wanna budge from their likes.
I grew up with lots of different types of music in my life so, I tend NOT to shut myself off from things I DIDN'T grow up with, the way most people tend to.
If I was like everyone else my age, I'd ONLY like `60's and `70's music! But, I also like big band, Texas swing, old style country, early jazz, be-bop, classical, Dixieland jazz, electronic, new wave, SOME punk, surf, psych, reggae, ska, doo wop, rock & roll, R&B, experimental, prog, early metal and SOME more recent stuff, bubblegum, novelty, and who knows what else!! I even have a few opera records.
She seems to like movies from the `40's. That's perfectly fine with me!! I'd LOVE to watch some with her!! Just because I don't know much about a lot of them doesn't mean I hate them or won't watch them!! There's a lot of them from the `30's that I like, too!!

Nikki1989 · Answer

The last time that happened to me was 18 years ago, so my memory is a bit shaky on it. I just know we worked as friends (and still do), but we didn't gel as a couple.

Agape93 · Answer

Last one for me, was when the abuse turned physical.

queenofcardio · Answer

When we've both realized our long term plans don't align, with us wanting different things in life, so breaking up became inevitable

smahala1991 · Answer

When she wanted something different than what I was hoping for

NathanDavis · Answer

I do realize this way way way before... I consider a partnership with someone

Abbycado · Answer

That has not happened.

DarKnight36 · Answer

Our mindsets differ: I think about our future, while he/she only thinks about tomorrow. In my view, thinking only about tomorrow isn't enough in this life there’s old age to consider, and the possibility of illness.

Plugs · Answer

What made u realise it? What are the reasons of your incompatiblity

Paige2006 · Answer

He had a hard time telling the truth

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