My boyfriend left the house in the middle of the night and didn't bother telling me

[Anonymous]

Is this wrong? My boyfriend went out with his nephew in the middle of the night with out telling me anything. When I woke up he was gone. When I called he didn't pick up, I ended up calling his nephew and they went to the casino. I am not mad he went to the casino and spent time with his nephew, what I am upset about is that he walked out in the middle of night and didn't say anything to me. When I woke up and seen he wasn't there it worried me and I felt like that was disrespect toward me. Am I wrong for this, is this acceptable behavior for people to be doing? Really aggrevated

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I did not mind that he went and he knew I wouldn't. I mentioned that in my question. This wasn't a matter of me disapproving because he knew would, this was a matter of him being pissed off at me. In the past, he has always waken me up if I feel asleep to tell me he was going to the store or what ever. I am not trying to be his mother

[timetowaste]

Maybe he didn't want to wake you. I'm all for respect in a relationship and what not, but as for me in my relationship, I wouldn't really mind if my Boyfriend took his nephew out in the middle of the night... I'm not his mom, he can leave when he wants.. especially if all I'm doing is sleeping. If he were out doing questionable things with a story that couldn't be verified it would be a different story. If you feel like this is a sign of disrespect in your relationship, then ask him if next time he could not worry about waking you and let you know that he's leaving so you know and don't wake up assuming he's been kidnapped :P

[Anonymous]

Let him know that you were worried, that if you had done that he would feel the same way. Also, you felt disrespected and you should. But remember if he does it now, he'll do it again and you'll only continue to feel worse. So let him know that you guys need to have open communication.

[desidoll]

Its a wrong thing obviously.How can he did that.He should tell you first or at least if he didnt,he should pick your calls.Thats so direspect of him.He probably think that you won't allow him to go that's why he didn't tell you about it.What if something happened,like emergancy?

[Pedantic]

It isn't acceptable. It is remotely, and I mean "very remotely" - understandable if he thought you were going to disapprove, or out of some bizarre since of chivalry didn't wish to wake or disturb his sleeping princess.

Communicate to him you would rather be woken and told and you won't disapprove. If he does it again after receiving such a communication from you, then he's got a serious problem.

[Pedantic]

After your update of the question:

I think it is wrong for him to do this kind of thing in retaliation to anger. In relationships in general, retaliation can lead to more retaliation, and it can get to be quite a pretty circle in the end. It obviously has to stop somewhere or it explodes.

I think you know what you have to do.

As a rule of thumb, pretty much anything done in anger isn't or won't be appropriate :)

[martyfellow]

Maybe he just wanted to let you sleep! Or didj't want to hear nagging about why he was going to go to the casino with his nephew...

[martyfellow]

Best answer, no?