I feel your pain;; It must be worse that you're in love with him without your permission. I've, too, met someone and fall hard for him-- too fast too soon. We're both committed with someone else. When we're in the same room if we didn't talk, we communicated just by staring and got lost in each other eyes. The attraction was always there; I don't think I'd ever attracted strongly to any man like that before or will again. As you described "like 2 magets attract each other" and unfortuately there's little you could do. Whatever you intend to do just remember few things:
1. Don't cheapen yourself for his sake, know your worth, DONT LOSE yourself for any man
2. Don't Compromise yourself, accepting the reality that he's already committed to someone else and he's not planing to leave her for you - YET. If he does, rest assured he'll do same to you
3 Be good to yourself. There is someone else out there better for you
I know you have loved him and always will.. My advise is to distant yourself as possibly as you can. I know it's hard ... Gradually you will miss or yarn for him less, and love him with less intensity. In the meantime, don't stop living your life just becasue you have this unwanted setback. Go out and have fun even if your heart aches for him. Good luck
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You know he's committed and need to assume that it won't change reguardless of what you do. Now, do you want to keep going? I think that is what a person has to determine as an individual. Forget what others think, just what you want. That's the thing that matters when all is said and done. I would caution you that should you get in a situation to take the relationship farther (sexual) you need to also look at it as if it's worth losing your guy or you feelings getting hurt and/or both. Don't know what he defines committed as...but my opinion is: for his future possible respect, should you want to hold out, and hope the opportunity someday presents itself to find the two of you in a relationship, your going to have to wait it out and conserve your outward or spoken feeling for now...to have a real chance later (if that ever happens at all).
I know there's still not an answer here however, no one can sort anothers feelings...so your going to have to find the answers inside yourself.
Remember, short term rewards seldom have long term return, Long term investments more often than not hold future rewards. Tough situation when attraction is obvious...! ! !
Wish you the best.
So you told him you liked him, he said no, and stopped communication.
But then, when you see each other, there is still the spark.
Looks to me you're a plan B to him, or a way to escape his daily routine using the mind connection routes.
Anyway, there is very little to no chance anything will happen, physically.
Next time you see him, refuse the eye contact. Just talk on a strictly professional level. Take you distances.
If he really likes you, he will work harder. If he doesn't like you, it will help you to move on.
If it happened to me (turning down a woman), I would certainly not torture her like he does with you.
Don't be his toy any longer !
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