sorry to say, but when he says he is using someone, what the hell makes you think he won't use you? Red flags go off when I hear sh*t like that. I'm very keen and observing of other people in words and actions. When he says sh*t that says "don't date me I cheat,use,and abuse other people" what did you expect, a 1st class boyfriend or were you getting your hopes up?
You gave away your vcard. well, that sucks. At least you lost it to some dude you thought was cute. I guess that counts for something to you as that is the only thing you seemed to care about. I really don't know what you want, if it is sympathy, or empathy, I don't have any. You were warned. You blinded yourself from reality. You were warned, and he said pretty bluntly that he used someone else. I don't know what you needed more to say "no". In fact, it seems you should have waited 3-5 months before giving it up if you HAD to. I'm guessing this was within a month or two.. which makes you easy peasy for players. Staying in contact is pointless and naive. He doesn't give a sh*t. You're just back up in case he doesn't get any. I see this happen all the time. Just cut contact, move on. Knowing you gave your vcard up, you're only going to be more attached after the first time. That is why many church goers tell women not to. but no one listens. Although I hate the church and their bullsh*t, they got one thing right.
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Unfortunately you still share the same workplace with this guy so as Mark said maintain as little contact with this guy as possible. On a side note you should try to avoid dating in the workplace period. This situation of having to be around him after his mistreatment of you is an end result of dating in the workplace. Most employers don't condone it anyway. If you meet another guy at work, keep in mind that eventually one of you should seek employment elsewhere. Keep your head up girl.
Just don't have anything to do with him. you liked him, you wanted to be with him. It didn't work out.
better to find this out sooner rather than later.
when you have sex with someone you care about, you can count that as your fist time. if sex is special to you, then he didn't count. just for get about this guy.
theres no confusion, no miscommunication, no geographical constraints.
it didn't work, & he's not interested in being with you.
its one of these situations, where you just have to tell yourself to move on.
people can be charismatic & gave lots f sex & not be a**holes. I'm not sure how much you guys communicate with each other about what was going on but just having sex wasn't a big deal.. but clearly, he's not interested in a relationship. you are. so you should move on.
i don't see how he used you. you both said you like each other. & then proceeded to have sex. A LOT of people do that. if you didn't have an agreement to be in a relationship, he did nothing wrong.
next time, discuss . don't assume.
Im so sorry this happened to you :( something similar happened ro me with a guy who had the same name.. Interesting. Just go into work as usual and don't act upset. Look like the confident and strong woman you are!
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Business as usual!
You cannot avoid him.
So just conduct yourself as you did in the past. Maintain distance from him!You barely knew him. I feel for you, but I'm sorry sweetheart, you need to protect yourself better than that. He must have been one charming son of a bitch if you let him take your virginity.
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