My girlfriend (22) and I (24) have been dating for just over two months, before that there was about 6 months of courting. We are in a long distance relationship (LDR) - sadly we found each other a little late. She moved to another city after high school for her studies, about 1426 km (886 miles) away.
After talking on the phone everyday for 6 months, I decided to fly to her and take her out on a date. I ended up staying 10 days. We made it official after the first date. We spent a lot of time in bed together, naked and were very intimate with each other. I didn’t expect sex or even being in the same bed as her when I flew up there. She is a virgin and I’m her second boyfriend (I’m not a virgin).
Now, we’ve been apart for about 45 days and we discuss sex a lot over the phone. Even have phone sex occasionally. She says how she wants to me to be her first, but then she says she wants to wait till we’re in the same city. Now, due to work I can’t move to her city (I would if I could). But I feel like she’s holding sex hostage.
I’m trying to be supportive and quell fears. I truly love her. But I grew up in a sexless and loveless home, so I’m not too keen on repeating my parent’s relationship. So what should I do?
She’s coming to my city (her hometown) on the 21st December, and then leaves at the beginning of January. I won’t see her for another 50 days after that. Do I wait another two months to bring up the subject? Do I wait it out until we are in the same city (most likely 2015)? How do I make her feel comfortable enough?
It really does hurt feeling like a failure. I can’t seem to make her secure enough.
After talking on the phone everyday for 6 months, I decided to fly to her and take her out on a date. I ended up staying 10 days. We made it official after the first date. We spent a lot of time in bed together, naked and were very intimate with each other. I didn’t expect sex or even being in the same bed as her when I flew up there. She is a virgin and I’m her second boyfriend (I’m not a virgin).
Now, we’ve been apart for about 45 days and we discuss sex a lot over the phone. Even have phone sex occasionally. She says how she wants to me to be her first, but then she says she wants to wait till we’re in the same city. Now, due to work I can’t move to her city (I would if I could). But I feel like she’s holding sex hostage.
I’m trying to be supportive and quell fears. I truly love her. But I grew up in a sexless and loveless home, so I’m not too keen on repeating my parent’s relationship. So what should I do?
She’s coming to my city (her hometown) on the 21st December, and then leaves at the beginning of January. I won’t see her for another 50 days after that. Do I wait another two months to bring up the subject? Do I wait it out until we are in the same city (most likely 2015)? How do I make her feel comfortable enough?
It really does hurt feeling like a failure. I can’t seem to make her secure enough.
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