How to handle scumbag in-laws

[Anonymous]

I have a dilemma. My wife has a very disfunctional family. Her mother took off when she was two never to be seen from again, and her father has been in and out of her life for her 30 years. She was raised by her fathers parents and his sister. Her grandfather passed twelve years ago. Her grandmother and her aunts are real scumbags. They have no morals, live like trash, and try to be very controlling. Her family has caused us a lot of trouble with our relationship, to the point we separated and one of her aunts hooked my wife up with one of her friends. The split was due to us arguing over money spent on her family, and lies about each of us cheating on each other. Her aunt and grandmother also lied to me when she was pregnant with my oldest and tried to convince my wife to hide the pregnancy from me. She hasn't had any contact with them in over three years, but saw them at a funeral. Now she wants to re establish a relationship with them. I really don't want to keep her from her family, however I want nothing to do with them. As well, we have had no fights and have had a very good relationship without interference from them. Lastly, I don't want my children exposed to their lifestyle. How do I handle this?

[kady83]

In-laws can definitely have a negative influence on a marriage. I've learned that is very important to pay attention to the relationship a potential partner has with his family. My former mother-in-law was very controlling. She tried to run our marriage and my ex allowed it. I'm sorry your in this situation and I understand that you don't want your children exposed to the drama that might occur. Explain your point of view. Be honest and receptive of her feelings. Go from there.