Should I give my boyfriend a hall pass?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend's girl friend is depressed that she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's says that she's gonna live with her parents till they die. But then she says she doesn't want a boyfriend.

So my boyfriend said to make her feel better. He should have sex with her. As a friend's with benefits kind of thing.

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+1 y

Or one will be his girlfriend and the other his wife. I'll be his wife. He told me he just wants to spread his love around.

[whattothink]

Yes that makes perfect sense. Really are you kidding me he just wants to screw other people with your permission. So if you are down with an open relationship by all means go ahead, but if you do it this once (which would be stupid) why would he not ask again and again?

[Asker]

His mom is Muslim and her husband has several other wives. So that's why he thinks it's OK. So I'm fine with an open relationship. But I trust she won't do anything with him.

[whattothink]

So what if he leaves you for her?

[Asker]

Oh well then.

[whattothink]

So you are willing to risk losing your boyfriend for him to have sex with another girl. Seems like you aren't that into the relationship so why not break up so he can do his thing?

[bdeakol]

Wow I love this. His dad has 3 other wives so he thinks okay to cheat. Wtf is this?

[Asker]

He wants us both.

[Asker]

The guy lives in another country and the mom lives here in the USA. He's my boyfriend's step dad.

[Anonymous]

Don't listen to the strangers here. Do what you want. You guys aren't married, so do what you want. It's your life. Don't be told it's not right. It's better to try it then to keep wondering.

[Asker]

You're right. It is my life and I'm gonna do what I feel is right.

[laceyz565]

I hope your joking because if you're not your fucking stupid for even considering this.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm not really believing this.

[tyrantfuryre]

IF you are all in to that kind of thing and he lets you do it. I don't agree with it by any means but if ya'll are cool with it...

Not my kind of relationship desire.

[lkjhg69cum]

I'd love to "comfort" you. What's good enough for him is good enough for you right?

[nametag]

As old a scenario as dating. Avoid this mess, it will never turn out OK. Getting laid doesn't make you feel better about yourself, especially by someone else's boyfriend as a pitf*ck. Being valued and cared about makes you feel like you matter, this is not the same thing.

[AllisonD]

Yeah he ended up breaking up with me and also losing a best friend too. So it didn't work out. :(

[JamielovesKU]

Sounds kinda weird to me. What if he get attached to her, then what would you do?

[Asker]

He wants both of us.

[JamielovesKU]

Thats not good :(

[AllisonD]

Well she never got attached to her. So it didn't happen.

[JamielovesKU]

Ok, well, just be careful cause you never know with some people.

[bombdotcom]

I think you should break up with him. Whether you give it to him or not, he's gonna do it

[AllisonD]

He never ended up doing it.

[jmowen]

You're just asking for trouble if you do this. Don't do it.

[Asker]

Yeah OK like I'm gonna listen to you.

[jmowen]

You asked us if we should let your boyfriend get a hall pass. I stated my thoughts on it which was that I think it's a bad idea. To be honest, you sound very immature for a 30+ year old. And it sounds like you don't love your 'boyfriend' all that much. If you really loved and cared about him, you wouldn't let him sleep with some other woman because she was feeling down. Love is supposed to be between two people, not three. There's no having a wife AND a girlfriend. That is just unhealthy.

[Asker]

This is both our first relationship. So we don't know how it really goes. I have a learning disability. So maybe that's why I act immature.

[timewarper]

Does your boyfriend have two gfs?

[Asker]

I'm his real girlfriend and he has a friend that's a girl.

[timewarper]

are you okay with an open relationship with him

[Asker]

Yeah. I found an article about a woman who has a boyfriend and a husband. So it can work out.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You could have just a little more self esteem.

[Asker]

That doesn't have anything to do with it. The idea of it kinda turns me on.

[PANDAmonium]

I would start looking at your relationship with your boyfriend a little more closely if I were you.

[Asker]

Nah it's all good.