I doubt he’ll say yes but I want him too. I’m pretty sure he won’t leave me if I ask either. We’re going to the movies tonight and I’m gonna ask him. I just wanna say it the right way
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I asked him… I’ll never forget the look he gave me when he heard the words “I want to sleep with another man” he made me repeat it like 3 times. My space is limited and I’m tired so Long story short… he said yes.. if it would make me happy. I told him it would and have him a hug and a kiss. He seems happy for a second to hold me but that look fell off his face when he looked me in the eyes. I just told him I loved him and nothing can change that. We’ll see how this goes.
How should I ask my live in Boyfriend of 5 years for a hall pass?
Personally I think it’s a bad idea. There is also a relevant question to me which is do you have a particular man in mind you wish to have sex or is this some open ended hall pass for you to have sex with whomever you want, whenever you want? If there is a specific man then the natural question is how long has he been in your life and does that constitute an outright affair and now a “hall pass” is being asked for to justify it?
If your into swinging, then find some one who is. If he is not then he is doing it in fear of not being with you, any relationship based on fear and is volatile, usually taking advantage of one party. Here lies why you use your pussy for evil, you couldnt even tell him he could have one too. Your enjoying watching this guy lose any bit of masculinity he may have by your hands aren't you.
He is right though. Even with permission, you are putting your relationship in danger. Back out of this and give your boyfriend a hall pass or ask him to bring a girl home. Tell him you don't want to be with another guy unless he has someone also, and then only once you are sure he is comfortable about it and won't feel hurt or humiliated. This isn't really a manipulative angle. He almost certainly WILL be hurt or humiliated unless he is actively turned on or otherwise excited for it.
My guess is that the moment you get naked, spread your legs open and let another guy fuck you it will be over with you and the boyfriend. If you've been with this guy for 5 years and love him there is no way you would ever want to fuck anyone else. If the sex with your boyfriend doesn't trip your trigger any longer maybe a permanent separation would be the proper thing to do.
I don't think you should ask that. That could really hurt his feelings. Unless you really know he's neutral about it I don't think you should ask. If you have to ask, then you should say it indirectly.
In life there are a lot of things that we want and can't or shouldn't have. A healthy couple shouldn't be sharing their bodies with others. I understand you may want it. You may even crave it but, too late. You should have filled that desire before you were this committed. Keep it as a fantasy for when you masturbate. Go back to your boyfriend and make things right with him before he gets his thoughts straight and leaves.
Then just lead with that. You've been together for 5 years and that you trust him to be with others and still love you and if he would be the same with you.
Most people won't be into it but if you do it right and have that level of trust, then it can work. Dont be surprised or get upset if he gets angry and feels betrayed though.
There's no easy way of breaking the ice cause the pain will sting the same, you should know that, just like any other form of bad news, who knows, maybe he will like the idea lol
It's gonna destroy him and I'm speaking from experience. My boyfriend asked me for a hall pass pretty much when we first got together. And I told him yes, because it would make him happy.
It was always on my mind. And we fought about it constantly. It made me feel worthless and less loved... He said it was to experiment but I'm right here I can do that... I felt disgusting it was a. cause to ruin our relationship...
i was with a great guy, but even with viagra, he was leaving me Wanting More.
We agreed i could have a friends with benefits, but i dont tell him.
i dont come home prego, smelling of sex, tobacco, or Pudding in my hoohaa.
And my friends with benefits does not know where i live or my situation, other than i have a boyfriend that is leaving me Wanting.
it worked well, i made sure i always showered before i came home, and I NEVER talked about it.
While my boyfriend did not like it, i told him at the rate we were going, i was going to kill him with a heart attack OR i would start resenting the fact i needed more sex than he could give.
Sounds very familiar. But I feel I should let him know that I need this. Maybe he’ll leave maybe he won’t. I’m about to find out cuz I can’t wait much longer than I already have been…. pudding on your hooha 😂
Holy cow a whole foot? I don’t even think I could fit that in me!😫 I do in fact already have someone in mind. I’ve been wanting to message him but he’s on OF so I’m not sure how to. Either way I have to wait and see what my man says.
If he's not into seeing other girls, you just basically told him he is no longer the guy you really want anymore. Sounds like you just stuck a knife in his heart and you don't do that to somebody you love.
Would u feel happy if ur guy slept with another lady with ur consent and be happy about it? Its weird to see how society has become. I pity ur guy just because of ur happyness how much mental trauma he has to go through and look as if he is fine.
Your right I’m horrible. Thank your for showing me the light. I won’t be having sex with someone who isn’t my boyfriend anymore all because you said that. Thank you so much.
it is not hypocrisy. I would never cheat on my SO and I would expect no less from her. I really think you are asking this question to get a rise out of people and would never do this in real life.
🤣That’s not why your a hypocrite but you probably would cheat on your wife if you were given the option. Lucky for her it’s unlikely to present itself.
@Thot_Stomper I suppose I should apologize for being so angry about this. It is just the most painful thing that I can imagine and it just triggered a very negative response. I do not know how I could ever come back from something like this just knowing that I am not enough and you want something else that I somehow cannot give you to make you happy.
Wow An apology.. can’t say I’ve even seen anything. Close to those hear. I understand that. But it all honesty I think he’s slightly turned on by the idea
Do you feel like you love this guy? I can sort of under if he’s not sexual or there’s other problems there but if there aren’t you may be better trying to find a new boyfriend who satisfies you in every way? Clearly this is important to you
Per the update: Basically what you told him is you love him, but he’s not enough for you. That look he had was his mind mentally processing and rethinking everything he’s ever done trying to figure out where he messed up and what his options are now. I’ve seen this story play out again and again.
He probably won’t say much, but if and when he finds someone else he will choose them over you.
