My boyfriend completely blew me off for his friends...?

[Fashionista14]

So yesterday I was working in the morning so I thought we'd spend some time in the afternoon... After work I called him and he told me he was with the guys in the bar.. So I said ok, we'll just hang out later... I called him a few hours later and he told me he's at his friends and they're playing video games and that we'll get together in the evening and go to his house... so it was getting pretty late and still there was no call so I was getting a little pissed... I called him and he told me they were still playing and that he would call me... at this point I was a little bit angry cuz he promised me we'd hang out... So I asked him if I can come to join them he told me there are already too many and there is no room for me. At midnight I went for a ride and saw another friend of my boyfriends picking up his girlfriend and taking her to the place they we're playing games... At that point my boyfriend refused to answer his phone and told me to go home, that I wasn't invited and that he isn't coming home soon... I'm just so pissed cuz he always does that to me... and also I just got him the PS3 for his birthday so we could hang out more and he just plays it with his friends and blows me off... what the hell?

[Arwens-Fire]

You bought him a PS3? Girl that's YOUR fault! You practically rewarded him for treating you like $#it! You shouldn't have to buy him a system so he will hang out with you. Secondly, why are you surprised that he is blowing you off? He is blowing you off yet AGAIN because you continue to allow him to disrespect you... THAT'S WHY. People are only allowed to treat you the way you allow them to treat you. The answer to this question or dilemma is... YOU. Good luck.

[Fashionista14]

I mean we've been spending time playing it but it pisses me off that he always has an excuse... So what I have to do the same to him or what? I just don't know what to do anymore

[Arwens-Fire]

Girly, I'm going to be real here. You have a shitty boyfriend and you're in denial about it. How effed up is it to buy someone a gaming system mainly so you can spend more time with them? Do you see how warped that is? Clearly your boyfriend cares more about game than YOU. If you had more respect for yourself, then you wouldn't allow this. You dont know what to do because you can't even be honest with yourself about the situation. As soon as you are honest with yourself about what's happening, then you will find a solution.

[IAnswerStuff]

Apart from that guy having a girls profile I agree with everything apart from what's implied. Dont go anal and freak out, have a formal conversation with him, be extremely stern and say "so-and-so, your face still smells like shit from having your head so far up your ass lately, I beg of you to slow your fucking roll before I bitch slap you into another dimension". Easy.

[Fashionista14]

So what to do that I show him I don't allow this behaviour? That's my question?

[Arwens-Fire]

@Ianswerstuff

My profile pic is of a famous actor... ejo recent passed away.

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#getaclue

[Arwens-Fire]

"who recently"

[Arwens-Fire]

And QA, I disagree with this guy commenting under my response. I guarantee if you stay with this guy, he will not change. Look at his track record... enough said.

[stephx]

If he's always been this way, dump him because he's an asshole that doesn't appreciate you. if he wasn't like this before and recently started acting this way, dump him he's an asshole with changed feelings that doesn't appreciate you. there's no excuse for his behavior. Yea maybe he needed his time with the boys... but if he needs his time with the boys more often than time with you, he is not someone you want to spend your time and money on.

[MaskedSanity]

Arwens-Fire is right in the fact that you have a shitty boyfriend, but saying it's your fault is absurd. That's how battered wives became a thing.

He's a shit boyfriend and it's HIS fault for being such. Yes, you shouldn't allow him to treat you like this, however victim blaming isn't the way to go.

You sound too good for him. If he does stuff like this all the time, then you might as well take the PS3 back and dump his sorry arse.